2012-2013 Panic Thread

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Chillax. They're wait lists, not rejections. If anything you're probably just too much of a pessimist.

Dear Icck, your name pretty much embodies how I feel about your entirely unhelpful comment.

Just need to vent.

Received yet another alternate list email this morning. I wasn't supposed to hear back from the school for another three weeks, but apparently, I'm so terrible a candidate they can't wait to be done reviewing my app. I've tried doing everything right this cycle- applying early, broadly, not too top heavy, doing many mock interviews--but it's just not enough. I must be so socially inept that I'm ruining all these interviews, because I don't know what more I can do. Even the lowest tier MD schools won't take me, and the only reason I was accepted into the DO school, I'm pretty sure, is because my numbers were significantly above their averages.

My family is suffering as well. I won't go into details, but they invested very heavily in my education, and were expecting me to keep up my end of the bargain, and get into a top tier school. I did very well in high school, graduated first in my class, and two of my relatives were in a BS/MD program. Not only did I not do so great in college, but I failed to get into med school the first time around by making stupid mistakes--applying late, mediocre MCAT, etc. I was not 100% committed to med school, and it showed. When I did realize that I loved medicine, it was too late. Now, every day, my parents remind me of the mistakes I made and how much they are going to cost me, what I could have done, and how disappointed they are in me. Everything that's happened to me is really my fault, I'm would never blame anyone else.

Honestly, right now I feel absolutely worthless. Why? Because I have finally come face to face with reality; it's not that I am not intelligent enough to accomplish something, but I am lazy and unmotivated. People struggle to get the resources I have been hand-given; essentially, I have been given gold and turned it to dust. I worked as little as possible, and my application shows that. My interviewers must have recognized this, and that's why I haven't been accepted anywhere.

I'm seriously considering withdrawing from the school I was accepted at, I worry I lack the drive to succeed, and will never match. I have wasted so much time for so long, that I don't know how to become ambitious and hard-working again. Please, any pre-meds reading this, don't make the same mistakes that I did.

I think I'm done posting in the forums. Good luck to everyone out there!

You're not worthless, at all. This is a demoralizing process and a lot of truly deserving people get overlooked. Maybe you feel "lazy and unmotivated" because you didn't seize every single opportunity to better your application in the eyes of an adcom, but you have to remember that (1) there's more to life than how you look on a med school application, and (2) you're comparing yourself to a teeny tiny population of people, most of whom have extrahuman work ethic, and many of whom have sacrificed things that you may not be willing to sacrifice just to get in to med school. That being said, you have been accepted to a med school, and I believe there's a great chance you'll be accepted off a few waitlists. If you really want to be a doctor, the door is open, and there are a lot of people reading this thread who can't say that yet. In all fairness, it looks like you were dealt a really crappy hand in the admissions game, and I feel for you. But if you truly love medicine, you're only punishing yourself if you withdraw in protest.

About your parents -- that sucks. Might I suggest getting back at them by enrolling in your accepted school, kicking major booty, and landing a really impressive match?
 
Just need to vent.

Received yet another alternate list email this morning. I wasn't supposed to hear back from the school for another three weeks, but apparently, I'm so terrible a candidate they can't wait to be done reviewing my app. I've tried doing everything right this cycle- applying early, broadly, not too top heavy, doing many mock interviews--but it's just not enough. I must be so socially inept that I'm ruining all these interviews, because I don't know what more I can do. Even the lowest tier MD schools won't take me, and the only reason I was accepted into the DO school, I'm pretty sure, is because my numbers were significantly above their averages.

My family is suffering as well. I won't go into details, but they invested very heavily in my education, and were expecting me to keep up my end of the bargain, and get into a top tier school. I did very well in high school, graduated first in my class, and two of my relatives were in a BS/MD program. Not only did I not do so great in college, but I failed to get into med school the first time around by making stupid mistakes--applying late, mediocre MCAT, etc. I was not 100% committed to med school, and it showed. When I did realize that I loved medicine, it was too late. Now, every day, my parents remind me of the mistakes I made and how much they are going to cost me, what I could have done, and how disappointed they are in me. Everything that's happened to me is really my fault, I'm would never blame anyone else.

