Dating in Medical School

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Lol, this thread is hilarious! I would like to date some girls after the Step 1. I know rotations are going to be insane. It seems like medicine's always going to be darn busy and crazy. Honestly, I think 110 girls in each med school class is pretty small in terms of selection. The odds of you liking someone, them liking you, and a whole lot of other things working out are pretty small. Church is amazing though. OMGosh, there are like hundreds of available singles. Don't get me wrong, that's not my main reason for going, but the women there are more my type, and I'd rather pick one up there than at a club or a bar...which is why I rarely go to clubs/bars.
 
MsKrispyKreme said:
Chocolate with sprinkles or Glazed? :oops:
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Either way. I don't discriminate. Chocolate with sprinkles need just as much love as the glazed. ;)

sebsvenmdc said:
Lol, this thread is hilarious! I would like to date some girls after the Step 1. I know rotations are going to be insane. It seems like medicine's always going to be darn busy and crazy. Honestly, I think 110 girls in each med school class is pretty small in terms of selection. The odds of you liking someone, them liking you, and a whole lot of other things working out are pretty small. Church is amazing though. OMGosh, there are like hundreds of available singles. Don't get me wrong, that's not my main reason for going, but the women there are more my type, and I'd rather pick one up there than at a club or a bar...which is why I rarely go to clubs/bars.
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That is awesome! The church girls are the real freaky ones too. They are the librarian types; cute, sweet in public, innocent in appearance, but freaks in private. Unless you get the born-again ones... Those girls are just plain freaks. You're better off just letting God have them.
 
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Ocomplications...

I'm a born-again Christian! I guess that makes me a freak too! I'm planning on an amazing sex life once I get married. Although born-again Christians believe in no premarital sex, we believe that God made sex, and once marriage happens...

Haha, I stay in good cardiovascular shape for a reason.
 
sebsvenmdc said:
Ocomplications...

I'm a born-again Christian! I guess that makes me a freak too! I'm planning on an amazing sex life once I get married. Although born-again Christians believe in no premarital sex, we believe that God made sex, and once marriage happens...

Haha, I stay in good cardiovascular shape for a reason.
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That's cool. I didn't mean any disrespect. I would just never date one for reasons you've already stated...I was always told to never buy a car without test driving it first... :smuggrin:
 
if u plan to hit it and quit it..usually a bad idea. but hey..experience is the best teacher
 
0Complications said:
That's cool. I didn't mean any disrespect. I would just never date one for reasons you've already stated...I was always told to never buy a car without test driving it first... :smuggrin:
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Yeah, no problem, man. I've heard that argument before. Lol, man, I've heard that argument before. I think that kissing gives you plenty of an indication about what a woman's going to be like further down the path. If the girl is totally inpatient or easily annoyed, etc...it probably follows she'll have a similar attitude in other things. :) It's simplified, but you get the idea. Also, I would definitely buy a ferrari or a porsche w/o test driving them!
 
where are all you guys meeting teachers ? Bars and stuff on weekends?
 
All this talk about hotness.. jeeze. People usually end up with an SO near their range on the 1-10 so I don't know why anyone is worrying about that. I think you are more likely than not to find a compatible SO in med school soley based on the fact that everyone in school is pretty damn similar. The main separators at my school are religious vs. not and democrat vs. republican, but once you find someone who fits you in those respects and you are mutually attracted to each other you've got yourself a match. I think those are great odds compared to the general makeup of the population.
 
sprinkibrio said:
All this talk about hotness.. jeeze. People usually end up with an SO near their range on the 1-10 so I don't know why anyone is worrying about that. I think you are more likely than not to find a compatible SO in med school soley based on the fact that everyone in school is pretty damn similar. The main separators at my school are religious vs. not and democrat vs. republican, but once you find someone who fits you in those respects and you are mutually attracted to each other you've got yourself a match. I think those are great odds compared to the general makeup of the population.
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Lol. So basically the only difference is the political and the religious affiliation? If only it was that easy. I would in fact say that those variables are actually unimportant. And I have seen a lot of mismatched couples in terms of looks and there is a psychological explanation: when someone is attractive, there is somehow a behavior standard established. So if you're attractive and you're quiet or shy, people automatically assume that you're arrogant and feel that you're too good to talk to them. Needless to say, this especially doesn't sit well with women. What ends up happening is that it is not so easy for two attractive people to get together - you almost need of them to be less attractive to feel the need to make up for their "lack" and therefore be bolder in pursuing the attractive object.
 
