I get accused of being cynical and somewhat jaded but I have not achieved the same level that you are. I still see the good in the majority of people but I know that there are many bad people out there. I try to live in a balance of healthy cynicism about people, but not so much that it makes me unable to enjoy the company of people that I may disagree with on a base level. I see that with my patients all of the time. They start talking and I fundamentally disagree with everything they stand for, but I still try to engage them in a pleasant conversation. It just seems that this virus and the politicization of literally everything makes it tougher for so many to coexist with people that they disagree with. It feels like this type of thinking may be the downfall of civilized society. I would argue that we just accept that we will never all agree and find a way that we can move past that. I sense that many here have passed the rubicon on that particular issue and there is no path back.
I hope that all of us can enjoy our work again soon. Honestly, I have enjoyed my work since day one. There are stressors and COVID has been rough, but I still get a lot of satisfaction in my work and I hope that some of you may find that satisfaction again soon.
I think we agree on more than you think. I am just trying to get across the point that we do not need to hate people that disagree with us. If they spew hate at you, they are the ones that are miserable. You do not have to let it drag you down to their level. If the majority of patients you deal with spew hate at you, like our Rad onc colleague suggested, then maybe you are in the wrong location. There are lots of places where patients are respectful of their doctors (except a few outliers).
Then there is also the idea that you do not have the responsibility to "fix" everyone, so if someone is on the wrong side of an idea, in your opinion, why is it not okay to let them live on that wrong side and you live on your side. You sound very angry at your patients. That is a rough place to start from when establishing a physician patient relationship.