Honestly, right now I feel absolutely worthless. Why? Because I have finally come face to face with reality; it's not that I am not intelligent enough to accomplish something, but I am lazy and unmotivated. People struggle to get the resources I have been hand-given; essentially, I have been given gold and turned it to dust. I worked as little as possible, and my application shows that. My interviewers must have recognized this, and that's why I haven't been accepted anywhere.

I'm seriously considering withdrawing from the school I was accepted at, I worry I lack the drive to succeed, and will never match. I have wasted so much time for so long, that I don't know how to become ambitious and hard-working again. Please, any pre-meds reading this, don't make the same mistakes that I did.

I think I'm done posting in the forums. Good luck to everyone out there!

Sorry to hear that you're feeling like that. I empathize with your situation. I really do since I am sitting on waitlists without a single acceptance. As an international reapplicant with decent stats, what makes it worse is the realization that my parents invested so much (more so due to the stronger US currency) and I've got absolutely nothing to show for it.

So keep your head up. You still have an acceptance and just got to prove that you have what it takes despite all the setbacks. I unfortunately will not get that chance.
 
Dear Icck, your name pretty much embodies how I feel about your entirely unhelpful comment.



You're not worthless, at all. This is a demoralizing process and a lot of truly deserving people get overlooked. Maybe you feel "lazy and unmotivated" because you didn't seize every single opportunity to better your application in the eyes of an adcom, but you have to remember that (1) there's more to life than how you look on a med school application, and (2) you're comparing yourself to a teeny tiny population of people, most of whom have extrahuman work ethic, and many of whom have sacrificed things that you may not be willing to sacrifice just to get in to med school. That being said, you have been accepted to a med school, and I believe there's a great chance you'll be accepted off a few waitlists. If you really want to be a doctor, the door is open, and there are a lot of people reading this thread who can't say that yet. In all fairness, it looks like you were dealt a really crappy hand in the admissions game, and I feel for you. But if you truly love medicine, you're only punishing yourself if you withdraw in protest.

About your parents -- that sucks. Might I suggest getting back at them by enrolling in your accepted school, kicking major booty, and landing a really impressive match?

You think my post is unhelpful because I point out that he/she might be a pessimist, yet you try to instill optimism in him/her, presumably because you also think he/she is a pessimist... 👍 :laugh:
 

Meh, plan to reapply, but hang in there. Odds are you will get it. I'm in the same boat and I think I'm going to reapply right away. I increased my clinical experience a lot (I had very little before) and by the end of summer I should have 3-4 publications to finally legitimize the 5 years of research I have done. You should reapply.
 
Just need to vent.
SilverCat, get the f### out of my head! Stop writing my thoughts for all to see! 🙂

I am 29. I consider this time, between graduating college, and the lack of an MD acceptance "limbo." I refer to it as such. On top of that, my dad reminds me everyday what a failure I am, and says I'm the reason he is giving up on my family entirely. He says I threw away my whole life, and have disgraced my entire family. The only reason he does not kill himself from the shame is he will be sent to hell then.

To keep everything - and my family - together, I'm working two jobs. Yet medical schools say, "You appear selfish. You have no clinical experience, and you don't do community outreach." In college, I should have, yes, but I'm trying to do what I can now.

Be a pal, and hold on tight for my sake. If nothing but an MD school will make you happy, do decline the DO admittance, but don't give up. You are still on a ton of waitlists, and you need to be positive now more than ever, to show them what an awesome candidate you are.

There was a psych study that showed smiling when you were unhappy elevated the person's mood. To medical schools, you want to grin so they keep seeing the awesomeness of you.

So hang in there man! You're not alone! I'm def a reapplicant at my tired old age, so provide me with some motivation.

BTW, some of what you wrote, comes off as an AWESOME person statement material. Not the worthless part, but taking responsibility for your stupid mistakes, and the gold and dust. Very nice writing skillz.
 
Meh, plan to reapply, but hang in there. Odds are you will get it. I'm in the same boat and I think I'm going to reapply right away. I increased my clinical experience a lot (I had very little before) and by the end of summer I should have 3-4 publications to finally legitimize the 5 years of research I have done. You should reapply.

Yeah, i'm going to. Should i get a committee letter this time around? It seems like a lot of work to do.
 
Just need to vent.

