Dating in Medical School

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surag said:
you're like 12 years old, and dreaming about being a surgeon, and romanticizing what its like to be a doctor....after playing hour of starcraft and surfing porn.
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Being outlifted and outscored on the MCAT by a 12 year old isn't something to brag about.
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"Originally Posted by SplenoMegastar
I'll bite. I'm an MS2 single female. I find that regular "townie" type dudes don't want to date a woman who's going to be a doctor. Most guys in my class and even the year before and after are in serious relationships or married. Then there are a few that are just weird. I'm moderately attractive but I do have a pretty loud sneeze. What can you do.


please forward your resume, with one (1) copy of your transcript, official or unofficial, to my office. when your step 1 score becomes available, please forward that as well. additionally, please write a personal statement (limit 1.75 double-spaced pages, 13 pt comic sans MS font, 1.22 inch margin) describing the loudness of your sneeze and/or other irregular bodily noises.

once the committee has reviewed your file, you will then placed into one of three categories: glimmer-of-hope interview, we-can't-make-up-our-minds hold, or silent rejection. applications will be reviewed on the a random rolling basis and you will be notified of our decision when we feel like it.

sincerely,
THE committee"

Ok, double quoted, but freakin' hilariously funny/tragically true. I'm a pre-med student right now, and this thread is great, hah. My girlfriend is in DO school right now, and it almost felt like I was way more busy than her during her first year than I was as an undergrad, junior/ish year (I'm entering my, ugh, 6th-ish year/final year of undergrad, long story. I love her, but she's a bit overwhelming, and would probably marry me tomorrow if I asked, but there's no chance in hell I would do that any time soon. So you all think she'll get busy soon and stop bugging me or what? Hey, why isn't she more busy yet??! (she's just started year 2)
 
Okay, I think that's about all I can take of this thread-gone-train-wreck. :scared:
 
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For Christ's sake, take your little back and forth ****bomb hurling somewhere else. Both of you have far exceeded the point where either of you has anything useful to offer.
 
I personally think Tyler Durden's materials were better than Neil's
 
back home now on vacation, where my normal friends are.. I read this thread and am reminded of the attitudes of typical people who go to med school, ****ing sucks.
 
agreed. mostly a bunch of guys trying to prove that they're better than one another.
 
Well, I went ahead and did what I should have done earlier...I just ignored a bunch of people who I figure wont add anything.

Actually, I've contributed a lot, its just frustrating to see a whole lot of nonsense being posted.

I also agree that I've been part of the problem...but again, I wanted to clear the debris from whats seriously important and so I felt a necessity to post.

Anyway, no, I'm not trying to 1 up anyone on this forum...thats a bit pathetic.

also, I'm not in med school yet, just giving out relationship/dating advice.

Also, I've been getting some good PMs lately. Keep em coming.

peace
 
surag said:
Actually, I've contributed a lot, its just frustrating to see a whole lot of nonsense being posted.

Anyway, no, I'm not trying to 1 up anyone on this forum...thats a bit pathetic.

also, I'm not in med school yet, just giving out relationship/dating advice.

Also, I've been getting some good PMs lately. Keep em coming.

peace
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Yes, because a few PMs can turn anybody from an AFC to Brad Pitt.
 
We need an admin in here to close the thread or ban those two people.
 
zoocchini said:
Currently, I've been long-distance with a girl for 6 months and counting. We are planning to move in together this September.
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Look. That's not a long distance relationship. That's a short period of time where you were apart and most importantly, knew you were going to be back together. I don't think there's anybody on here who would say "Yeah, there's no way you can make it apart for 7 months."

Try dating/married/engaged to someone for a few years somewhere in the middle of the relationship that were long distance and see where that gets you.
 
Try dating/married/engaged to someone for a few years somewhere in the middle of the relationship that were long distance and see where that gets you.
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I'm sorry but I can't understand what you're trying to say in that sentence. Please explain...
First and foremost, LEARN HOW TO PUT TOGETHER A SENTENCE. :D

So let me get this straight.... in your mind a long distance relationship would involve spending years and years apart with no plan of getting together again??

I'm not surprised that you feel a little bitter over LDRs. Years apart and no plan to get back together?? I'm sorry but that's a little sad. You guys should care enough about each other to at least try to see eachother once in a few years... Who told you that long-distance relationships (or any relationship for that matter) didn't require effort or sacrifice??

Now I realize that your relationship may have been more challenging than mine, but that doesn't magically make you more qualified. I'm just as entitled to voicing my opinion on this subject as you are... It's not a competition over whose relationship is the worst. If it were, I'm sure you would win.

