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Ok, I realize this is totally not vet med related, but this is the only forum I frequent, so I figured no one would mind me starting a random thread.
What is it with people judging every new potential romantic relationship based off of the "sparks" they feel when they first meet someone. Whether it's in the first 5 minutes or for the first several hours. I love to read Date Lab in the Washington Post, and I can't tell you how many times people seem to say, "s/he is sweet, smart, funny, and we had a great time. But I just didn't feel those sparks/butterflies/whathaveyou."
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/04/03/AR2009040301911.html
Now, I realize that there is some base level amount of attraction that you'd like to have for a potential mate. However there are lots of people that you might not be initially attracted to (though you're also not un-attracted to/repulsed by them) that as you get to know them an attraction grows. It drives me crazy because people treat these "sparks" they like to talk about as the end all be all when really what they're mostly talking about is LUST! Call me crazy, but lust is hardly an enduring quality upon which one can build a relationship.
Ok [/rant]. I just would love to have a discussion about this, and my fiance is kinda sick of talking about it with me. (Mostly because we both fall in the same camp... Afterall, we were friends for a LONG time before dating.)
Anyone agree? Disagree?
What is it with people judging every new potential romantic relationship based off of the "sparks" they feel when they first meet someone. Whether it's in the first 5 minutes or for the first several hours. I love to read Date Lab in the Washington Post, and I can't tell you how many times people seem to say, "s/he is sweet, smart, funny, and we had a great time. But I just didn't feel those sparks/butterflies/whathaveyou."
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/04/03/AR2009040301911.html
Now, I realize that there is some base level amount of attraction that you'd like to have for a potential mate. However there are lots of people that you might not be initially attracted to (though you're also not un-attracted to/repulsed by them) that as you get to know them an attraction grows. It drives me crazy because people treat these "sparks" they like to talk about as the end all be all when really what they're mostly talking about is LUST! Call me crazy, but lust is hardly an enduring quality upon which one can build a relationship.
Ok [/rant]. I just would love to have a discussion about this, and my fiance is kinda sick of talking about it with me. (Mostly because we both fall in the same camp... Afterall, we were friends for a LONG time before dating.)
Anyone agree? Disagree?