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[ziggyandjazzy]

The snooze button is my friend. I set my alarm for when I would ideally wake up to workout in the morning, but allow enough snooze time until I need to absolutely get up, just in case.


I wouldn't have this problem if society was more kind to night owls

My parents never let us use the snooze button lol. It stuck with me

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[WildZoo]

My parents never let us use the snooze button lol. It stuck with me

My mom was my alarm when I was younger, she made sure I got up when I was supposed to. She also is a super neat and clean person. Neither of those things have extended into my adult life

Though my tendency to sleep only under a blanket to avoid having to make the bed has

 

[that redhead]

I set my alarm for when I want to get up. Often I’ll hit snooze but use the 9 minutes to ease into consciousness. Sometimes I fall back asleep though.

Hubs sometimes snores and I hate it. He easily sleeps through the gentle nudge, the more insistent kick and even the hard shove. I have to get him to semi-wake up and reposition, which he never remembers I’m definitely a light sleeper.

 

[Karabiner13]

I set my alarm but generally wake up before it goes off. If it does go off though, there's no ignoring it as Sadie jumps on me making sure I feed her. If I ignore this second alarm I end up with paws scratching me up

 

[ziggyandjazzy]

I set my alarm but generally wake up before it goes off. If it does go off though, there's no ignoring it as Sadie jumps on me making sure I feed her. If I ignore this second alarm I end up with paws scratching me up

My parents don't use an alarm at all. Probably after waking up at the same time for so many years you just get used to it.

After the alarm goes off, the cats sometimes start rattling the doorknob or start meowing outside the door. Tobias though? Unfazed. Though he usually gets up when I do, this morning he didn't get up when I did, even after gently nudging him. He wanted to sleep in lmao. He's the sleepiest laziest dog, just like most greyhounds lol

 

[LyraGardenia]

We already sleep with different blankets (it's some kind of Swedish thing that helps lol)

My husband and I started doing this a few months ago, I don't know why we didn't earlier! I've never heard of it being a Swedish thing, it only started because I came to bed after him one night and he was hogging the covers and wouldn't let go, so I just grabbed a different blanket and then it stuck.

I'm a multiple alarms person, if I'm alone on the weekends I've been known to keep hitting snooze over and over for an hour or two. I can instantly fall back asleep in those 10 minutes and continue dreaming. Hubs is the one alarm and he's up type (if he doesn't wake up before his alarm), but we rarely wake up to the other person's alarm anymore.

 

[capri1722]

Another thing I can't deal with: multiple alarms. I am fully convinced people can be divided up based on whether they use one alarm or a dozen.

I definitely changed between high school and now. I used to need exactly one alarm, and now I hit the snooze button a few times. I am still responsible enough to hit the snooze button instead of the off button so I still only need one alarm on a technicality.

 

[ziggyandjazzy]

My husband and I started doing this a few months ago, I don't know why we didn't earlier! I've never heard of it being a Swedish thing, it only started because I came to bed after him one night and he was hogging the covers and wouldn't let go, so I just grabbed a different blanket and then it stuck.

Yep! Scandinavians traditionally sleep with two duvets on the bed, one for each person. I think it is also traditional in some other European countries as well, but I have Swedish ancestry so that's what I relate to

 

[MixedAnimals77]

Yep! Scandinavians traditionally sleep with two duvets on the bed, one for each person. I think it is also traditional in some other European countries as well, but I have Swedish ancestry so that's what I relate to

I feel like a bad Swede right now since I didn't know this...bad Mixy

 

[twelvetigers]

I was just about to say, just friend TT and you'll find everyone else.

I’m trying to be a good gatekeeper but there are some fairly new faces - y’all don’t get to take offense when I ask who the heck you are lol. If you have enough mutual friends, you get a pass that way.

 

[Stroganoff]

Whenever I share a room with my sister on vacation she ****ing HATES it because my backlight keeps her up no matter now much I dim it.

