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Alright SDNers, as my title may have suggested, I'm sure I might sound a bit crazy by now with the threads that I've started this semester...but I desperately need your collective advice for a decision that must be made by tonight (I'm going out of the country tomorrow)!
So, for those of you who have not followed my poor decision making skills -lol I can't even help but laugh at myself by this point- here's the deal:
I just got engaged to the man of my dreams and you all witness how wonderful and supportive he was of me in my last thread. He is a rising second year med student in Chicago. I have accepted a spot at CSU instead of Illinois (the vet school is 2 hrs away) because
1) better school/I am under the impression that I could get more contacts or have more opportunities when I graduate- but maybe I am wrong..
2) I got a good feeling from the school and I really liked fort collins (its bigger than urbana- more people, more shops/restaurants, near mountains (I love the outdoors)...)
3) I'm interested in biomedical engineering/prosthetics research and it seemed like CSU out of any other school actually had those kinds of opportunities
4) I didn't want to have any regrets about making too big of a sacrifice on my education for the relationship because I know that can be detrimental
We had hoped that he could maybe transfer to Univ. Denver med school next year but we called today and found out that they haven't accepted transfers for the last 5 years and about 20 people in our same situation request transfers for maybe 1-2 spots if any. This means that we would be very long distance for 3 years. This news after the engagement (very happy news of course!) has gotten me pretty depressed over the last couple of days.
I honestly think we could make it work if I go to CSU and I know I'd be very happy with the program, but thinking of being away from him for that long is sad. I know that a lot of people have have said that if you are interested in small animal (which I am primarily- the research in prosthetics would be cool, but it's a side interest) that it doesn't matter where you go to school.
So on a whim today, I called UIUC to ask if accepting them would still be an option and they said YES (totally wasn't expecting it to be that easy...is that weird?). Now I'm all confused about what to do. If I went to UIUC, we could see each other on the weekends, and hopefully I'd be busy studying the rest of the time so I wouldn't mind being in a small town...etc.
HELP PLEASE! I'm worried about making the sacrifice on the education (but I have no idea if the difference in school matters...how do you know?), but I'm also worried that if I'm so far away in Colorado then I'll be sad and regret not staying closer when I had the option to do so. FYI You can typically get a plane flight Chicago to Denver for $130, so we could see each other once a month. I'm just scared at this point for so many reasons on both sides and I'm having difficulty sorting them out to determine which side outweighs the other...
So, for those of you who have not followed my poor decision making skills -lol I can't even help but laugh at myself by this point- here's the deal:
I just got engaged to the man of my dreams and you all witness how wonderful and supportive he was of me in my last thread. He is a rising second year med student in Chicago. I have accepted a spot at CSU instead of Illinois (the vet school is 2 hrs away) because
1) better school/I am under the impression that I could get more contacts or have more opportunities when I graduate- but maybe I am wrong..
2) I got a good feeling from the school and I really liked fort collins (its bigger than urbana- more people, more shops/restaurants, near mountains (I love the outdoors)...)
3) I'm interested in biomedical engineering/prosthetics research and it seemed like CSU out of any other school actually had those kinds of opportunities
4) I didn't want to have any regrets about making too big of a sacrifice on my education for the relationship because I know that can be detrimental
We had hoped that he could maybe transfer to Univ. Denver med school next year but we called today and found out that they haven't accepted transfers for the last 5 years and about 20 people in our same situation request transfers for maybe 1-2 spots if any. This means that we would be very long distance for 3 years. This news after the engagement (very happy news of course!) has gotten me pretty depressed over the last couple of days.
I honestly think we could make it work if I go to CSU and I know I'd be very happy with the program, but thinking of being away from him for that long is sad. I know that a lot of people have have said that if you are interested in small animal (which I am primarily- the research in prosthetics would be cool, but it's a side interest) that it doesn't matter where you go to school.
So on a whim today, I called UIUC to ask if accepting them would still be an option and they said YES (totally wasn't expecting it to be that easy...is that weird?). Now I'm all confused about what to do. If I went to UIUC, we could see each other on the weekends, and hopefully I'd be busy studying the rest of the time so I wouldn't mind being in a small town...etc.
HELP PLEASE! I'm worried about making the sacrifice on the education (but I have no idea if the difference in school matters...how do you know?), but I'm also worried that if I'm so far away in Colorado then I'll be sad and regret not staying closer when I had the option to do so. FYI You can typically get a plane flight Chicago to Denver for $130, so we could see each other once a month. I'm just scared at this point for so many reasons on both sides and I'm having difficulty sorting them out to determine which side outweighs the other...