Received yet another alternate list email this morning. I wasn't supposed to hear back from the school for another three weeks, but apparently, I'm so terrible a candidate they can't wait to be done reviewing my app. I've tried doing everything right this cycle- applying early, broadly, not too top heavy, doing many mock interviews--but it's just not enough. I must be so socially inept that I'm ruining all these interviews, because I don't know what more I can do. Even the lowest tier MD schools won't take me, and the only reason I was accepted into the DO school, I'm pretty sure, is because my numbers were significantly above their averages.

My family is suffering as well. I won't go into details, but they invested very heavily in my education, and were expecting me to keep up my end of the bargain, and get into a top tier school. I did very well in high school, graduated first in my class, and two of my relatives were in a BS/MD program. Not only did I not do so great in college, but I failed to get into med school the first time around by making stupid mistakes--applying late, mediocre MCAT, etc. I was not 100% committed to med school, and it showed. When I did realize that I loved medicine, it was too late. Now, every day, my parents remind me of the mistakes I made and how much they are going to cost me, what I could have done, and how disappointed they are in me. Everything that's happened to me is really my fault, I'm would never blame anyone else.

Honestly, right now I feel absolutely worthless. Why? Because I have finally come face to face with reality; it's not that I am not intelligent enough to accomplish something, but I am lazy and unmotivated. People struggle to get the resources I have been hand-given; essentially, I have been given gold and turned it to dust. I worked as little as possible, and my application shows that. My interviewers must have recognized this, and that's why I haven't been accepted anywhere.

I'm seriously considering withdrawing from the school I was accepted at, I worry I lack the drive to succeed, and will never match. I have wasted so much time for so long, that I don't know how to become ambitious and hard-working again. Please, any pre-meds reading this, don't make the same mistakes that I did.

I think I'm done posting in the forums. Good luck to everyone out there!

One of my Coworkers received one interview last year, was WL, and was finally accepted to Drexel a week before class started. She seriously considered not enrolling, but she did. She is now a happy M1. You are not lazy, you were accepted to a medical, so go. We all have doubts from time to time and you are normal, but seriously, start school in fall.
 
Yeah, i'm going to. Should i get a committee letter this time around? It seems like a lot of work to do.

I can't really weigh in on that. From what I remember, a lot of schools that I applied to actually required one, if your school does that sort of thing. At my UG it wasn't an option so I just have 6 individual letters. 3 from UG faculty and PIs and 3 from my current research lab.
 
Applied late to 7 schools, got 2 II (feb-Mar). I thought I had an acceptance last week. I was so excited! I got the congratulatory email from the school, got two follow up emails asking me to attend this and that and could I RSVP. Then boom! The dean calls me and says they made a mistake. I was wondering why I hadn't received anything in the snail mail and why my online status hadn't changed. Well that's why! I never got in! 😱

After I told all my family and friends. Now I'm waitlisted at one, and waiting to hear back from the other.

Results: Four flat-out rejections, one silent rejection, one wait list, one ???.

My stats are 31S/3.5c/3.9s. Got the in-state connection at both schools that gave me IIs. Loads of clinical experience and volunteer hours, some leadership, but no research.
 
Applied late to 7 schools, got 2 II (feb-Mar). I thought I had an acceptance last week. I was so excited! I got the congratulatory email from the school, got two follow up emails asking me to attend this and that and could I RSVP. Then boom! The dean calls me and says they made a mistake. I was wondering why I hadn't received anything in the snail mail and why my online status hadn't changed. Well that's why! I never got in! 😱

After I told all my family and friends. Now I'm waitlisted at one, and waiting to hear back from the other.

Results: Four flat-out rejections, one silent rejection, one wait list, one ???.

My stats are 31S/3.5c/3.9s. Got the in-state connection at both schools that gave me IIs. Loads of clinical experience and volunteer hours, some leadership, but no research.

that is atrocious. i'm so sorry.. I think there should be some compensation for stuff like this - e.g. like offer an acceptance even if they didnt originally intend to, or a re-interview, or deferred or something. an apology really isn't enough.
 
that is atrocious. i'm so sorry.. I think there should be some compensation for stuff like this - e.g. like offer an acceptance even if they didnt originally intend to, or a re-interview, or deferred or something. an apology really isn't enough.