Sleep masks are bae. The gel foamy ones with the comfy straps. I wish I had used one when I worked nights.

 

[killerleaf]

how do you make the bed with two duvets?? stack them on top of each other? overlap? say "screw it" and let them stay wadded up?

 

[JaynaAli]

I have historically been a one alarm person. Mostly because I get up at the very last minute 99% of the time. Probably my most annoying habit is getting up when my alarm goes off early and I have plans to shower that morning and look nice, showering super quick, then deciding not to dry/fix my hair or put on makeup and going back to bed for 30 minutes. I am also a pretty light sleeper after working on call jobs for literally the past ten years. I can answer the phone from a dead sleep, pop up, and be ready to go in like six minutes.

Repetitive noises drive me insane. Snoring, ticking of the second hand of a clock, heavy machinery beeping from the construction across the street from my apartment...guarantee I won’t fall asleep if that’s going on. If sleeping with a snorer I better fall asleep first.

 

[capri1722]

Today I had to say goodbye to one of my best friends who I've known for about eight and a half years. We laughed together, sang together, cried together. I took her to New Mexico and back with me five times for undergrad and hoped she would stay with me through grad school but alas. Last Wednesday, I rear ended her into someone on the highway and she died a slow, painful death. It wasn't obvious at first. She put on a brave face and took me home, all 15 miles of it, never once leaking even a single drop of fluid. My step brother examined her and gave her the thumbs up, but the next time I gave her a go, I could hear her dying groans. The insurance confirmed my worst fear and said it was time for her to go. And today I had to say goodbye. And I cried. And I'll miss her.

And I just want my goddamn car back.

 

[ajs513]

Today I had to say goodbye to one of my best friends who I've known for about eight and a half years. We laughed together, sang together, cried together. I took her to New Mexico and back with me five times for undergrad and hoped she would stay with me through grad school but alas. Last Wednesday, I rear ended her into someone on the highway and she died a slow, painful death. It wasn't obvious at first. She put on a brave face and took me home, all 15 miles of it, never once leaking even a single drop of fluid. My step brother examined her and gave her the thumbs up, but the next time I gave her a go, I could hear her dying groans. The insurance confirmed my worst fear and said it was time for her to go. And today I had to say goodbye. And I cried. And I'll miss her.

And I just want my goddamn car back.

Spoiler

It literally took me until the end to realize that you were talking about your car. I was like “how are you telling this story so calmly!” Sorry about your car though

 

[ziggyandjazzy]

how do you make the bed with two duvets?? stack them on top of each other? overlap? say "screw it" and let them stay wadded up?

I mean, I never make my bed so they just wad up at the end. But there are a lot of articles online for how Swedes do it if you're interested

Two Duvets, One Bed

When we visited Iceland a while back, I got some of the most sound sleep I’ve had in recent memory. Instead of a top sheet and one big comforter draped over the bed, Icelandic double beds are topped with two fluffy down duvets (untucked) and no top sheet at all. I had a whole duvet […]

witandwhistle.com

Repetitive noises drive me insane. Snoring, ticking of the second hand of a clock, heavy machinery beeping from the construction across the street from my apartment...guarantee I won’t fall asleep if that’s going on. If sleeping with a snorer I better fall asleep first.

I relate to this so much. There was someone in the library repeatedly clicking the mouse like 3 times every few seconds and it was driving me insane. I left to get lunch early haha.
I have also taken out the batteries of those annoying ticking clocks if I am confined to a small room with them. I can't understand how anyone can tolerate that lol

 

[LyraGardenia]

how do you make the bed with two duvets?? stack them on top of each other? overlap? say "screw it" and let them stay wadded up?

We never make our bed either, lol. And I just have a blanket, not a comforter, so it doesn't take up as much room. The one time I did make the bed when my parents visited I put the comforter on like normal, then folded my blanket at the foot of the bed.

