Uhhhhh........scuse me......time for me to butt in.yeah I know that surprises all of you.
So I run across this thread right before my Vegas trip.......there are people on this board I communicate with outside the threads.....some by phone, some by text, email...some in person.
Ventys wanna those dudes.
I didnt fret, though.
Hell, my best friend on the planet, Mark Long, Citation Jet Jockey, has been busy flying his magic carpet around the nation for the last month. We havent hooked up for a conversation for, ohhh, five weeks now.
No big deal. We'll hook up soon and he'll fill me in. And I'll fill him in.
Thats how life works when you maintain intimate personal relationships with friends that live away.
So I'm in Vegas and I shoot Venty a voicemail....
"YEAH, WUSSUP HOMES? Havent heard from you in a while. A thread has been started in your honor-of-absence and I'm just chekkin in. In Vegas....gimme a call or a text to let me know you're OK."
Venty contacted me within an hour and filled me in.
In the end, it doesnt matter what the word-for-word context was.
What matters is that Venty has a tragedy in his life.
"WHATS THE TRAGEDY?"
Everyone wants to know.....DRUGS? CANCER? DEATH OF A LOVED ONE?VENTY MURDERED A GANGSTA IN SELF DEFENSE?yeah, sorry about the last one but...uhhhhh....its me, Jet....
Its normal to wanna know. To speculate.
And its normal for people to try and intervene in a protective manner, even if its not necessary....I've learned that whats important in human relations is intent... if the intent is gracious, then no harm, no foul. I applaud the non-anesthesia moderators for trying to do the right thing. But it aint necessary.
I say let the thread play out.
Speculate. React. Grieve.
To not do so is deprivation of emotion, which is more detrimental than censorship. In that light, the (albeit good intentioned) censorship is being lifted.
Humans react differently to uncomfortable situations. Some react with support, some with anger, some with speculation.
Thats OK. In the end, I, nor you, have no control over anothers actions.
And thats OK too.
I'm not at liberty to fill you in on the details.....just like Noy, Mil, Trin wouldnt feel comfortable divulging some of the stuff in my life that they are aware of.....personal tragedy affects all of us at some point in our lives.
If Venty wants to divulge his sorrow, I'm sure he'll post it here.
Until then,
think about how short life is. Think about how tunnel-visioned we all become on this medicine career path....years and years and years invested to the deprivation of nearly everything else during our training..and how quickly it can become derailed by a tragedy in your life....involving you, your wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend.....your children.....
Venty is suffering that tragedy, right here, right now.
THATS WHATS IMPORTANT RIGHT NOW.
THAT VENTY IS SUFFERING.
Not our superfluous board. Not our speculation.
I LOVE YA, VENTY.
As does everyone here.
And that love is important too.
I am aware Venty and his family have access here, Wing.
I pray he reads this thread.
It will enlighten him on how many people on the planet care about his well being.