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[battie]

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Sent an email establishing ground rules and I feel so bad but like I’m losing my mind

They don't feel bad for their actions, you shouldn't feel bad for yours.

Their emergency is not your problem.

- signed, an ER vet that ain't got time for people's ****

 

[fruitsalad]

sick today, fever overnight, likely flu

masking up

stay safe everyone

 

[battie]

sick today, fever overnight, likely flu

masking up

stay safe everyone

Had COVID about 3-4 weeks ago. Sucks to work ER and have COVID. Not fun sexy times.

 

[breezywonton]

how to deal with the cliques in vet school??? idk if i’m just doing something wrong but it seems that no one really likes me. i tried to join a group but they proceed to make plans in front of me but don’t invite me, avoid talking to me when we go out, one girl straight up called me ugly to my face and another called me a know it all after answering a question THEY asked me? everyone seems to have their group and i’m just kinda there … on top of that my boyfriend has been ignoring me and im just going through it …😭

 

[JaynaAli]

Sorry Breezy. It can be hard. I’d say just keep trying (but not with those meanie-pants, find better peoole)…a lot of people definitely found their “group” quickly, but in my class long ago, the groups were always shifting. Fourth year I got close with a girl I seriously disliked during second year…turned out she wasn’t as bad as I thought. Does your school have any sort of communal study space? I got to know quite a few people just from being a “regular” studying in the student lounge most evenings. They weren’t necessarily in my class and we didn’t hang out away from the school, but it gave me people to talk to on study breaks and things like that.

 

[_rae_]

Have you joined any clubs? I found I met a ton of people outside of first year by doing that. I'm not someone who makes friends super easily, but I found my small group of 2-3 people I spend a lot of time with, and I know of at least 7-10 I can meaningfully chat with between classes or at events.

As far as the girls who have been mean already, I've found the cliquey mean girls exist in every life stage, no matter how far from high school you get. In a strange way, it's helpful they showed you their true colors now so you don't waste your time on them (not that that makes it hurt less, I don't want to invalidate that). It's 100% a them problem and not a you problem.

I also frequently feel as if I'm not "socially successful" because I don't have a big group that goes out on the weekends and has fun, but I have my people, and I tend to hold those people close. It's okay if that's how you are too. You don't need a group of 12-15 people to have good friends.

Is that rambling or too many cliches? I don't know. This is your first year and people are still finding their place and their footing. I would have told you up until about February of first year that I didn't feel like I had friends at school, but those relationships were just taking some time to build. All of you have been through a massive life change and taking your time to settle in is okay. You'll find your place, it might just take a bit longer than you hope.

 

[battie]

on top of that my boyfriend has been ignoring me

This is my biggest red flag. I can deal with some people out of a hundred not liking me for "reasons"; but someone who is supposed to be my support system?

Nah. This would be my focus.

 

[beans2020]

how to deal with the cliques in vet school??? idk if i’m just doing something wrong but it seems that no one really likes me. i tried to join a group but they proceed to make plans in front of me but don’t invite me, avoid talking to me when we go out, one girl straight up called me ugly to my face and another called me a know it all after answering a question THEY asked me? everyone seems to have their group and i’m just kinda there … on top of that my boyfriend has been ignoring me and im just going through it …😭

This can be so hard. I completely understand this - cliques formed so fast at my vet school during my first year and honestly, I don't think I can say I belong perfectly in one even as a second year student. I float around a lot between friend groups. What helped me was finding some girls I liked/wanted to be friends with and intentionally hanging out with them (regardless of their clique). I also found that it helps to find friends outside of the vet school too, especially mental health wise. So you can talk about something that is not the recent drama in your class for a little bit! For example, I joined a small group at my church and have made some wonderful friends that way. Best of luck - you are not alone breezy!

 

[katiemcat]

sick today, fever overnight, likely flu

masking up

stay safe everyone

I’m sorry fruit 🥺

Did you get tamiflu? I swear by it and yellow Gatorade.