 

[MixedAnimals77]

Wedding planning. My inlaws- particularly mother-in-law is crazy. They only have boys so despite our differences I'm like oh well it would be nice of me to include her in things since she doesn't have a daughter. Literally clued her in on the photographer the only thing we have decided 100% on. That's it, I'm out. She offers to FB stalk the photographer and "background check her out." Despite seeing her website and reviews etc. Like W.T.F. I got this photographer highly recommended from the lady who did my senior pictures-was fabulous btw. Like I'm good thanks. I cannot imagine taking her dress shopping with me or going to the venues with me in the slightest. Especially when SO was talking to her about wedding invitations and we are limiting the number of people and not inviting all her cousins, aunts, uncles that we don't know etc and she starts rambling about how all her coworkers will want to come and that I'll have lots of extended family etc that will eat up the 150 we are limiting it to...you have obviously learned nothing about me or my family in the last 6 years. The next year is going to be a blast

 

[MOOSEygoosey]

Wedding planning. My inlaws- particularly mother-in-law is crazy. They only have boys so despite our differences I'm like oh well it would be nice of me to include her in things since she doesn't have a daughter. Literally clued her in on the photographer the only thing we have decided 100% on. That's it, I'm out. She offers to FB stalk the photographer and "background check her out." Despite seeing her website and reviews etc. Like W.T.F. I got this photographer highly recommended from the lady who did my senior pictures-was fabulous btw. Like I'm good thanks. I cannot imagine taking her dress shopping with me or going to the venues with me in the slightest. Especially when SO was talking to her about wedding invitations and we are limiting the number of people and not inviting all her cousins, aunts, uncles that we don't know etc and she starts rambling about how all her coworkers will want to come and that I'll have lots of extended family etc that will eat up the 150 we are limiting it to...you have obviously learned nothing about me or my family in the last 6 years. The next year is going to be a blast

CONGRATS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT BTW!!!! (Sorry idk how late that is but congrats!!!). Listen, you have to live with your SO, not his mother. Believe me when I say I get crazy future MIL stuff but as weird as it is to say, your fiance is your man! He'll always be this woman's son but now he's your fiance and that changes the dynamic. If you don't want her to come dress shopping with you, DON'T! This is a bit of a stretch for an analogy but funerals aren't for the dead, they're for the living; that's why people only praise someone when they die even if they were a terrible person (all young kids that die were "Straight A students" who were "well-liked", etc.) and weddings are for the couple that is having them, not their family or friends! You guys can get married WITHOUT THEM but you choose to have them involved, but it's YOUR DAY!! 150 people is a LARGE wedding!!! You invite who you want and that's that. You can be nice and tell her that she can invite 5 people (or 10, or 1, or none, or however many you want to allot her) and she has to deal with it. She may grumble about it til even years after the wedding but WHO CARES?! You get this day once Make it about your love and your life, not hers!

 

[PippyPony]

I'm getting to a breaking point... my SO is snoring every night and it's really impacting my sleep. I already take medication to help fall asleep and I am noise sensitive. It's gotten to the point where several times per night (or before I fall asleep) I have to repeatedly kick him so he wakes up and stops snoring. I've tried earplugs but they fall out or my cat tries to eat them. He's tried nasal spray and an antihistamine but has put little effort in to actually trying to fix the problem. It's gotten to the point where he may have to sleep on the futon unless he figures this out... and that's just not healthy. the two relationship breakers for me have always been snoring and cat allergies. I really feel helpless, frustrated, and sleep deprived. send help or advice.

Yes, he went to a PCP several months ago. All they did was give him fluticasone, tell him to take allergy meds, and told him that if that doesnt work, that I just need to buy ear plugs. It's infuriating. I definitely think he needs to go back to the doctor (hopefully a different one) who will actually listen and try to solve the issue. But I had to push him to go in the first place and I doubt he wants to go back for them to be as unhelpful as they were last time.

