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Hi all, I’m new here. I recently received a very generous offer from my Stepdad to pay for medical school AND my mortgage for the duration. I am 37, married 10 years with two elementary-aged daughters. This is a very different career than my first one and will be a lot work (obviously).
My husband refuses to accept the money from my dad, claiming we are adults and should be able to “take care of ourselves.” You know, bootstraps. He would rather us take out loans to cover med school, for me to chose PT or RN instead, or any other route that would allow me to work full time while attending school.
I’m the breadwinner and have been for 5 years. Going back to school means we would have to sacrifice some comforts, but with my dad’s help it is totally feasible. But he refuses to budge. Fair disclosure: we’ve been in marriage counseling for six months for other reasons, and the marriage isn’t strong. I’m crushed. This chance is literally the best chance to get out of mediocrity for ourselves, our family, and even our grandchildren. And he won’t take it because of his pride. I don’t know what to do next. Either I leave him to pursue it on my own, or he decides to “let” me go to med school and I start the journey with an unsupportive spouse. Any advice?
My husband refuses to accept the money from my dad, claiming we are adults and should be able to “take care of ourselves.” You know, bootstraps. He would rather us take out loans to cover med school, for me to chose PT or RN instead, or any other route that would allow me to work full time while attending school.
I’m the breadwinner and have been for 5 years. Going back to school means we would have to sacrifice some comforts, but with my dad’s help it is totally feasible. But he refuses to budge. Fair disclosure: we’ve been in marriage counseling for six months for other reasons, and the marriage isn’t strong. I’m crushed. This chance is literally the best chance to get out of mediocrity for ourselves, our family, and even our grandchildren. And he won’t take it because of his pride. I don’t know what to do next. Either I leave him to pursue it on my own, or he decides to “let” me go to med school and I start the journey with an unsupportive spouse. Any advice?