Being a bartender?
Fine. Even if it's a strip joint. Although it's a toss up, often if they are willing to hire you to sell drinks rather than dance, there's a reason and you won't have to worry about pressure from management to dance. On the other hand, that could very well lead to some intense pressure to dance. Depends.
Yes, you can absolutely get away with it. But there's rules of thumb: better not to dance in a city where there is a medical school or one close by. Plenty of docs and med students and probably even adcom go on occasion. You also never want to run into a patient that knows you from that. A lot of girls consider wigs (I would say a must for you) and costumes that hide identifiable tattoos that are difficult to hide in day to day life (I knew someone who made a point to try to hide their biceps tattoo since that was something she didn't want to cover up in college classes.) Always use a fake name, duh. Most places will photocopy your driver's license for their own record and defense, but I wouldn't recommend dancing in states where you are required to be on a state registered list. Don't ever give out your real phone number. You will be asked 20x a shift.
Speaking of which, you need to be very careful that you don't get caught up in the "lifestyle." Coke and marijuana and any other drugs, after hours parties. Getting involved in bachelor's parties, those always involve "more" even if that's toys or fooling around with another girl. Only go to clean places, some places the other girls are doing prostitution and even if you're not, you could still be involved in a sting taking place in the same private dance area. As far as clean, some places have issues with IVDU and the last thing you want is to get poked by one in the bathroom or girl's locker area. Speaking of which, you also need to be very careful about your stuff being stolen, or the other girls finding out your real identity because cattiness abounds and they may try to out you. Also, careful with lap dances as I knew a girl who felt something go crunch in someone's pocket, they weren't poked thank God but the guy had a glass syringe. You will be offered some sort of drugs almost every shift. Don't pick up smoking cigs.
Be cognizant of any pics being taken with smartphones, a lot of people will also ask you to do private photos, like almost every shift, DON'T.
You will have to drink if you are over 21. As far as the club is concerned, your job is to sell drinks. Anyone buying you a drink will want to watch you drink some of it. You can sneak to the bathroom and discreetly dump some of it the sink/toilet. Which brings me to being very careful about drinking and driving. Cab can be expensive depending how much money you pull in. Anyway, you will end up drinking lots on shift. Someone will try to follow you home, and be very careful about your drinks being drugged.
With the hours and drinking, you will have to be very careful it doesn't effect your grades, and that you are still school full time, job/research part time, all the extracurriculars, that you're still pulling 60-80 hr work weeks on paper for adcom in addition to your dancing shifts. Some girls are really good about studying in the dressing room, but don't count on it. One, it's a way to make enemies at the club, two it's a way to be outed by the other girls, three you'll be missing time off stage when you need to be hustling for private dances (that is where you really make your money), four you need to be selling drinks (getting guys to buy them for you or management will be unhappy cut/change your shifts to ****), five you'll likely be too tipsy/distracted anyway.
You WILL be assaulted in some fashion. A good place the bouncer will bounce someone, but they can't prevent the inappropriate grab/touch, only react after. Be sure to review state laws on what is permissible as far as how close you dance what you wear etc, a good club will enforce rules but they always bend them so you have to know for sure.
Don't underestimate what dancing can do to your self esteem and psychology. It can make you feel attractive, but also a whole host of other yucky feelings.
To make money dancing is more than just getting up on the pole. Also, keep track of your money and see if it's really worth it.
Someone said you are currently selling pics? Big NO NO. The escort thing? Don't even think about it. That could go so wrong so fast you have no idea. Search "how to be an escort" and hopefully that will dissaude you. You will always he asked to do more than the date. Always. Even the escorts who claimed not to have been assualted at any point all have stories of things getting scary at some point.
Say it again, STOP selling pics. They will end up on the internet 99% guaranteed. In fact, a lot of the pics you see online on websites were the result of computer viruses stealing them off a computer to use for free in adverts.
There are tales of girls who did Playboy or other modeling, sex work, or stripping, it coming out somehow, and being kicked out of med school. Not for doing it during, but before. Moral turpitude is what they say. I read on one instance where the girl sued and got back in, but that isn't a guaranteed and Lord knows what the notoriety did for her career long term. Don't escort.
There are a lot of caveats to whether or not you can get away with it. You can be caught and you can be destroyed over this. You could get away with it. You'll have to be very very smart.
And don't put anything besides bartender on your app. NO. Hiding it or not hiding dancing will not do anything good for you, it can only hurt you for this to be found out, so don't offer info that can only hurt you. They will either understand why you left it off and/or hate you, or you tell and they will hate you. If they know this before acceptance, they will not accept you to begin with. Plenty of other applicants to choose from who never did this. If they accept you then find out, it might destroy you, but more likely they will keep you, but they won't like it and might still kick you out, or wait and come up with a reason you can't win a suit over.
And no, you don't have to tell the adcom every ****ing detail of your life. But you also need to make sure there aren't gaps on your app you can't easily account for.