^this is exactly what happened to my husband

Got worse and worse for years. Eventually I lost it and said that if he didn't get it looked into, I couldn't go on living in the same house.

He has since been to an ENT specialist, not a sleep clinic. They set him up with an app that records the snoring and some other sleep data (pretty cool, actually, and now he knows what he s sounds like muwhahaha). They determined he has a deviated septum and some issue with his nasal turbinates.

It's worth it to go see a specialist! Sleep is super important.

Sorry you are having to deal with it. It's tough, because obviously no one means to snore, so I always felt like a jerk getting upset about it...but at the same time, getting woken up every 3 minutes every single night isn't compatible with a healthy life.

 

[Squeaksmom]

Count us in for the separate blankets thing. Our internal thermostats run at very different temperatures! He needs one quilt, and I need 3-5 depending on the season. Plus I tend to roll myself up like a burrito in my sleep....

And I'm usually a 1 alarm person. It's really unusual for me not to get up right away. Except that a couple of days in the past week I've turned it off and gone back to sleep without waking up enough to realise I had. No memory of it at all. I had my big exam yesterday, and I set an alarm every 5 minutes for half an hour as a precaution. I didn't need them, but it gave me peace of mind!

 

[deleted676737]

Count us in for the separate blankets thing. Our internal thermostats run at very different temperatures! He needs one quilt, and I need 3-5 depending on the season. Plus I tend to roll myself up like a burrito in my sleep....

And I'm usually a 1 alarm person. It's really unusual for me not to get up right away. Except that a couple of days in the past week I've turned it off and gone back to sleep without waking up enough to realise I had. No memory of it at all. I had my big exam yesterday, and I set an alarm every 5 minutes for half an hour as a precaution. I didn't need them, but it gave me peace of mind!

I hope that your exam went well! I’ve been thinking about you a lot.

 

[Squeaksmom]

I hope that your exam went well! I’ve been thinking about you a lot.

Thank you!! It felt not terrible, but how it feels and how I do on these ones are usually not related at all. I should know by the end of the week.

 

[Skimble]

Thank you!! It felt not terrible, but how it feels and how I do on these ones are usually not related at all. I should know by the end of the week.

Good luck. I’ve been there, and it sucks. I hope you did well and can continue vet school.

 

[killerleaf]

I mean, I never make my bed so they just wad up at the end. But there are a lot of articles online for how Swedes do it if you're interested

Thank you, I just read the article, and it dawned on me, NO TOP SHEET! uh, no. for those of us who are "mature", I need a couple of layers of various thickness to be able to adjust. I figure that I spend about 10% with no covers, 40% with just the sheet, and 50% with sheet and duvet.

And then it hit me, why I have been feeling a little weird about the concept. While I was undergoing chemo, the first 2 days after each infusion I had to be careful about sweating on people. I slept with my own sheet and blanket, so pretty much the same system. I did not sleep well at all. the nights that I could sleep "in the bed right" were heaven. So, not sure if this would really work for us. Plus, it would drive the dog crazy, on how to get under the covers between the two of us! LOL

 

[Squeaksmom]

Good luck. I’ve been there, and it sucks. I hope you did well and can continue vet school.

Thank you, I hope so too!

 

[cdo96]

I went to go use the old coffee smiley and it’s GONE.

I NEED ANSWERS. I miss my screaming old man!

 

[SkiOtter]

I went to go use the old coffee smiley and it’s GONE.

I NEED ANSWERS. I miss my screaming old man!

I MISS HIM TOO

 

[Lupin21]

Can you store him?

 

[dolphin106258]

AHA IT WORKED.

 

[cdo96]

Can you store him?

bless you!

 

[Lupin21]

bless you!

I deal in smileys. I can get you pretty much anything you need.

 

[cdo96]

I deal in smileys. I can get you pretty much anything you need.