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Anyways, do any of you feel like previous relationships (the not engaed/married ones) fail when one of the people get to med school? Especially if they spent a lot of time together before and will have to do long distance for a year?
 
brenster99 said:
Best forum ever!

Anyways, do any of you feel like previous relationships (the not engaed/married ones) fail when one of the people get to med school? Especially if they spent a lot of time together before and will have to do long distance for a year?
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Yeah, it can be done. I know a girl that's still going well in her 2nd year long distance with a dude across the country. I think it just depends upon the woman. If she's sweet and loyal, you're good to go...if she's a dominating, high-maintenance bossy-boots, good luck, bro! The latter was the type I was dating, and thankfully she ended up dumping me about 8 months before school started. My only regret is that I didn't dump her much sooner!
 
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sprinkibrio said:
All this talk about hotness.. jeeze. People usually end up with an SO near their range on the 1-10 so I don't know why anyone is worrying about that. I think you are more likely than not to find a compatible SO in med school soley based on the fact that everyone in school is pretty damn similar. The main separators at my school are religious vs. not and democrat vs. republican, but once you find someone who fits you in those respects and you are mutually attracted to each other you've got yourself a match. I think those are great odds compared to the general makeup of the population.
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Oh before I forget...


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Oh, and then...

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Unless you speak of the attractiveness of ones wallet...
 
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Those girls are definitely pretty! Hasn't Heffner (sp?) had CVAs (stroke or MI?)? I think HY BS says that like 80% of men over 75 are impotent.
 
sebsvenmdc said:
Those girls are definitely pretty! Hasn't Heffner (sp?) had CVAs (stroke or MI?)? I think HY BS says that like 80% of men over 75 are impotent.
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According to Pfizer it's probably higher than that if they say that >50% of men suffer from ed by their 40's. My guess is they just need a new woman or one of these.


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0Complications said:
According to Pfizer it's probably higher than that if they say that >50% of men suffer from ed by their 40's. My guess is they just need a new woman or one of these.


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Haha, one of my friends got one slipped in his drink when we were playing keg kickball two summers ago, it was funny.....
 
0Complications said:
That is awesome! The church girls are the real freaky ones too. They are the librarian types; cute, sweet in public, innocent in appearance, but freaks in private. Unless you get the born-again ones... Those girls are just plain freaks. You're better off just letting God have them.
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Oh god that is hilarious. Now combine a "church girl" who is a teacher and you are SET.
 
MsKrispyKreme said:
The handsome alpha males (e.g. Turk) are few & far between in med school b/c most alpha males who are scientifically inclined tend to become dentists or engineers.
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you're joking right? engineers are known to be the least attractive, shyest, most awkward people.
 
brenster99 said:
Haha, one of my friends got one slipped in his drink when we were playing keg kickball two summers ago, it was funny.....
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:laugh: Did anyone ask him why he brought the 'bat' to a kickball game? :smuggrin:

Forbes said:
Oh god that is hilarious. Now combine a "church girl" who is a teacher and you are SET.
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No joke! I'll take two of those, please.
 
