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I know a lot of people say 'I will never choose someone over my family' but in some situations, it's 100% warranted. I get the relationship is fairly new so you're not feeling very compelled to make that decision yet, but they're clearly giving you their BS opinions (about someone they've never even met!) in a very passive aggressive way. People like this won't magically change their tune as your relationship progresses despite them saying "We will come to love him."So I've been dating this guy and it's going amazing so far. He treats me like a princess and makes me so happy. He's met my parents so far one time. They seem to be ok with the relationship and want to get to know him more. I was with my aunt and uncle yesterday and they were asking questions that made me want to pull my hair out and scream. They have yet to meet him. He's studying cybersecurity and is from Africa. He's on a student visa here in the US. The first thing they said was why would they have undocumented illegals working on our cybersecurity? I proceeded to leave the table and cry in a bathroom. They asked things like does he speak English? I'm like no we communicate by pointing to things! Make fun of his last name, the fact that he has an English and African name. They go on to say yeah you definitely can't be thinking of marriage at this point (it's a new relationship and I agree), but they proceed to tell me that biracial kids get made fun of in school. Makes total sense to don't think about marriage to having kids with him. They tell me that he could have alterior motives for dating me (green card) which is at the back of my mind because of the logistics of the situation but I don't feel as if this is a scam and time will tell anyways. He doesn't give me any red flags of that sort. Finally they're like if he makes you happy we will come to love him. Like I'm not going to choose between me and my family but sheesh at least give the guy a chance before you start ridiculing him. Sometimes I'm like should I still go through with this with it being so hard, but I know he's worth it and a great guy so I hope they come to accept in him the end. Great place to rant. Thanks!