We both know they don't matter until you have choices. Then, apparently, rank and money are ALL that matters.
You know exactly what I mean, and you and your kid went in with your eyes wide open. Just don't disparage the general advice regarding gap years, because it is good, and highly relevant to everyone, even if some don't need it to succeed.
I don't know you and your kid, but feel like I do. If (and I certainly do not wish this on you and your kid), he gets shut out of T5 and ends up at a T20, report back and tell us if he had it to do over again and would have a guaranteed T5 acceptance with a gap year, that he still wouldn't be interested because T20 is good enough. Knowing you the way I feel like I do, I just won't believe it. I think he'll be successful this cycle, and I'm sure you do as well.
To me, it's like you saying debt doesn't matter because your kid won't have any. You say gap years are unnecessary because you don't think he'll need them to achieve his goal. And we both know his particular goal is not merely to get into any school. If he gets into Stanford with no gap year, you're right. If not, and Pitt is really good enough, then you're right again. Otherwise, maybe the gap year wouldn't have been such a bad idea!
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