Why is it that you think my relationship would fail if we spent a year or two apart? Relationships don't just SPONTANEOUSLY EXPIRE after 2-3 years.

1. If I started getting jealous of her friends and got offended if she didn't text me every 5 seconds, then yeah it could fail....
2. If we got bored of eachother because sex was the reason I was attracted to her in the first place, then yeah it could fail...
3. If we both end up losing interest in eachother because we're are lame-asses that don't have anything to offer to a conversation, then yeah it could fail....
4. Or maybe one of us just plain ****s up, then yeah it could fail...

Building trust isn't easy; it takes time. Finding time to be together isn't easy; it takes sacrifice. Letting your partner know how much you care takes time and dedication. In general, both sides have to put in a lot of effort to get something back.

Oh and for your information, most long-distance relationships don't make it to the 7 month mark. Social psychologists that have done research on long-distance relationships usually start measuring at the 2-3 month mark. I think that someone on this thread had actually been discussed some LDR statistics which showed that most distance relationships failed at the 3 month mark.

Try dating/married/engaged to someone for a few years
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When I discuss relationships, I'm not discussing marriages or engagements... I've never been married or engaged before so I hardly have anything to say about that. Most marriages would definately last 7 months of long distance, but you would have to be foolish to think that most relationships do. Personally, I just met my girlfriend last winter. We knew eachother for about 3 months before going LDR.
 
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theArmy said:
We need an admin in here to close the thread or ban those two people.
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or not make ridiculous assertions as a lurker and newbie...what the he!!??
 
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This whole med school thing really gets in the way of my personal life.

I started dating a girl 2 or 3 months ago, and now i'm two weeks into my M2 year and class is just so overwhelming right now. She's supposed to come over later tonight for a movie, but I might have to actually cancel because I feel so far behind in what we've done so far.

I never thought I'd become so pathetic.
 
GuyWhoDoesStuff said:
This whole med school thing really gets in the way of my personal life.

I started dating a girl 2 or 3 months ago, and now i'm two weeks into my M2 year and class is just so overwhelming right now. She's supposed to come over later tonight for a movie, but I might have to actually cancel because I feel so far behind in what we've done so far.

I never thought I'd become so pathetic.
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ah yes, med school does that to people
 
zoocchini said:
I'm sorry but I can't understand what you're trying to say in that sentence. Please explain...
First and foremost, LEARN HOW TO PUT TOGETHER A SENTENCE. :D
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Congratulations, you've found the very first syntax error on the internet. English isn't my first language, sometimes I get mixed up and don't proofread.

Your reply seems to have solidified my idea of you as someone who is just out to talk smack. I'm not going to rise to your bait. Furthermore I don't need to read studies to know what's up with women and relationships, champ.

My point, which seems to have eluded you, was that you know exactly nothing about relationships. Especially long term, long distance whatever. So while I'm happy for you in your first relationship, So forgive me for getting riled up when you come running in here thinking you know the secret to life and happiness.

And so while I wish you the very best in life, and I hope you go on to have obnoxiously cute children and a ******ed golden retriever, don't come crying to us when you find out she cheated on you and the cake was a lie. :thumbup:
 
If you're going to say that I know nothing, I would appreciate if you gave a reason.
If you think my advice is bad, please point out the flaws.

But you haven't made any comments besides pointing that 'I've only been dating for 7 months'.

And I pointed out your syntax error because I believe that if you want to convince people that you're better than me, it would help if you could express that thought in an organized literate way. I'm sorry if you took offence to it. I understand where you're coming from; english is my second language too.

But what makes you think my girlfriend would cheat on me? You clearly don't know either of us. Perhaps you have been conditioned to believe that women do so, because of your past relationships.

Is that why you're so pessimistic about relationships in general? You don't need to be pessimistic. Long-distance relationships need not be difficult and unfulfilling as long as you put the effort into it. I'm not saying that I have all the answers. but I believe that perhaps there is a person or two that can benefit from my advice. Everyone has flaws and no matter how dumb you think someone is, there is still something you can learn from them. Now, if you want to discuss your relationship with me, I'd love to share experiences with you.

but cut the 'you know nothing' crap. seriously. if you don't llike my advice, tell me what you think is wrong with it. but don't go insulting my character. grow up. girls don't dig jealous immature kids (neither do guys).