Oh, hey, guys and girls, I had a serious suggestion. Here me out...I think you should check out singles websites. Everyone except for a few truly eccentric folk will agree that online dating is lame. I'm not suggesting online dating. I'm suggesting online networking. What you do is go to a popular website with thousands. Then select a nearby area code. Then, you can screen hundreds that live within like 30 miles of you. You can see pictures. They can see pictures. You can get a lot of establishing initial interest taken care of quickly. It's very efficient. THEN, about like after a week of online communication, organize meeting up for coffee or lunch. That's your first date, kids. It's extremely efficient, and you literally have a huge mass of people to choose from. I've probably met about 5-10 quality girls this way, 3 of which ended up being girlfriends for a short time. I stick to Christian websites, but ya'll are entitled to explore your own mainstream ones. Anyway, so seriously, see it as establishing initial contact, not pursuing a relationship over the web...just find someone, and take it to meeting in person quickly. There's some advice! :)
 
sebsvenmdc said:
Oh, hey, guys and girls, I had a serious suggestion. Here me out...I think you should check out singles websites. Everyone except for a few truly eccentric folk will agree that online dating is lame. I'm not suggesting online dating. I'm suggesting online networking. What you do is go to a popular website with thousands. Then select a nearby area code. Then, you can screen hundreds that live within like 30 miles of you. You can see pictures. They can see pictures. You can get a lot of establishing initial interest taken care of quickly. It's very efficient. THEN, about like after a week of online communication, organize meeting up for coffee or lunch. That's your first date, kids. It's extremely efficient, and you literally have a huge mass of people to choose from. I've probably met about 5-10 quality girls this way, 3 of which ended up being girlfriends for a short time. I stick to Christian websites, but ya'll are entitled to explore your own mainstream ones. Anyway, so seriously, see it as establishing initial contact, not pursuing a relationship over the web...just find someone, and take it to meeting in person quickly. There's some advice! :)
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:laugh: You just said you aren't suggesting online dating, then went on to describe online dating websites and how we should use them.

I have a buddy that does this and he's had mixed results. I think I'll do that when I'm 40 and I'm in the market for a 20 year old.
 
0Complications said:
:laugh: You just said you aren't suggesting online dating, then went on to describe online dating websites and how we should use them.

I have a buddy that does this and he's had mixed results. I think I'll do that when I'm 40 and I'm in the market for a 20 year old.
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No, dude, I said I'm not suggesting online DATING, I'm suggesting initial online communication to set up a first date in-person! You could easily get 10 dates in a month this way. Don't carry on with the relationship online, just use it as a means to find someone initially. Does that clarify my point? Look, the problem with bars and clubs is that a good number of girls/guys are under the influence and they're not going to make the most accurate judgments about dating in that context. When a woman is sober and in a rational state of mind on a computer (assuming she's not under the influence online), she can make decisions to date more accurately. We're in a 21st century, you should use technology to your advantage, but I mean it's a personal choice! :rolleyes:
 
sebsvenmdc said:
No, dude, I said I'm not suggesting online DATING, I'm suggesting initial online communication to set up a first date in-person! You could easily get 10 dates in a month this way. Don't carry on with the relationship online, just use it as a means to find someone initially. Does that clarify my point? Look, the problem with bars and clubs is that a good number of girls/guys are under the influence and they're not going to make the most accurate judgments about dating in that context. When a woman is sober and in a rational state of mind on a computer (assuming she's not under the influence online), she can make decisions to date more accurately. We're in a 21st century, you should use technology to your advantage, but I mean it's a personal choice! :rolleyes:
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I thought that's what online dating was?:confused: Don't all the online dating services "match" you with people and then you go out in real life?
 
Jolie South said:
I thought that's what online dating was?:confused: Don't all the online dating services "match" you with people and then you go out in real life?
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Maybe some do, but not the sites I've used. I've just established an interest. Called and set up a date within a week or two. Then, there's no more online stuff. So, basically, it's like having a telephone book with pictures and profiles of singles that voluntarily listed themselves for dating. I just think it's very efficient for picky people that want to do a lot of initial filtering.
 