👍👍

I'm pissed off for you. For a mistake like that, you should at least be offered deferred acceptance. I don't think it's too much to ask considering the magnitude of the eff up.
 
NYU did this before: one kid's acceptance or something wasn't received. He showed up on orientation though, so there was confusion. They honored the other kid's acceptance. Not sure what happened to the kid whose spot he took.

Source: knew the kid they made a mistake with.
 
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Applied late to 7 schools, got 2 II (feb-Mar). I thought I had an acceptance last week. I was so excited! I got the congratulatory email from the school, got two follow up emails asking me to attend this and that and could I RSVP. Then boom! The dean calls me and says they made a mistake. I was wondering why I hadn't received anything in the snail mail and why my online status hadn't changed. Well that's why! I never got in! 😱

After I told all my family and friends. Now I'm waitlisted at one, and waiting to hear back from the other.

Results: Four flat-out rejections, one silent rejection, one wait list, one ???.

My stats are 31S/3.5c/3.9s. Got the in-state connection at both schools that gave me IIs. Loads of clinical experience and volunteer hours, some leadership, but no research.

wtf, I would sue them for emotional trauma. Such a mistake should not happen at all...Keep your head up, good luck will come your way eventually.
 
Hey!!!!

I think I'm in a similar boat as you and I actually decided to reapply the next cycle (not this one). I don't have as high of an MCAT as you but I have similar research experience, a high GPA and a good MCAT. However, I had the same problem with clinical experience. I thought it would be better to perfect my app over more time and not rush it so I don't have a repeat cycle!

I hope this helps!

Thanks for the share of thought! I'll think about it over the next few days and talk to my adviser about it again. I don't want to wait another year, but if that's what it takes, I guess I'll have to wait then. Good luck!
 
With your MCAT score, I think adcoms will forgive a lack of non-clinical volunteering and leadership. However, I doubt anything could make-up for meager shadowing and clinical experience. How many shadowing hours do you think you can complete before June? If you can get 100+ hours of shadowing, then I think you are set for the upcoming cycle. I wouldn't reapply until you have enough shadowing hours and clinical experience.

100+ hrs of shadowing by jun 1 is a bit of a stretch, but I think I can get around ~50 hrs of shadowing and ~100 hrs of volunteering. my main concern is that even if i get those, they might seem to be way too clumped up right before reapplying, not sure if schools will like that... not sure if i should still reapply right away, and keep doing shadowing/volunteering and send them update letters in the fall/winter to show consistency or just wait another year (which will be a real pain for me).
 
Why not start clinical now (aim to get at least 40 hours before applying). It won't be too bad. You can do 8 hours a week and get that by mid may.

As for schools, add more safety schools. Make sure your PS isn't bad and think about your LORs. Try to find out if one is bad and sabotaging your chances. Tailor each secondary to the school and their mission statement (which should match yours).

Being early with all those will get you multiple interviews.

I have recently started doing more clinical already, and am doing ~20 hrs/wk. My main concern is that it's too close to the up-coming cycle, not sure schools will like the clumped up shadowing/volunteering immediately before reapplying. Feel a little risky there. Thanks for the tips!
 
I have recently started doing more clinical already, and am doing ~20 hrs/wk. My main concern is that it's too close to the up-coming cycle, not sure schools will like the clumped up shadowing/volunteering immediately before reapplying. Feel a little risky there. Thanks for the tips!

I would argue the number of hours is about 10-20% of the issue and if that's all you have it's worthless to even do it. The other 80% of it is what you write about and what you gained from the experience. If you learn a lot and have some insightful things to say it won't matter when or how you did it.
 
I would argue the number of hours is about 10-20% of the issue and if that's all you have it's worthless to even do it. The other 80% of it is what you write about and what you gained from the experience. If you learn a lot and have some insightful things to say it won't matter when or how you did it.

True. But I think I did write a fairly good PS out of this last year, that's why I think it's more likely that schools want to see some long-term consistency and commitment in clinical experience from me. Or maybe I just applied too top heavy and too late.

Anyway, I think I'll reapply in the up-coming cycle while keep my clinical activities going throughout the year. I can always submit update letters in the fall/winter.

Thanks for the share of thought!
 
Just need to vent.

