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I based it off of what she said and what I can gather from examining the situation. There is nothing wrong with making inferences from contextual clues. Nowhere do I speculate that she is a classical pre-med however. You have to separate what you see as someone's assumptions from clear contrasts to other's opinions.
Here is my assumption you are talking about:
1. The baby was unplanned - she was applying to med school at the time and wants to defer for a year. It stands to reason that if she was planning on getting pregnant therefore she wouldn't have applied this cycle. (text below)
"well it's obvious the pregnancy wasn't planned but I don't think I suggested it was unwanted. I suggested matriculating"
The only other assumptions I made were about her reasons for seeking the deferral and the care situation for the infant, the reasoning for all of which is explained above.
If my own subjective bias comes into play I really can't see where. I'd say the assumptions are more logical than flavored with subjective experience.
This was clear contrast to your response. Not an assumption based in fact and shouldn't be treated as such.
btw the way the whole girl standing in front of a boy thing is a reference to a movie. Shouldn't be taken as an assumption of her age.
To respond to where you quoted yourself... You don't think it is at all reasonable to want 2 things, and to try for both hoping the timing works out? I'd do it if I were in that position. To only aim for one means you run the risk of getting neither. Why else apply to multiple schools? Look at all the DO kids with their personal crisis threads about getting into a less desirable school and not knowing if they should pay the seat deposit or hold out for their top choice. It happens to a lesser degree in Pre allo. Severity of conflict is just on a continuum and there is no strict dividing line that makes wanting a kid and med school any different than applying to different schools. You probably have a rank in your head of which you prefer and try for both (all) and see where your options fall. Would I personally plan a family in med school? No. But this doesn't mean it is obvious that someone would delay apps an entire year based on the uncertainty of becoming pregnant.
And before anyone calls me out for extrapolating or any other such nonsense.... Please go look up "devils advocate" before posting.