I don't need to read studies to know what's up with women and relationships, chump.
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If you're knowledge of women is directly in conflict with studies, then perhaps you hould be open-minded enough to question the foundations of your knowledge. Science is the reliable way of how people understand the world. Are you saying that you know so much about relationships that you can just ignore science?? Oh and calling me a chump. Wow you must be a tough guy... Spare me the act.

If you know so much, then please share your knowledge rather than attacking those of us who are trying to help. That's what a forum is for, sharing knowledge. I'm sure you have experiences that I can learn from as well.
 
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This thread is too long to read its entirety, but based on the first page of posts, and there's a bunch of advice on the type of women male med schools should date (i.e. teachers, pharm students, nurses, etc). But what type of men should female med students date?
 
sindee1984 said:
This thread is too long to read its entirety, but based on the first page of posts, and there's a bunch of advice on the type of women male med schools should date (i.e. teachers, pharm students, nurses, etc). But what type of men should female med students date?
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Depends on what kind of female med student you are. There are two types:

1. Sweet, caring, nice girls who are in medicine to help others
2. Power-hungry aggressive types with a chip on their shoulder, destined to break up the ol' boys' club at all costs.


So, start by figuring out which of the two you are and we can go from there. (Hint: no one wants to date #2.)
 
I dunno, I have been dating someone who doesn't yet know what he wants to do with his life at twenty-six, and it has created hell of problems because his confidence is shot to pieces. He seems almost intimidated by me just 'cause I sort of have a future mapped out. I'm by no means type A; I'm sure of it. He just seems to have an inferiority complex (amongst a myriad of other things). Needless to say, it's going downhill fast :). So my point is, it might not be the best idea to date someone who feels they are less successful and intelligent than you; it doesn't matter how much you try to assure them they aren't worth any less.

Chicks dig confidence?
 
VenusinFurs said:
I dunno, I have been dating someone who doesn't yet know what he wants to do with his life at twenty-six, and it has created hell of problems because his confidence is shot to pieces. He seems almost intimidated by me just 'cause I sort of have a future mapped out. I'm by no means type A; I'm sure of it. He just seems to have an inferiority complex (amongst a myriad of other things). Needless to say, it's going downhill fast :). So my point is, it might not be the best idea to date someone who feels they are less successful and intelligent than you; it doesn't matter how much you try to assure them they aren't worth any less.

Chicks dig confidence?
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Works with both sexes. I dated a girl who's in a completely different, much more laid back Master's program, and she spent most of our time together trying to belittle the amount of work medical students (and eventually doctors) did while making her program sound sooooooo tough because she had to read a book and write a short paper, while babysitting 20 hours a week. I briefly (and kindly) explained to her that the fact that she had time to babysit ANY hours a week was a pretty clear sign that she didn't have it THAT bad (I didn't come out and tell her blatantly that I was clearly working much much harder than she was, but I think it became apparent). Anyway, I dumped her when I realized she was entirely too insecure, which led to her instigating stupid, pointless fights.
 
ACGator09 said:
please forward your resume, with one (1) copy of your transcript, official or unofficial, to my office. when your step 1 score becomes available, please forward that as well. additionally, please write a personal statement (limit 1.75 double-spaced pages, 13 pt comic sans MS font, 1.22 inch margin) describing the loudness of your sneeze and/or other irregular bodily noises.

once the committee has reviewed your file, you will then placed into one of three categories: glimmer-of-hope interview, we-can't-make-up-our-minds hold, or silent rejection. applications will be reviewed on the a random rolling basis and you will be notified of our decision when we feel like it.

sincerely,
THE committee



:hungover:
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lol :laugh:
 
MsKrispyKreme said:
Maybe we have different definitions of pretty b/c ~80% of the girls were attractive and ~95% of the girls were more attractive than their male counterparts.

Uhm, most med school guys are skinny & geeky. :confused:
There are a few muscle-bound douche bags (e.g. The Todd), but most are more J.D.'ish.

The handsome alpha males (e.g. Turk) are few & far between in med school b/c most alpha males who are scientifically inclined tend to become dentists or engineers.



I'd let you buy me lunch. ;)
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lol, love the Scrubs analogy :laugh:
 
I think it must really suck if you go to a med school that has no ugrad attached to it.
 
A eureka moment from the female perspective on dating - this seriously blew my mind when I finally figured it out...


We women give guys waaaayyy too much credit for being deep and complex, assigning hundreds of hidden meanings for their every action.

The one solid thing I have learned about dating men is that they are NOT COMPLICATED. A guy calls you? He's interested. A guy makes you feel like crap? It's not that his family was really repressive, and he's dealing with issues because he had a bad relationship with his mom...it's that he makes you feel like crap.