Received yet another alternate list email this morning. I wasn't supposed to hear back from the school for another three weeks, but apparently, I'm so terrible a candidate they can't wait to be done reviewing my app. I've tried doing everything right this cycle- applying early, broadly, not too top heavy, doing many mock interviews--but it's just not enough. I must be so socially inept that I'm ruining all these interviews, because I don't know what more I can do. Even the lowest tier MD schools won't take me, and the only reason I was accepted into the DO school, I'm pretty sure, is because my numbers were significantly above their averages.

My family is suffering as well. I won't go into details, but they invested very heavily in my education, and were expecting me to keep up my end of the bargain, and get into a top tier school. I did very well in high school, graduated first in my class, and two of my relatives were in a BS/MD program. Not only did I not do so great in college, but I failed to get into med school the first time around by making stupid mistakes--applying late, mediocre MCAT, etc. I was not 100% committed to med school, and it showed. When I did realize that I loved medicine, it was too late. Now, every day, my parents remind me of the mistakes I made and how much they are going to cost me, what I could have done, and how disappointed they are in me. Everything that's happened to me is really my fault, I'm would never blame anyone else.

Honestly, right now I feel absolutely worthless. Why? Because I have finally come face to face with reality; it's not that I am not intelligent enough to accomplish something, but I am lazy and unmotivated. People struggle to get the resources I have been hand-given; essentially, I have been given gold and turned it to dust. I worked as little as possible, and my application shows that. My interviewers must have recognized this, and that's why I haven't been accepted anywhere.

I'm seriously considering withdrawing from the school I was accepted at, I worry I lack the drive to succeed, and will never match. I have wasted so much time for so long, that I don't know how to become ambitious and hard-working again. Please, any pre-meds reading this, don't make the same mistakes that I did.

I think I'm done posting in the forums. Good luck to everyone out there!

WTF! You have an acceptance! STFU and matriculate! 👍
 
What this guy/gal said. Gamble again if you want, but there's wisdom in the above words.

I agree. This whole process can be super hard on the ego but once you're in, you're in. This was my 3rd round applying (after getting rejected first round applying as a senior, and getting alternate status last year at my top pick school) and I'm an alternate at my top pick now but in the first 10 on the list (basically a sure thing because they take the first 30 every year).

Last year was a low point for me when I didn't get in anywhere, but I was persistant and it's paid off. You are in, don't throw it away because you're not in the right head space right at this moment. You'll get there by the fall when you start school.
 
I agree. This whole process can be super hard on the ego but once you're in, you're in. This was my 3rd round applying (after getting rejected first round applying as a senior, and getting alternate status last year at my top pick school) and I'm an alternate at my top pick now but in the first 10 on the list (basically a sure thing because they take the first 30 every year).

Last year was a low point for me when I didn't get in anywhere, but I was persistant and it's paid off. You are in, don't throw it away because you're not in the right head space right at this moment. You'll get there by the fall when you start school.

That must feel good to know a sure thing like that. All I hear is "a good chance" "good position" and crap like that. Stupid waitlists
 
ive had 3 interviews and one more coming up in mid-april, no acceptances or rejections or waitlists... i feel that im going be eventually rejected from all the schools because its getting pretty late in the cycle, fml.. i felt that all the interviews went very well too, im going to give myself 2 weeks before i start going ape-shat crazy
 
Waitlisted at my top school
No acceptances
Got an II to a school I'm not all too excited about
I honestly don't mind reapplying

Not sure what to do if I end up with an acceptance to the 2nd school and rejection from the waitlist and cant reapply

It might sound crazy in my position right now but should I turn down the interview? or perhaps go to the interview and see if I like the school before withdrawing? I made several mistakes applying this cycle and I feel I can get into a much better school than this one if I reapply
 
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Waitlisted at my top school
No acceptances
Got an II to a school I'm not all too excited about
I honestly don't mind reapplying

Not sure what to do if I end up with an acceptance to the 2nd school and rejection from the waitlist and cant reapply

It might sound crazy in my position right now but should I turn down the interview? or perhaps go to the interview and see if I like the school before withdrawing? I made several mistakes applying this cycle and I feel I can get into a much better school than this one if I reapply

I would go. Before interviewing at Madison, I knew it was really good but I didn't know how amazing it really was. My point being your school in question may end up being a place you could see yourself attending after the interview.
 
