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[Tco87]

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Hello all. Someone who is going to be going to vet school with me this fall, but who I've never met before, just friended me on Facebook. My impulse is to wait to accept her friend request because I'm a fairly private person and I feel weird being "friends" with someone I've never actually talked to. On the other hand, I don't post anything on Facebook that I would care about a stranger knowing and I don't want to start vet school with someone not liking me over me not being their Facebook buddy.

What do you think I should do? Have any of you had to deal with drama for not friending your classmates before meeting them? I would love to believe we'll all be more professional than that, but I keep hearing that vet school is like high school so.....

 

[TigerWillow]

Hmmm I'm one of those people who does friend everybody in my class so if I forget their name I can quickly look it up on my phone. Saves embarrassment.

But I think that would be ridiculous to be mad at someone for not accepting a friend request before school! Keep it pending until school if you are uncomfortable about it.

 

[Lissarae06]

Hello all. Someone who is going to be going to vet school with me this fall, but who I've never met before, just friended me on Facebook. My impulse is to wait to accept her friend request because I'm a fairly private person and I feel weird being "friends" with someone I've never actually talked to. On the other hand, I don't post anything on Facebook that I would care about a stranger knowing and I don't want to start vet school with someone not liking me over me not being their Facebook buddy.

What do you think I should do? Have any of you had to deal with drama for not friending your classmates before meeting them? I would love to believe we'll all be more professional than that, but I keep hearing that vet school is like high school so.....

I accepted most of my classmates before actually meeting them. I wanted to try to get a feel for the people I would be spending the next four years of my life with. I don't see why someone would get mad if you waited to accept though. That would be silly.

 

[jmo1012]

I accepted most of my classmates before actually meeting them. I wanted to try to get a feel for the people I would be spending the next four years of my life with. I don't see why someone would get mad if you waited to accept though. That would be silly.

👍 it's fun to stalk *i mean learn* about other people's lives since you're gonna spend all day every day with each other!

 

[cowgirla]

You could always accept and put them into a special "Vet student" group so they can't see anything you dont want to share. Privacy settings are a wonderful thing. Then you can still stalk them, but they cant stalk you. Win/win

 

[spoondiggity]

I accepted most of my classmates before actually meeting them. I wanted to try to get a feel for the people I would be spending the next four years of my life with. I don't see why someone would get mad if you waited to accept though. That would be silly.

True!! Personally, I've requested everyone (I think) in the WesternU Facebook group... but that is just how I am! I'm super friendly and outgoing and I want to get to know everyone (put faces to names etc) as much as possible before classes start in August! I'm not offended at all though if someone doesn't accept my friend request!

 

[bbeventer]

Haha Tco! I think I know exactly what you mean. Today I logged onto my account and found like 6 friend request. I was like 😱 when did I become popular. Then I realized they were all from our vet school class.

I debated with the fact to accept them, as I think I am like you, I only accept people I have a personal connection to. However, like others said I thought it might be nice to "learn" about them and get a feel who I will be spending the next 4 years of my life with. This evening I had a pleasant conversation with one gal that added me. So far it hasn't been too traumatizing of an experience. I don't think anyone will get upset if you hold off accepting their request though.

 

[sooprnova]

I had this same internal debate. I ultimately ended up accepting the friend requests. I'm not making any special groups or anything; what they see is what they get. I'm friends with my mom, and she doesn't say anything about my sometimes offensive, incensing posts.

Then again, I'm almost 32 and at this point in my life I am just not worried about what others think of me. We'll either get along or we won't!

 

[nyanko]

Then again, I'm almost 32 and at this point in my life I am just not worried about what others think of me. We'll either get along or we won't!

👍

I accept most friend requests on fb too. whatevs.

 

[Tco87]

Thanks everyone for replying! I'm glad to know I wasn't the only one who debated with accepting vs. ignoring. I decided to just accept everyone since you're all right and they're going to get to know me sooner or later, might as well be now.

 

[StartingoverVet]

We had a much longer discussion on this exact topic about a year ago. I am too lazy today to look it up, maybe TT can if she wants a break from studying.

One of the pennwe's was worried about her bluntness turning off her future classmates, I encouraged her to accept anyway, and then she proceeded to annoy one(some?) of her classmates. It might be interesting to check back with her and see if she regrets the decision or not.

Can't remember exactly who it was.. maybe pooter? anyway, the thread is out there.