Same regarding two sites that I LOVED. Similar settings, similar AMAZING training opportunities, similar warmth, similar intern happiness...how does one PICK?! Everyone's like, "You can't lose!" and that seems to be totally true...BUT, I'm also SUPER much a maximizer. I'm hoping once I'm done and reflecting back I get a little more clarity.
This was so beautiful, and I'm so happy you got to end on a high note and get to go home soon!!!I've been so busy since starting the interview extravaganza that I've had no time to post. I am SO amazed by everyone's strength, humor, and mutual support getting through this process! And I'm sending hugs and love to everyone who has faced extra challenges and loss during the process. As if it's not hard enough...😳 I'm so glad to see so much community still happening here!! This #forumfam always leaves me in awe.
I finally finished my LAST interview and, after (admittedly) some worrying that there just wasn't going to be a #wandsite for me, my last site was my WANDSITE!!!To answer an earlier question...It was a site that, on paper, had every aspect of training that I wanted with philosophical and theoretical approaches that are compatible with my own. I interviewed at a few other places that had nearly all of these things but were missing the kind of organizational environment that I want. @slaney described it perfectly...that desire for humanity and connection. My #wandsite had that in a way that other sites with the same training opportunities did not. I appreciated the high regard with which they treat their interns, their warmth and openness during the interview process, and the fact that the provision of their array of clinical services is clearly NOT dependent upon having interns. They're serious about focusing on training. I am totally impressed with how much this was emphasized at nearly all of my interview sites. It's also a site that fits my needs in terms of location/quality of life. I have a family who will be moving with me if I relocate for internship and this matters a lot. Aside from all of the rational reasons, it also just felt the most exciting to me. I was very invested in building relationships with the supervisors/staff and really enjoyed my interview because I was able to connect with some people I really liked and respected. I WANTED them to train me.
I'm heading home after 3 weeks of interview travel tomorrow and hope to have more time to stay connected as we all go through the next month of the dreaded ranking and then waiting...in the meantime, kudos to each and every one of you as you continue to make your way through this process. I assume I'm not alone in feeling that this is SO HARD. I am completely exhausted and kind of can't believe I have to re-engage with the rest of real life again. 😕 I'm certainly very grateful for this forum and all of you that have made this process easier to survive!!!
omg, the struggle to stay motivated is so real. I managed to stay well through all of my interviews but immediately came down with some kind of upper-respiratory viral thing as soon as I got home, and although my throat is so sore it hurts to swallow, I was like "well hey, at least I get another couple days to delay the inevitable return to day-to-day grad student stuff."
seems normal. #whyamilikethis?
This is eerily like me. You even used one of my most frequently used hashtags. Hello there, and I'm sorry. 😛Oh I already looked for a job for my husband... not just planning to match there but planning to stay for post-doc, move there, and take a job there after
Also did those things. A little bit.Oh I already looked for a job for my husband... not just planning to match there but planning to stay for post-doc, move there, and take a job there after
I don't have a husband, but I did look up dog parks in close proximity to each site.Oh I already looked for a job for my husband... not just planning to match there but planning to stay for post-doc, move there, and take a job there after
sure would be nice to get one of those emails over here...
i don't even want to know the sites that are doing that in case it's one i am ranking.
I don’t think it’s normal practice it’s allowed but not common from what I hear. It was nice to know I’m on the list somewhere. Nothing is guaranteed!!! We’re all going to be okay
Just finished my last interview today!!!
....now what do I do with myself?
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Just finished my last interview today!!!
....now what do I do with myself?
YAAAAAASSSS 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Great hyperbole and a half reference!! I’m a fan!
(Hyperbole and a Half)
Just as a disclaimer, I don't know what kind of postdocs you're looking for and how competitive and/or specific they may be. For me, post-doc stuff is really important in my ranking decisions, probably even a bit more so than general working atmosphere or work/life balance. Again, without knowing specifics, if this were my dilemma, I would lean toward Site B given that it has the experiences (ALL OF THEM) to set me up for the kind of postdocs I want AND it doesn't appear to be a universally hated or miserable place. My thoughts in deciding rankings is I can make some stuff work or tolerate being thrown into the deep end/having less constant check-in by faculty for a year if it also means I'm going to be set up really well for the types of experiences I want later on. I also think there are some benefits of being in a larger metro area, as there may even be opportunities for postdocs in the same city. Maybe talking with your DCT or someone you know in the line of work you eventually want to be in would provide some clarity regarding how important it is to be at an internship site that specifically offers you the kinds of training you want to do on postdoc.
Well...it's a Friday so that means run my dog first thing, then clients at 9, TAing from 10-12, department lunch talk 12-1, supervision 1-2, and a lab meeting 2-3:30... Oh, and importantly, checking my email obsessively as I go into my TAing gig. And having anxiety.
YOU HAVE SO EARNED THIS BASK! BASK AWAY, FRIEND!!!
Solid gif 👍👍👍
I HAVE ALL THE PLANS. FIRST, boozey brunch with my cohort. Emphasis on booze. We will look adorable, like rays of fresh sunshine and sweet tea personified. NEXT, we will don our best athleisurewear for a lovely sojourn around one of the local parks with my cohort-mate and her delightful pup. Get some fresh air, walk off some of the booze from boozey brunch. Then, back to our houses for perhaps a quick nap? Gotta rest up for the evening festivities, dinner at a local restaurant that has a cool roof area and then a delightful trek across the street to this bar/restaurant/glorified adult playground (ping pong, tiki torches, beach volleyball court) where there are lots of fun things to do and more importantly, lots of alcohol. Basically the only thing I don't have planned is who's gonna drive me home hahah
Yeahhhhhh, we get the day off at our program. I'm seriously sorry that not everyone gets to have the day to celebrate! It's such a fun and exciting moment and one we've been working toward for such a long time!
Sleeping. Haha. Luckily Friday’s aren’t a day where I have class or practicum. I’m gonna open my email with my doggos next to me. And sleep and binge watch tv. I need to get back into my healthy eating/exercising routine too- I feel like
It cut off my poop emojis , how rude.
You are so *fancy*!YOU HAVE SO EARNED THIS BASK! BASK AWAY, FRIEND!!!
Solid gif 👍👍👍
I HAVE ALL THE PLANS. FIRST, boozey brunch with my cohort. Emphasis on booze. We will look adorable, like rays of fresh sunshine and sweet tea personified. NEXT, we will don our best athleisurewear for a lovely sojourn around one of the local parks with my cohort-mate and her delightful pup. Get some fresh air, walk off some of the booze from boozey brunch. Then, back to our houses for perhaps a quick nap? Gotta rest up for the evening festivities, dinner at a local restaurant that has a cool roof area and then a delightful trek across the street to this bar/restaurant/glorified adult playground (ping pong, tiki torches, beach volleyball court) where there are lots of fun things to do and more importantly, lots of alcohol. Basically the only thing I don't have planned is who's gonna drive me home hahah
