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[WildZoo]

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Classic in-law stuff happening. My husband recently got a text from his dad saying 'Hey, just checking in, and just FYI we will be at the hospital during the birth so keep us posted!' Kind of key that it came from his dad and not his mom, we assume she told him to send it thinking it would be received better than if it were from her directly.

Uhhhh....news to us? Husband was good about shutting it down, but then of course my MIL melted down/threw a tantrum over it. Yet more stress on our plates as time is suddenly moving at a rapid pace and we feel like we have gotten nothing done/prepped. We honestly don't even want visitors probably for a few weeks although I know they will show up uninvited/unannounced within 24 hours of us letting them know the kid popped out.

All she wants is to get her pictures to post on FB anyways (which is a boundary we will also be setting...**** is so scary in regards to privacy and protecting kids these days).

Your in laws sound so much like my sister's in laws it's almost creepy

 

[battie]

There was only my husband with Baby Bats and then husband, BIL, SIL for Daughter-Neice (which duh). My BIL even offered to be up front and away from the birthing area. I was like, "Dude. Watch your daughter be born my guy."

 

[pp9]

“We will be there during the birth” is such a crazy assumption. I’m sorry you have to deal with people who don’t understand boundaries. I don’t want anyone there besides my husband either.

Even if we didn't have a rough relationship with them, all of my business is just gonna be out there in the open, why would I ever want my MIL/FIL (who, again, I am in no way/shape/form close to) to see me naked? I wouldn't even want my own mother in there.

The saddest part is I think there are some underlying feelings about this being their first biological grandchild playing a role. Husband's older sister has two adopted children. Some quick, quiet comments (you'd miss them if you weren't paying attention) have been said since we told them about the pregnancy that I really hope our niece and nephew did not pick up on. I've already told MIL to keep those thoughts to herself once, I have no problem saying it again but louder the next time. But I assume they feel entitled to this process because they clearly feel 'robbed' of it from their first two grandkids? Idk, they're ****ing weird man.

Your in laws sound so much like my sister's in laws it's almost creepy

lol tell your sister I am so sorry for her. 'Monster in law' is a phrase for a reason, I guess?

 

[Conflagration]

One of many gifts from divorcing was being able to block my former MIL. She was such a vile person who loved to make digs at me over weight and family status (my family was blue collar northerners, my ex-wife's family was southern debutantes). It felt like I lost 100 lbs overnight when I no longer had to speak to her.

 

[MixedAnimals77]

@pp9 I password protected myself at the hospital because I was worried my inlaws were going to show up during induction/birthing. Legit the hospital will be like we dont have anyone here by that name if they didnt have the password. Iwas not playing around...hubs forgot the password coming back from grabbing dinner and almost didn't get to come back in though😅

 

[Tech_Penguin]

I just experienced my first major colic with an hose enema. I am forever scarred to say the least 😃

 

[pp9]

@pp9 I password protected myself at the hospital because I was worried my inlaws were going to show up during induction/birthing. Legit the hospital will be like we dont have anyone here by that name if they didnt have the password. Iwas not playing around...hubs forgot the password coming back from grabbing dinner and almost didn't get to come back in though😅

They don't even know which hospital we're going to be at, so I'm hoping I wouldn't need to go that far? They also are completely unfamiliar with the area and we have at least 5 major hospitals within 20 miles of our house, so they would have to be really lucky with a guess if they were going to try to show up anyways (but we're also not even telling them when labor starts).

Also there is no GPS tracking of our phones or anything like that, even though his mom actually tried to start that last week (with no conversation beforehand, just sent him an add on the app) and he just denied the app invite lol.

I just don't get it. It's insane. You'll meet the kid when we are ready. I know she wants to be the main character of the storyline she's envisioning in her head, but I will never be able to grasp that level of delusion.

One of many gifts from divorcing was being able to block my former MIL. She was such a vile person who loved to make digs at me over weight and family status (my family was blue collar northerners, my ex-wife's family was southern debutantes). It felt like I lost 100 lbs overnight when I no longer had to speak to her.

Ugh I'm sorry.

Makes me miss my ex's mom though, she was amazing. But my ex was an idiot. Can't have it all, I suppose

 

[soupshark]

Also there is no GPS tracking of our phones or anything like that, even though his mom actually tried to start that last week (with no conversation beforehand, just sent him an add on the app) and he just denied the app invite lol.

That's insaneeeee

 

[battie]

Today was a shift where my goal was just to get the pancreatitis turned addisonian patient to the end of my shift alive and I feel like I did a ****ty job of my management. The patient is doing great, heart rate and potassium improving. I didn't get too crazy beyond just fluid rehydration. But the overnight doctor was just giving me bad vibes that I didn't do a good job.

Totally could be because I was tired and hungry and I'm reading too much into it. I'm on day 3/4 with all three being inpatient and triage. I've probably seen 50 cases alone over the last 3 days it we include the hospitalized kiddos. And I have one more day tomorrow, thankfully the swing shift.

Sometimes its hard to remember you can't be the 100% doctor 100% of the time and you just gotta do the best you can. Thankfully my day doctor tomorrow is a long term member of the team and I can ask her honestly to look through the case with me to tell where to be better.