I've applied to a few schools where it appears that all first-round interview invites have been extended (based on the discussion in this forum and my own contact with the grad secretary). For some of these same schools, I've also heard reports of people being rejected via email or the online system. I haven't been invited, which means a probable rejection, but I haven't been rejected online either.
Is there a courteous way to find out what my status is, whether by contacting the POI or graduate secretary? I have this nagging fear that if I stay out of touch, in the *extremely* unlikely event that first round interviews go badly and more phone calls are made, I won't be contacted because I'm off the radar.
The stress of this process is giving me some strange ideas.