Hey everyone
I applied this past year to 8 schools (7 rejections, 1 waitlist).
My GPA on my application last year was 3.55c/3.52s. After I graduate in May I will be around 3.62/3.6. 30Q on MCAT. Schools I talked to said to get more hands on experience. So I am working on my CNA licensure and have two jobs lined up at hospital (one in ER and other in telemetry). Only going to apply to 2 schools from my original list and 12 others which I believe that I am competitive at. Do you think that my jobs starting in May will show enough on my application if I submit my AMCAS in June?
 
I would wait another year so you have more to talk about. Also, apply to more schools next time around, 8 is a pretty low number of Apps
 
So with 5 waitlists and a possible 6th one coming soon, whats the probability of acceptance at this point...
 
Hey everyone
I applied this past year to 8 schools (7 rejections, 1 waitlist).
My GPA on my application last year was 3.55c/3.52s. After I graduate in May I will be around 3.62/3.6. 30Q on MCAT. Schools I talked to said to get more hands on experience. So I am working on my CNA licensure and have two jobs lined up at hospital (one in ER and other in telemetry). Only going to apply to 2 schools from my original list and 12 others which I believe that I am competitive at. Do you think that my jobs starting in May will show enough on my application if I submit my AMCAS in June?

You just got rejected from almost every single school you applied to. You should seriously considering applying to 30 or schools. If you get rejected again from those 14 schools, what are you going to do?
 
Slightly less panic: I just got accepted to my top choice SMP! So at least I'm doing SOMETHING next year.

Whether that something is medical school I do not know. Still waiting on 2 more schools... *twiddles thumbs*
 
How many are IS vs OOS?

As a NY resident I am on 2 SUNY waitlists and waiting to hear back from one more SUNY. Then 2 more private NY school waitlists and 1 private OOS school waitlist. The wait is driving me mad and the thought of re-applying is just too scary to wrap my head around😱
 
What I wish people knew about the application process: That feeling in the pit of your stomach knowing that you didn't find out today and that it is unlikely you will find out tomorrow. MCAT<Verified<Secondary<Complete<Interview<Decision<Waitlist. Grrr (sorry, twidling my thumbs while waiting for my last decision, nothing so positive yet)
 
As a NY resident I am on 2 SUNY waitlists and waiting to hear back from one more SUNY. Then 2 more private NY school waitlists and 1 private OOS school waitlist. The wait is driving me mad and the thought of re-applying is just too scary to wrap my head around😱

Hmm, I don't know much about NY, but just by the number of medical schools that are up there I would say there is a lot of movement and you have a pretty good chance.

Yeah, i'm slowly courting the thought of reapplying and it i'm not enjoying it all. I really feel like I gave it my all this year. 3 WL 🙁
 
As a NY resident I am on 2 SUNY waitlists and waiting to hear back from one more SUNY. Then 2 more private NY school waitlists and 1 private OOS school waitlist. The wait is driving me mad and the thought of re-applying is just too scary to wrap my head around😱
Not sure which NY privates you're referring to, but a lot of the NY privates have very good wait list movement, so I'd say you have a pretty excellent chance. The SUNYs seem to have good movement too, so I wouldn't stress too much unless you feel that there is something specifically holding you back.

6 wait lists, statistically speaking, is a near guarantee of acceptance coming this summer. I know the waiting isn't fun, but I'm right there with you.
 
So first time posting in this thread but in short CA resident, 1 waitlist, another school which just either hasn't reviewed me from what people gather on its thread is still waiting to get back to me (or a waitlist lol), and 2 post interview decisions pending (interviewed mid march for both). Btw these are all OOS (no love from cali 🙁 )...praying for some movement but I'm already studying to retake my MCAT even though I feel crazy for considering to retake a 32 :\ but I had a weak verbal score so its the only thing I can think of improving since I'm just working in my year off and continuing to volunteer haha
 
So first time posting in this thread but in short CA resident, 1 waitlist, another school which just either hasn't reviewed me from what people gather on its thread is still waiting to get back to me (or a waitlist lol), and 2 post interview decisions pending (interviewed mid march for both). Btw these are all OOS (no love from cali 🙁 )...praying for some movement but I'm already studying to retake my MCAT even though I feel crazy for considering to retake a 32 :\ but I had a weak verbal score so its the only thing I can think of improving since I'm just working in my year off and continuing to volunteer haha

Welcome. May I recommend trying to relax and avoiding SDN if at all possible while you are stressing (clearly do as I say and not as I do).
 
