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Hi There,
I'm a long time follower of SDN; my boyfriend has used it for a while but I just read forums here and there for information. We've been together for a little over 1.5 years, are very serious (talk about the future all the time), and after living only a few miles away from one another, are about to move a few states away from one another once he starts medical school in August. I feel very secure in "us", our future, and our ability to manage the distance - my only concern is how much I'm going to miss him. I miss him dearly when I haven't seen him for just a few short days!
I'll be starting my job as a consultant, so though not in the medical field, will also have long, hectic days. We've come to a mutual understanding that we are going to set aside 20 minutes a few times a week to Facetime and send each other a daily text or voicemail, no matter how brief. Visits will occur every 4-6 weeks (I get flight perks with my company so it will likely be me visiting more), and we have plans to close the distance once I get promoted in 2 years, and have more flexibility in where I can live.
Here comes my questions:
-Any tips for entering into and maintaining an LDR?
-Ideas for care packages or sweet ways I can send "thinking of you" gifts?
-The "plan" is to become engaged in the middle of 3rd year, so we have 1.5 years to plan a wedding (which would likely be before residency). Any qualms with that?
-This is thinking ahead, but what is suggested for managing and merging finances over time? I will be making a consistently strong salary, while he will be drowning in student loan debt. Should I take on some of his loans, or pay a larger percentage of rent, etc.?
-How do most medical students afford engagement rings?
Thanks!!
I'm a long time follower of SDN; my boyfriend has used it for a while but I just read forums here and there for information. We've been together for a little over 1.5 years, are very serious (talk about the future all the time), and after living only a few miles away from one another, are about to move a few states away from one another once he starts medical school in August. I feel very secure in "us", our future, and our ability to manage the distance - my only concern is how much I'm going to miss him. I miss him dearly when I haven't seen him for just a few short days!
I'll be starting my job as a consultant, so though not in the medical field, will also have long, hectic days. We've come to a mutual understanding that we are going to set aside 20 minutes a few times a week to Facetime and send each other a daily text or voicemail, no matter how brief. Visits will occur every 4-6 weeks (I get flight perks with my company so it will likely be me visiting more), and we have plans to close the distance once I get promoted in 2 years, and have more flexibility in where I can live.
Here comes my questions:
-Any tips for entering into and maintaining an LDR?
-Ideas for care packages or sweet ways I can send "thinking of you" gifts?
-The "plan" is to become engaged in the middle of 3rd year, so we have 1.5 years to plan a wedding (which would likely be before residency). Any qualms with that?
-This is thinking ahead, but what is suggested for managing and merging finances over time? I will be making a consistently strong salary, while he will be drowning in student loan debt. Should I take on some of his loans, or pay a larger percentage of rent, etc.?
-How do most medical students afford engagement rings?
Thanks!!