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cloverpie said:Okay, a little bit of context here...
He and I are currently doing long-distance. He feels that he needs the summer with me because he's going crazy without seeing me. Um, not seeing him isn't on my top ten list of favorite things either. We see each other once a month though. I had planned a summer internship where I would be able to spend 7 weeks with him. He claims we need three months because he needs more time to confirm that he is "able to make sacrifices for me." I don't need that time for him, however. He asked me to take out a loan for summer classes next year and said he'd help me pay it off down the road. I told him that it would put me behind for the MCAT. He just thinks it's very easy to get a loan. Right, when his sibling is in community college and mine is attending an Ivy League school for undergrad, he forgets that there tends to be ahem, financial difficulties. My parents were even willing to help financially for me to take summer classes (I attend an out-of-state institution that hits us hard tuition-wise) and I just felt guilty.It's not fair to place that financial burden on them when I have other options. Also, my mom and he don't get along so he really can't visit. It sucks because I know that I am willing to move near him once undergrad is over. It's one goddamn year. Why is he balking on "making sacrifices" for me now?
In short, there is an underlying lack of support because of my complaining about the amount of work involved ("no passion") but it's not as if I'm totally blameless here either. This is driving a real rift between us. What do you think?
It seems as if your mind is pretty much made up already. Telling us this information probably isn't going to shift the general SDN consensus, seeing as we rallied behind you (and against him) nearly unanimously after your initial post. However, none of us can take action for you. If you want to break up with him/confront him over this, you'll have to do it offline.