Jolie South said:
I thought that's what online dating was?:confused: Don't all the online dating services "match" you with people and then you go out in real life?
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Yes. This IS what online dating is. I think our man, sebsvenmdc, is just in denial about what he's doing. :smuggrin:

Online dating is not a continual via pc relationship, it's the meet online go out in the real world dating. You can call it whatever you choose, sebsvenmdc, but it's still online dating.
 
0Complications said:
Yes. This IS what online dating is. I think our man, sebsvenmdc, is just in denial about what he's doing. :smuggrin:

Online dating is not a continual via pc relationship, it's the meet online go out in the real world dating. You can call it whatever you choose, sebsvenmdc, but it's still online dating.
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Whatever! I'm just saying...I've asked for girls numbers in a number of places. On the plane, in an airport, in stores, at the library(!), etc. An undergraduate library is not a bad idea, btw. The gym doesn't really work...for a number of reasons. There's like a 4:1 ratio of guys:girls. Secondly, a good number of girls have boyfriends with them (to protect them from other gym members...lameness, I say). Thirdly, it's kind of a meat market feel that a lot of women don't feel very comfortable in! Ok, but I have to say that one AWESOME experience happened in the gym. I was doing a lot of stomach crunches and this hot girl came and started doing them like 2 or 3 feet from me. I totally started talking her up! But the funny thing is, she had a b/f! I'm sticking to my churches and other places. :rolleyes:
 
sebsvenmdc said:
Whatever! I'm just saying...I've asked for girls numbers in a number of places. On the plane, in an airport, in stores, at the library(!), etc. An undergraduate library is not a bad idea, btw. The gym doesn't really work...for a number of reasons. There's like a 4:1 ratio of guys:girls. Secondly, a good number of girls have boyfriends with them (to protect them from other gym members...lameness, I say). Thirdly, it's kind of a meat market feel that a lot of women don't feel very comfortable in! Ok, but I have to say that one AWESOME experience happened in the gym. I was doing a lot of stomach crunches and this hot girl came and started doing them like 2 or 3 feet from me. I totally started talking her up! But the funny thing is, she had a b/f! I'm sticking to my churches and other places. :rolleyes:
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Dude!!! Why pass that up!? She has a boyfriend which means you don't have to commit. :smuggrin:
 
H_Caulfield said:
Alright check it out. 90% of your classmates will be either married or in a relationship they've had going for 8 years. Most female med students aren't gorgeous and have rather low self esteem, meaning that most are hanging on to whatever guy they've managed to get in their pre-medschool lives. They'll hang onto this guy relentlessly, even if he IS an automechanic or the cashier at Shaw's, because they're comfortable with him and for fear of ending up alone.

The other 10% will be either nothing you'd be interested in or that awful, snobby, I'm-from-a-rich-family and I'm-too-good-for-everyone type. These women are flying high on the pretentiousness they were taught as children, and will declare themselves too good for anybody but a venture capitalist from Harvard business school with 3 ponies in the stable and rock-hard abs. Most of these latter type aren't too pretty but act as if they are, and are altogether just as cocky.

MY ADVICE: GO FOR A LOCAL GIRL WHO ISN'T IN MEDICAL SCHOOL. You get a lot more bang for your buck. For the same effort you'll get someone more attractive, requiring less maintenance, and who will likely NOT have any delusions about being as intelligent as you, and will thereby not argue with you all the damned time.
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such a solid post...the j.d. salinger shines through : )
 
Originally Posted by H_Caulfield
Alright check it out. 90% of your classmates will be either married or in a relationship they've had going for 8 years. Most female med students aren't gorgeous and have rather low self esteem, meaning that most are hanging on to whatever guy they've managed to get in their pre-medschool lives. They'll hang onto this guy relentlessly, even if he IS an automechanic or the cashier at Shaw's, because they're comfortable with him and for fear of ending up alone.

The other 10% will be either nothing you'd be interested in or that awful, snobby, I'm-from-a-rich-family and I'm-too-good-for-everyone type. These women are flying high on the pretentiousness they were taught as children, and will declare themselves too good for anybody but a venture capitalist from Harvard business school with 3 ponies in the stable and rock-hard abs. Most of these latter type aren't too pretty but act as if they are, and are altogether just as cocky.

