Yep. And that’s exactly me. My partner just sent me another article about the tr*mp layoffs in dairy research sectors (aka what I would be doing if I didn’t attend vet school) and I’m just like what else can go wrong for me rn😅
sigh...it's like anything and everything of value is under attack regarding research and education. I guess everyone should just become a ****ing plumber?? I live in a Trumpy azz rural area and literally everywhere it's another trump trump trump sign. Exactly three days ago I saw ONE handmade sign that said "stop musk, fight trump!" and within three days it was torn to SHREDS on the person's driveway. Mother****ing toe-sucking Republicans are so fragile they can't respect any speech in opposition to their own on someone's private property. Now anytime anyone complains about a lack of large animal vets in this area, I can't help but wonder who they voted for. Without IDR how can any LA vet survive who isn't doing equine sports medicine or something for those who can afford such treatments. They'll laugh about no more "My taXEs paYIng foR ARt deGREes" but shoot themselves in the foot every time with their own ignorance.
Yeah I already started eyeballing internships and residencies abroad lol, and set the seed in my hubbys head about foreign income tax exclusion or whatever it's called.
What places are you torn between?
UT and NCSU. NCSU is the cheaper option but i really love UT 😭
is he swamped in schoolwork or something? why doesn't he get more hours? 🤔
the lab is not communicating with him when they need him, they just send him a text randomly and be like "hey we need you today" and then he goes in for an hour.
he worked 30-ish hours a week in the fall and brought in decent money. we were able to pay off our credit cards, pay rent, go out once in a while and it was good. then his grades started slipping and a co-worker threatened him (like really bad i almost called the cops) so he quit. i told him he could sit the rest of the semester out and i could cover for 2 months, well now its been 4 months and he barely goes to class.
Could this be a depression situation that needs to be addressed more specifically?
he struggles with his mental health, as do i. i have offered him resources, i have provided support. the thing is, he goes to a few classes and then comes home and hyper fixates on his interests for the rest of the day. i have to beg him to help out around the house and do the dishes or clean the bathroom. he cares for the dog while i'm at work, i'll 100% give him that.
I went to UT, and I loved it. I love Knoxville. I fell in love with that place the moment I interviewed. But if I'd had a cheaper option, I would have gone elsewhere. Take it from someone 5 years out and looking at student loan repayment projections and hoping income based repayment doesn't disappear, because without it my loan payments would be almost half my current monthly income (granted that situation is a bit less dire for jobs that pay real money and not residencies, but it's still significant). And I only paid OOS tuition the first year!
yea…even though I really love UT. thanks for grounding me a bit lol
My daughter is having this same contemplation (she's not on here with an acct)... with NCSU being the cheaper option for her as well. We went to the welcome student weekend at NCSU and it was a lovely school and area. We are relying a lot on the NCSU residency though.... so many unknowns, so stressful. Our instate option is so expensive with UPenn. Congratulations on your successful application cycle and good luck with your decision!
Understood. You can't do anything more to help him, he has to help himself at this point. Just don't let yourself become his provider if that's not what you want, because it happens without you realizing it. I absolutely respect mental health challenges, I face them myself and get how hard it can make things. But at some point, not seeking help is a choice.
I'm an NCSU grad and think I got a fantastic education for a bargain deal cost, especially compared to the vast majority of vet schools. I recommend people attend NCSU without any qualms. I still live in the area and enjoy it, too.
were you OOS? i’m kinda stressed about the process of changing residency after 1st year and would love more insight ! 😵💫
It's completely understandable to be nervous!! I'm in the same boat - moved to the suburbs recently after living in cities and even after years of driving, I'm still nervous to get on the road. Just here to say you are not alone in feeling this way 🫠
Yeah I’ve been able to either walk places, bike, or just uber if need be and just ask friends. Glad I’m not the only one! Oof, I guess like vet school, I just have to do it.
I have words... All in strong favor of President Zelenskyy! A real leader.
Which is it….the Zelensky meeting?
wait you're in VT too??? how many vermonters we got in here.
Omg yes!! Where are you?!
My spouse and I both grew up in Vermont!
Ok so I ended up doing this later (to follow a couple of pending cases and also put a little more $ in the bank) but I put in my notice TODAY and I feel both huge relief and also overwhelming dread... but at least the end is in sight now. 💩
I kind of hope you're right, but I worry that would coincide with an overall economic crash which would probably put both of our jobs (as well as many others) at risk. And yeah agreed - people have been saying that the housing market will crash and interests rates will plummet since ~2022 when they started to go back up
I think you will be okay based on how it's all been going! But yeah, not a good time for buyers at all. We couldn't afford to buy our last house for what we sold it for which is nuts (and most of that profit went right to my student loans, so I get it!).
I was not, but I know they classmate of mine who tried to swap found it quite traightforward.
Can you ask him to make a list of open houses to look at? Or make a list and get him to visit a few with you? My husband will reject houses for very silly reasons (like paint color), but I've found that if I put him in the house and talk about painting it, he's not so dismissive. We've moved a few times together, and I've found that if we start by actually going and looking at what's available, then we can get a more realistic list of deal-breakers. We used to say we'd never live in a split-level, but then we found a house that was perfect in every other way, so oops we bought a split-level.
I’m Ukrainian and I have family in Ukraine but my family entire family in the US are major trump supporters. With vet school apps, fearing for my family’s life over there and fighting my family in the US, I’m so drained and exhausted. I have a cousin who was here for a month and just went back home to Ukraine today and he looked so defeated after the White House meeting yesterday. I can’t wrap my head around how they could simultaneously be so upset about the war not ending but also kiss trumps ass.
My husband has rejected houses over paint color too! Any chance he's an engineer? Lol.
The thing is that if I have him look at the listings, we won’t be touring anything. He will literally find a dent in a wall in a picture and that’s a dealbreaker. I'm getting the sense that our realtor is going to kick us to the curb at some point honestly. We toured a perfectly lovely house this past weekend and it was like pulling teeth to get him to agree to an offer (and this house checked every single box, was in good condition, and was cute!).
That's kind of my thought, but I think he's more worried about his job than he lets on (he's auto industry, which has not been doing well). But if that's the case, my entire metro area is going to be in crumbles/a 2008 repeat. So I don't fault him for being worried, but losing your job could happen anytime really, he's just more immune to layoffs as an engineer than someone in manufacturing
