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Tl; dr: communication is keyThanks guys, it's just nice to have people who understand. I'm tired of hearing 'Oh, just let it slide, she doesn't know any better, she's just socially awkward.' No, if I'm telling her these things 100 times, it's malicious at that point.
And I don't even know where to start with the food stuff. So many examples. The worst: I'm horribly lactose intolerant, and she nearly sent me to the ER a few years back because she flat out told me something was dairy free, and then later told my fiance there was heavy cream in it when he called asking why I might be in the fetal position in the bathroom. That was the last time I really ate anything that she's made that I couldn't plainly tell whether it would contain anything problematic for me or not. I've broken multiple bones
I'm just so tired. lol. just so tired of it. I hate to say this, but she alone is one major reason I don't want a wedding. I just don't want to deal with her for an entire day. She seems to know what causes fights between my fiance and I and just PUSHES those buttons whenever she can. Part of me is wondering if she's hoping to get us to breakup or something. It's not even like my fiance is her only child or even the only boy. She actually treated him like crap throughout his childhood so I'm not sure why she's displaying the classic signs of those mothers who feel they are 'losing' their son to another woman.
I'm just getting more and more anxiety over having to deal with her for 30-40 more years of my life.
I think she’s trying to kill you.... have you talked to your fiancé? Not “your mother is insane” but “I feel amxiety about this, can we talk please”
Cause, at least for me, if i ever broach the children topic in life (likely will adopt cause I think my genes are fraught with peril...) or even the fiancé-long term commitment thing, my person has to be open to discussion (and all my curiosity and questions) whilst we support each other even if we disagree. (I may be rambling but I think what I said made sense...)
I just saw your above post....remember, you’re marrying your fiancé but you inherit all the baggage and his family too. Which is sometimes an important key factor....
Regardless, on many levels, I am in your camp with you