Desperately need help on dating

[dozitgetchahi]

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How high is this number of people? I don't seem to have encountered them in any significant capacity.

Look at the average American's mental health status nowadays...the huge percentage of people stressed/depressed and on SSRIs, huge numbers of people abusing opioids, increasing alcoholism rates, declining life expectancy of caucasians largely 2/2 opioid abuse/EtOH abuse/suicide. Granted, there are many, many stressors in our society driving all of this (worsened job opportunities, a 'Great Recession' that never fully resolved itself, etc) - but I really do think the 'casual sex movement' and its associated weakening of the American family, increased divorce rate, greatly worsened dating challenges for the twenty-thirtysomething set etc etc are a major contributor. Liberals always scream bloody murder when I mention this, but people of both genders were almost certainly happier in the pre-1960s era. You'd be a fool to think our currently horrendous way of having young people fumbling around to find relationships/spouses (as well as easier divorcing, kids brought up without both parents, etc) isn't part of it.

Instead, what we have now is a downright sadistic dating scene for people in their 20s/30s, a 50% divorce rate, nearly 15% of the population on SSRIs, huge amounts of opioid abuse, etc. Yippee!

 

[lymphocyte]

Liberals always scream bloody murder when I mention this, but people of both genders were almost certainly happier in the pre-1960s era.

1. Unless they were black.
2. Unless one partner was violent
3. Unless the women wanted to be doctors or lawyers or professionals or whatever.
4. Unless the men wanted to be stay-at-home dads.
5. Unless both partners wanted to have satisfying careers.
6. Unless they didn't have access to reliable birth control.
7. Belgium has a 70% divorce rate. They're pretty happy in Belgium. I hear they eat chocolates and waffles.

What is this fantasy world where things were so much better in the good ole days? You mention the economic factors that seem to explain 99% of everything, but then you quickly sweep them aside because, no, it's "casual sex" that's majorly ruined things. Nevermind about causation and correlation. If only we could be a more sexually repressed nation... like all those other sexually repressed nations that seem to do so swimmingly well. Give me a break.

http://freakonomics.com/2007/10/01/why-are-women-so-unhappy/

 

[rokshana]

So all 46 yo women who have been divorced 2-3 times are looking for long term relationships now? So when a woman says something we have to mind read and realize that they actually mean the opposite? Ha!

46 yo with 2 marriages and 2 divorces?? yeah...she is...she commits fast

when you're young its easy to go out with someone just for the fun of it, or someone you know has no long term potential...but as you get older, you start to think about the longer term...and are you really gonna invest months or years in a relationship KNOWING that there is no real future? probably not...is this EVERY woman...of course not...but the likelihood of a 26 yo wanting a casual relationship is far greater than a 46 yo...

actually i give you kudos for bailing out earlier rather than later and realized that it was a bad idea to go back, even if she says the casual nature of what you want is ok.

 

[J ROD]

You play to win the game..............

 

[Doctor4Life1769]

46 yo with 2 marriages and 2 divorces?? yeah...she is...she commits fast

when you're young its easy to go out with someone just for the fun of it, or someone you know has no long term potential...but as you get older, you start to think about the longer term...and are you really gonna invest months or years in a relationship KNOWING that there is no real future? probably not...is this EVERY woman...of course not...but the likelihood of a 26 yo wanting a casual relationship is far greater than a 46 yo...

actually i give you kudos for bailing out earlier rather than later and realized that it was a bad idea to go back, even if she says the casual nature of what you want is ok.

She doesn't want kids
She's 46 and wanted casual. She is one who enjoys traveling. Idk if I'm middle aged I could care less of long term at that point and rather care more at 30 plus than I would at 40 plus.

Whatever. It's all moot. It's hilarious how something as simple as casual sex was turned into something big by most of the beezies here who aren't getting any.

 

[Smurfette]

This thread stopped being useful for the OP a while ago. Closing.