Be brave, tell the boy how he's making you feel, and then move on if it doesn't change.

Ladies, hope you realize this too someday - makes for exponentially less drama and much more fun :)
 
sugeny said:
A eureka moment from the female perspective on dating - this seriously blew my mind when I finally figured it out...


We women give guys waaaayyy too much credit for being deep and complex, assigning hundreds of hidden meanings for their every action.

The one solid thing I have learned about dating men is that they are NOT COMPLICATED. A guy calls you? He's interested. A guy makes you feel like crap? It's not that his family was really repressive, and he's dealing with issues because he had a bad relationship with his mom...it's that he makes you feel like crap.

Be brave, tell the boy how he's making you feel, and then move on if it doesn't change.

Ladies, hope you realize this too someday - makes for exponentially less drama and much more fun :)
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GuyWhoDoesStuff said:
Depends on what kind of female med student you are. There are two types:

1. Sweet, caring, nice girls who are in medicine to help others
2. Power-hungry aggressive types with a chip on their shoulder, destined to break up the ol' boys' club at all costs.


So, start by figuring out which of the two you are and we can go from there. (Hint: no one wants to date #2.)
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No 1.... ok, so now which kind of guys should I be dating? haha
 
sugeny said:
A eureka moment from the female perspective on dating - this seriously blew my mind when I finally figured it out...


We women give guys waaaayyy too much credit for being deep and complex, assigning hundreds of hidden meanings for their every action.

The one solid thing I have learned about dating men is that they are NOT COMPLICATED. A guy calls you? He's interested. A guy makes you feel like crap? It's not that his family was really repressive, and he's dealing with issues because he had a bad relationship with his mom...it's that he makes you feel like crap.

Be brave, tell the boy how he's making you feel, and then move on if it doesn't change.

Ladies, hope you realize this too someday - makes for exponentially less drama and much more fun :)
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:laugh: Some of the guys are deep. But calling you means just that though - interest. But there are some subtle signs too which if you miss enough times, you'll miss out.
 
Excelsius said:
:laugh: Some of the guys are deep. But calling you means just that though - interest. But there are some subtle signs too which if you miss enough times, you'll miss out.
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:p Fair enough, but I've been so happy once I enacted the "men = not complicated" algorithm that I'm super ok with missing the subtle signs right now.

Maybe later this year (aka after step 1) I'll start the 'subtle sign' analysis. Haha, Any tips?
 
sugeny said:
:p Fair enough, but I've been so happy once I enacted the "men = not complicated" algorithm that I'm super ok with missing the subtle signs right now.

Maybe later this year (aka after step 1) I'll start the 'subtle sign' analysis. Haha, Any tips?
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Hahahaha. Well, if it helps you somehow overcome a roadblock, then go for it.

I am not the right person to give tips about guys in general since I do a lot of things differently, but as far as the initial approach goes, I'd say that you definitely don't need a call to realize that a guy is interested. He already asked for your number, right? But you can also note the eye contact - that's a sign of interest for both sexes (unless someone has a ripe, succulent zit and that's what you're actually looking at!). Some guys are shy and will divert their eyes when you look back. You should know then that no matter what, they're not going to approach you and unless you take some action yourself, nothing will happen.

This one's more personal: I usually make only one attempt to ask a girl out. So if you have to turn down an offer for a legitimate reason - like you have to visit family out of town or have a bad bout of cramps, it is up to you to let me know about it and make the next move. Asking a girl out more than once is really nagging; however, if a girl seems to be particularly special, then an unusual persistence might kick in.

If you have any female perspectives that are not well known, divulge them (publicly or privately).
 
GuyWhoDoesStuff said:
Depends on what kind of female med student you are. There are two types:

1. Sweet, caring, nice girls who are in medicine to help others
2. Power-hungry aggressive types with a chip on their shoulder, destined to break up the ol' boys' club at all costs.


So, start by figuring out which of the two you are and we can go from there. (Hint: no one wants to date #2.)
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Agreed 1000%. Something is great about a female being feminine and not masculine.
 
Well, I dunno, I don't really like guys who are power-hungry and aggressive either. It tends to cast all other pursuits (such as friendships and relationships) back into the shadows. I don't really think that's necessarily a gender thing.
 
just got the classic "you don't give me enough attention so we shouldn't hang out anymore" talk from my girl.. well no **** I just got done with exams, studying 10+ hours a day for three weeks, now I'm home for christmas hell no I don't have time! but that doesn't mean I don't think about her and wish I could have time... not that that means anything. and yes if I could go back, fail my exams, and keep the girl I would choose med school every time so I don't blame her.