MY ADVICE: GO FOR A LOCAL GIRL WHO ISN'T IN MEDICAL SCHOOL. You get a lot more bang for your buck. For the same effort you'll get someone more attractive, requiring less maintenance, and who will likely NOT have any delusions about being as intelligent as you, and will thereby not argue with you all the damned time.



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Doctor4Life1769 said:
Maybe she just wanted to do crunches and sensed he was chatting her up and hence the "I've got a boyfriend" line ... :smuggrin:
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I see how that could make sense, but the thing is her body language was completely opposite of that. She could have done crunches on like 4 other mats, she chose mine, she was like 3 feet away from me, and all the time smiling. Dude, I was confused!:laugh:
 
you remember when people said, "you're going to medical school? I bet you'll be fighting off the girls then!" Yeah, I wonder when the deluge is coming... haven't even had a date (or anything resembling one) this entire year.
 
bodonid said:
you remember when people said, "you're going to medical school? I bet you'll be fighting off the girls then!" Yeah, I wonder when the deluge is coming... haven't even had a date (or anything resembling one) this entire year.
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:laugh::laugh::laugh:

Dude, that is priceless! I think every male going to med school has heard that.

Then the women realize you're just a broke@ss student, you won't be making any money for another 10 years, coupled with the fact that you won't have much time for them and when you're done with school you'll be 1/4 of a million in debt.

I'm guessing this might be what keeps them at bay. :(
 
Excelsius said:
Lol. So basically the only difference is the political and the religious affiliation? If only it was that easy. I would in fact say that those variables are actually unimportant.
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Haha, yeah I suppose there are other factors there that influence compatibility. Those two are just very important for me. My school tends to be radically polarized one way or the other... you'd better bet they wouldn't want to date.
 
0Complications said:
Oh before I forget...


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Oh, and then...

anythingspossible.jpg




Unless you speak of the attractiveness of ones wallet...
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Key word being USUALLY, in case you missed it the first time. I'd like to make an announcement to all medical students: don't count on it happening to you.
 
0Complications said:
:laugh::laugh::laugh:

Dude, that is priceless! I think every male going to med school has heard that.

Then the women realize you're just a broke@ss student, you won't be making any money for another 10 years, coupled with the fact that you won't have much time for them and when you're done with school you'll be 1/4 of a million in debt.

I'm guessing this might be what keeps them at bay. :(
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I've always said:

One of the best pickup lines possible is "Hey, I'm a doctor."

One of the worst pickup lines possible is: "Hey, I'm a medical student."
 
Just wanted to say that on the first day of orientation, I was FLOORED by how many good looking people were in my class. And not just good-looking for a med student, but good-looking by popular, MTV standards, lol. And many of them are single (it's MS1).

I'm very happily engaged, but my fiance occasionally worries about all the attractive classmates I have, lol.

Even if I were single though, I don't think I'd date within my class, way too much awkwardness if things went awry.
 
sprinkibrio said:
Key word being USUALLY, in case you missed it the first time. I'd like to make an announcement to all medical students: don't count on it happening to you.
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I caught it, but I just wanted to prove a point. But I also disagree with your primary statement. I would say a large percentage of wealthy men have options in female partners beyond the quality of their looks, but limited by the girth of their wallet.


rogerwilco said:
I've always said:

One of the best pickup lines possible is "Hey, I'm a doctor."

One of the worst pickup lines possible is: "Hey, I'm a medical student."
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:laugh: Truer words have never been spoken.
 
Textuality said:
Just wanted to say that on the first day of orientation, I was FLOORED by how many good looking people were in my class. And not just good-looking for a med student, but good-looking by popular, MTV standards, lol. And many of them are single (it's MS1).

I'm very happily engaged, but my fiance occasionally worries about all the attractive classmates I have, lol.

