That sucks, I'm sorry. I did 4 weeks of externship at this clinic and I've become close friends with one of the associates. I hope it doesn't turn into a nightmare as I feel I have a pretty good handle on what this clinic disappear
I don't want to have the SO resent me by making him go to Minnesota, but my entire being feels like it NEEDS to go to Minnesota. He doesn't understand that and keeps trying to convince me that I will be happier in Atlanta. Ugh. I have to make a huge, life changing decision and I just want to crawl in a hole and disappear
I mean, it could totally be honkey dorey and all... But I was very content with my job for the first 3 months, then it went to bad to ****ty to bat**** crazy. I loved all the other associates to pieces. They weren't the problem at all.
Just giving you that warning, because there is a high probability you won't be staying at your first job for a long time. Just like there's a high probability that long distance won't work out (esp without end in sight). Works out fine for many people, but odds are kind of stacked against you IMO.
And dragging SO out to somewhere he doesn't want to be for your job is kind of ****ty of you unless it was literally a once in a lifetime type of situation. You don't need to justify it to me or anyone else because in the end it only affects you. I don't care in all honesty if your relationship fails or if your job ends up craptastic. But what you perceive as a dream job right out of school in a clinic you like, is highly unlikely that once in a lifetime type of situation. I can almost assure you, it probably isn't as magical as you perceive it to be, and there are many more opportunities out there that are as good or better if you allow yourself to look around.
This is kind of like the warning I give to prevets who chase their "dream school" by sacrificing something else big in their lives. I know it's hard to wrap your head around, but THAT school isn't the only one that will make you happy. It's easy to be blinded in that need to "get in" or "get a job" phase.
I don't think it's a good idea unless you're okay with saying, "well relationship wasn't meant to work out if we can't survive this..." And shrugging it off. My personal belief is that that line of thinking is bull**** regardless of how many times I hear it. You make decisions in your relationships, and those decisions will affect the outcome of your relationships. You can't unilaterally make decisions and expect a healthy relationship to work out. I don't believe in fate, so maybe that's the difference.
I dunno, maybe he's being stubborn too and your relationship just isn't worth it. Who knows. But it sounds like there could be so much more compromises that could be made in either direction, even if it ends up with both of you going back to the drawing board that involve neither Atlanta not Minnesota.
Just my 2cents, and it probably isn't worth that much.
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