My #1 choice (where I've been waitlisted) has already had some good movement so my number is coming up through the ranks. I know most waitlist movement doesnt come until May but I'm hoping that people dropping acceptances this early is a good thing! Soooo tired of waiting.
 
Welcome. May I recommend trying to relax and avoiding SDN if at all possible while you are stressing (clearly do as I say and not as I do).

haha thanks, I usually just read and barely post (as you can see by my post count and date joined... and I do try to avoid SDN as much as possible...taboo to say that on here? 😛) I been patient for 7 months...couple more months won't kill me 😀
 
Rejected from yet another school.

I wish someone would tell me how I suck so much at interviews but nooooo... Canadians are just too damn polite!
 
To everyone stressing out: it's not worth it. Sure I have no idea it feels like, but just take it easy and remember: your health is number one. You guys want to be doctors, you should know that.

Remember the end goal: treating patients. That day will come if you really believe. Your end goal will not be impacted significantly whether you get in now or next year or the year after. Persistence is key, and remember that a good physician is one who can not only manage stress, but also ignore it.
 
Just got rejected. One still pending, 3 post interview rejections. Fortunately the dean gave me feedback. Said there were serious concerns about my interpersonal skills because I was "too often aggressive in your approach to the conversation at the expense of listening". Meanwhile I was given the advice before the interview (from SDN...arg!) to take charge of the conversation. I also suck at novel social situations, have had no experience prior to this cycle interviewing, and my coach focused too much on formulating answers and not enough on how the dynamics of the interview work. I am genuinely worried that this gap in my social skills will haunt me forever, but hopefully at my SMP, I would have a chance to do mock interviews and directly target this weakness when practicing now that I am aware of it.


TL;DR I don't have the ability to pick up social cues well enough to ever become a doctor so I might as well just give up. The end.
 
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Just got rejected. One still pending, 3 post interview rejections. Fortunately the dean gave me feedback. Said there were serious concerns about my interpersonal skills because I was "too often aggressive in your approach to the conversation at the expense of listening". Meanwhile I was given the advice to take charge of the conversation. I also suck at novel social situations, have had no experience prior to this cycle interviewing, and my coach focused too much on formulating answers and not enough on how the dynamics of the interview work. I am genuinely worried that this gap in my social skills will haunt me forever, but hopefully at my SMP, I would have a chance to do mock interviews and directly target this weakness when practicing.

TL😀R I don't have the ability to pick up social cues well enough to ever become a doctor so I might as well just give up. The end.

Good luck! I'm sure you will do great at your SMP!
 
Just got rejected. One still pending, 3 post interview rejections. Fortunately the dean gave me feedback. Said there were serious concerns about my interpersonal skills because I was "too often aggressive in your approach to the conversation at the expense of listening". Meanwhile I was given the advice before the interview (from SDN...arg!) to take charge of the conversation. I also suck at novel social situations, have had no experience prior to this cycle interviewing, and my coach focused too much on formulating answers and not enough on how the dynamics of the interview work. I am genuinely worried that this gap in my social skills will haunt me forever, but hopefully at my SMP, I would have a chance to do mock interviews and directly target this weakness when practicing now that I am aware of it.


TL;DR I don't have the ability to pick up social cues well enough to ever become a doctor so I might as well just give up. The end.

Some things you just can't learn from a coach. Go out to bars more often, it helps your social skills a lot. :luck:
 
2 post interview waitlists, 1 post-interview rejection (requested feedback to find out why).. and that's it for me.

hoping I can manage to get accepted from one of the WL.. sigh.
 
Some things you just can't learn from a coach. Go out to bars more often, it helps your social skills a lot. :luck:

Going to bars alone is awkward as a girl, and you need social skills for people to want to take you to the bar with them.

All joking aside, I did go out all the time in college (part of the reason for my GPA) but the informal bar scene is really not like an interview. There's nothing at stake. I still haven't figured out the art of the interview. That intricate balance between talking about and selling yourself and coming on too arrogant/not listening.
 
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