Hello,
This past cycle, I was accepted to both Northwestern and UHawaii Medical School (I am a hawaii resident). While this may seem like an obvious choice for most, I was conflicted between the two because I really wanted to go home after having spent the past 4 years away for undergraduate, yet also wanted the prestige of a top medical school education. I visited their accepted students day, yet I felt immediate draw or attraction that comes with falling in love with a school. I floated between the two for a solid three weeks, and was solidly indecisive come April 30th. I listened to parents, friends, and educators, and ultimately decided to chose Northwestern.
However, after making my choice, I received extreme pressure from my family to reverse my decision and choose Hawaii, even days after the national deadline has passed. I know I chose Northwestern, but my mother has been harassing me about this for so long that now I don't even know why I chose that school in the first place. It has now been more then 2 weeks since I've committed to Northwestern, and I am now considering a year-long deferral from Northwestern because I don't want to go to medical school at the expense of ruining my parent's relationship with me (Ex: "We won't help you find your own place or go to your white coat ceremony if you go to Chicago, your debt will be entirely on you, etc).
My questions are: 1) If I chose to defer to buy myself more time and get my life in order, and let's say I withdraw altogether from Northwestern and try to reapply to Hawaii and apply to California schools, what are my chances of getting accepted? Stats wise, I graduated magna cum laude and had high MCAT scores
2) How should I explain to my parents the situation I am in and relate to them in an effective way that isn't belittling their intelligence or threatening to be rebellious for the sake of rebellion
3) What would be a solid deferral argument to send to Northwestern, since I'm sure tons of other students are in my position as well and I don't think telling them I have issues with my parents is going to cut it.
This past cycle, I was accepted to both Northwestern and UHawaii Medical School (I am a hawaii resident). While this may seem like an obvious choice for most, I was conflicted between the two because I really wanted to go home after having spent the past 4 years away for undergraduate, yet also wanted the prestige of a top medical school education. I visited their accepted students day, yet I felt immediate draw or attraction that comes with falling in love with a school. I floated between the two for a solid three weeks, and was solidly indecisive come April 30th. I listened to parents, friends, and educators, and ultimately decided to chose Northwestern.
However, after making my choice, I received extreme pressure from my family to reverse my decision and choose Hawaii, even days after the national deadline has passed. I know I chose Northwestern, but my mother has been harassing me about this for so long that now I don't even know why I chose that school in the first place. It has now been more then 2 weeks since I've committed to Northwestern, and I am now considering a year-long deferral from Northwestern because I don't want to go to medical school at the expense of ruining my parent's relationship with me (Ex: "We won't help you find your own place or go to your white coat ceremony if you go to Chicago, your debt will be entirely on you, etc).
My questions are: 1) If I chose to defer to buy myself more time and get my life in order, and let's say I withdraw altogether from Northwestern and try to reapply to Hawaii and apply to California schools, what are my chances of getting accepted? Stats wise, I graduated magna cum laude and had high MCAT scores
2) How should I explain to my parents the situation I am in and relate to them in an effective way that isn't belittling their intelligence or threatening to be rebellious for the sake of rebellion
3) What would be a solid deferral argument to send to Northwestern, since I'm sure tons of other students are in my position as well and I don't think telling them I have issues with my parents is going to cut it.