I remember really clearly having the conversation with my cousin (who is in law school) before going to med school; "Well, the nice thing about having a professional career is that if everything else doesn't work out at least you have work...." depressing as hell but becomes more true every day lol.

the worst part is realizing that even if you met the perfect person who was meant for the *real* you, she wouldn't even like you because that person has turned into the stressed out neurotic nut-job that you are 75% of the time in school. lol :rolleyes:
 
coldweatherblue said:
just got the classic "you don't give me enough attention so we shouldn't hang out anymore" talk from my girl.. well no **** I just got done with exams, studying 10+ hours a day for three weeks, now I'm home for christmas hell no I don't have time! but that doesn't mean I don't think about her and wish I could have time... not that that means anything. and yes if I could go back, fail my exams, and keep the girl I would choose med school every time so I don't blame her.

I remember really clearly having the conversation with my cousin (who is in law school) before going to med school; "Well, the nice thing about having a professional career is that if everything else doesn't work out at least you have work...." depressing as hell but becomes more true every day lol.

the worst part is realizing that even if you met the perfect person who was meant for the *real* you, she wouldn't even like you because that person has turned into the stressed out neurotic nut-job that you are 75% of the time in school. lol :rolleyes:
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**** b***hes...get moneY!
 
Any relationship needs some level of commitment and effort. You really need to compromise, set some priorities, and understand. For me, I dated a guy while he was doing his residency. I understood he was busy. Sometimes he would work two days straight. I didn't necessarily understand what he was going through because I am a pre-pharm student, doing a double major in pharmaceutical chemistry/english, but we were both busy. Yeah, he was stressed, but I made sure I could do things to make life easier. On the days he was too exhausted to hang out, I would make the drive and help clean up his place--take care of him. We would just lay down together, and it was comfortable. Although we aren't together anymore, I don't think it is impossible to date during your residency. You just have to find that girl/guy that understands your schedule...my relationship was something I cherished, but he ended up being a little too controlling--he didn't want me going to Pharmacy school, in his words, he wanted to "take care of me" when we got married. Eh.
 
hey!!!!
i'm realy amazed for all those guys who date in a med school :eek:..
Pretty astonishing 4 how do u manage to do two challenges at a time..
i mean both engages ur mind horribly...
Anyways if u do u r :thumbup: ...
 
I am curious, do you med students tend to find people outside of school? Itching to know if I have any time/chance at all to date during med school.
 
aclementine said:
what program/year is your current boyfriend/girlfriend in? how/where did you guys meet?
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My fiance is a resident and I am in MS3.

We went to the same college, but he's two years older than I am. We met when I was a sophomore, and he was a senior. He also went to the med school I currently go to.

We've been together for five years now.

EDIT: We are planning to get married next year. :)
 
gulnosh said:
hey!!!!
i'm realy amazed for all those guys who date in a med school :eek:..
Pretty astonishing 4 how do u manage to do two challenges at a time..
i mean both engages ur mind horribly...
Anyways if u do u r :thumbup: ...
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It's not a challenge if you're enjoying it, right?

I love medicine and I love my fiance. So I enjoy both.
 
I really do admire those who date during residency. If anything, I was really proud of my ex. It takes a lot to go through all of that stress and endure such harsh hours, but on top of that, taking on a relationship. Obviously, one knows what one is getting in to when dating a Med. Student. It isn't a cake-walk...but if it is right...it is right.
 
Male med students have it so much easier when it comes to prospective dates. You're total status symbols for most girls and gay guys. Future female doctors seem to make most guys so insecure, except the pervy subsect you wouldn't want to get mixed in with anyway.
 
Neuronix said:
:laugh::laugh::laugh: I wish!
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She's right, actually.

I used to study philosophy. Mentioning that typically provoked a noticeable negative reaction on dates. Same thing for working as a programmer.

Mentioning that I study medicine, on the other hand, almost always provokes a positive response.
 
GuyWhoDoesStuff said:
Depends on what kind of female med student you are. There are two types:

1. Sweet, caring, nice girls who are in medicine to help others
2. Power-hungry aggressive types with a chip on their shoulder, destined to break up the ol' boys' club at all costs.

So, start by figuring out which of the two you are and we can go from there. (Hint: no one wants to date #2.)
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You left out my favorite type: the geeky/ambitious girls :love:
 
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