Even if I were single though, I don't think I'd date within my class, way too much awkwardness if things went awry.
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weird, everyone in my class is married...
 
0Complications said:
:laugh: Truer words have never been spoken.
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Hahahaha. Oh, man, tell me about it. I thought when I started med school, the girls would be throwing themselves at me. Here I am at the end of second year, and even after lots of exposure to church girls who I thought would LOVE to snag a future doctor... nothing.

But hey, at least when this nontrad is finally entering private practice at age 40, and starting to make the big bucks, the ladies will love me then... just in time for that ED to set in! :laugh:
 
Trismegistus4 said:
Hahahaha. Oh, man, tell me about it. I thought when I started med school, the girls would be throwing themselves at me. Here I am at the end of second year, and even after lots of exposure to church girls who I thought would LOVE to snag a future doctor... nothing.

But hey, at least when this nontrad is finally entering private practice at age 40, and starting to make the big bucks, the ladies will love me then... just in time for that ED to set in! :laugh:
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my first thought was "hey, at least I'm still going to be in my (late) twenties".

I'm not. F%$#@ residency. Fo mo years of 'po livin... ...shizzle... .....
 
Ugh, this thread makes me so paranoid sometimes...my boyfriend got into WVU for med school and I'll be starting in New York this August. 7+ hour drive. Kill me now.
 
sarahl86 said:
Ugh, this thread makes me so paranoid sometimes...my boyfriend got into WVU for med school and I'll be starting in New York this August. 7+ hour drive. Kill me now.
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Just agree to sleep with other people and you'll be fine. :smuggrin:
 
bodonid said:
my first thought was "hey, at least I'm still going to be in my (late) twenties".

I'm not. F%$#@ residency. Fo mo years of 'po livin... ...shizzle... .....
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Yeah, I hate to admit it, because I scoffed when people said this back when I was a premed, but the gratification in medicine is just too delayed if you're in it for any of the peripheral benefits, whether that's money, power, or chicks. :D Of course, if you go to med school right out of college and go into a specialty with one of the shorter residencies, you can be done before your 30th birthday, but even that is pushing it. And if you're a nontrad, forget it.

The one possibility I haven't yet explored is using my med-student cred on undergrad girls. I had never considered this before since I'm so much older, but I look young, and a few weeks ago one of my female classmates said that based on her own experience as an undergrad, female undergrads are in awe of medical students and would be thrilled to get with one. Maybe wearing those scrubs to study at Starbucks could work after all...
 
Trismegistus4 said:
The one possibility I haven't yet explored is using my med-student cred on undergrad girls. I had never considered this before since I'm so much older, but I look young, and a few weeks ago one of my female classmates said that based on her own experience as an undergrad, female undergrads are in awe of medical students and would be thrilled to get with one. Maybe wearing those scrubs to study at Starbucks could work after all...
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:idea: how about...

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Free-Candy-Chances.html
 
Trismegistus4 said:
The one possibility I haven't yet explored is using my med-student cred on undergrad girls. I had never considered this before since I'm so much older, but I look young, and a few weeks ago one of my female classmates said that based on her own experience as an undergrad, female undergrads are in awe of medical students and would be thrilled to get with one. Maybe wearing those scrubs to study at Starbucks could work after all...
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That's not a bad idea.
Conky said:
:idea: how about...

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Free-Candy-Chances.html
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:laugh::laugh:


sarahl86 said:
Of course! :smack:



(because that's good for a committed relationship :thumbdown:)
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I don't want to be the one to burst your bubble, but 700+ miles between you two for 4 or more years isn't good for a committed relationship either.

Sure there are a couple rare exceptions and for some reason everyone thinks they are going to be that said exception, but if that were the case they wouldn't be exceptions, they would be the rule.

I think it's great you're going to try, but in reality the odds aren't stacked in your favor. A year, maybe. But 4+... highly unlikely.

I'm pulling for you though.
 
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