I’m a huge fan of the “cracking the whip” smiley you once used to describe being a TA. I believe I called it the “Mistress Lupin” smiley.

 

[Lupin21]

I’m a huge fan of the “cracking the whip” smiley you once used to describe being a TA. I believe I called it the “Mistress Lupin” smiley.

?

 

[DVMDream]

?

Didn't this first come around in WW when LIS was gifted the whip item a way too many times.... Good Times, good times.

 

[Lupin21]

Didn't this first come around in WW when LIS was gifted the whip item a way too many times.... Good Times, good times.

Haha! Probably. I do miss those days. So many memories.

 

[Trilt]

Humans are upsetting and good animals deserve to live forever.

Sigh.

 

[Minnerbelle]

Does anyone else who works close-ish to the school they’re attending/will be attending have this experience?

Client: Oh you’re a vet student? Where?
Me: I’m going to Penn in the fall. I’m really excited.
Client: That’s great. But I had the worst experience when I took Fluffy to the hospital there. They upcharged me and couldn’t figure out what was wrong. It was horrible and I’m never going back.

Like... okay? What would you like me to say to that? Sorry the charges are more than they are at this one doctor practice? Sorry that sometimes pets (like humans) can’t be fixed? I don’t know. It’s just something that I’ve heard several times from different clients and I don’t understand why they think that’s an acceptable thing to say. Most of the replies from clients who have been there, which is a lot of people since we’re only 30 minutes away from VHUP, are positive and praising the staff for saving their pets’ lives. It’s not necessary to talk about your experience at all, but at least it’s not cringey if it’s a positive one. But does anyone know what I’m talking about? It makes me so uncomfortable.

I’ve worked like 20 min from the teaching hospital for 4 out of the 5 years I’ve been out, and I get this all the time. It really doesn’t bother me at all.

If they complain about cost, I just say that they’re actually pretty cheap on a line item by line item basis. Meds, diagnostics are cheaper there than most private practices, gp included. Sure you have to pay the emergency fee or specialist consult fee, but that’s what you’re there for. I say that the pets who have to stay there are typically those who need advanced care, and that’s what gets expensive. I also say they always have to offer the best, and their best is very advanced and thus expensive. You don’t need to say yes to any or all of it. It might not seem like it at the time, but no one is judging them for declining advanced diagnostics.

If they complain about service/slowness/incompetence, I tell them “yeah... it is a teaching hospital so there is a bit of a hot mess element to the experience. You can usually be assured your pet will have everything sorted out in the end, but between students, interns, and more experienced to top of the field specialists, your pet does get managed by a number of people and that can get confusing. If that bothers you and you desire a more streamlined Hospital that is more accommodating to your personal needs as the pet’s owner, I can refer you to a private practice specialty clinic that is a little further away and a bit more expensive”

If someone is totally off the rockers, I just say “woah ok, sorry you had an awful experience. You don’t have to go back there ever.”

My motto is that in veterinary medicine a client can choose places that excel at most 2 of the following 3, but not all 3, and that determines where they should go for care: Quality, Efficiency, Price

Some places are mediocre or bad at all three. But you’re not going to find a super high quality place that performs high level of care and client service with lots of one on one doctor/client time, that is speedy with excellent support staff skills/people skills, that is cheap.

 

[DVMDream]

I’ve worked like 20 min from the teaching hospital for 4 out of the 5 years I’ve been out, and I get this all the time. It really doesn’t bother me at all.

If they complain about cost, I just say that they’re actually pretty cheap on a line item by line item basis. Meds, diagnostics are cheaper there than most private practices, gp included. Sure you have to pay the emergency fee or specialist consult fee, but that’s what you’re there for. I say that the pets who have to stay there are typically those who need advanced care, and that’s what gets expensive. I also say they always have to offer the best, and their best is very advanced and thus expensive. You don’t need to say yes to any or all of it. It might not seem like it at the time, but no one is judging them for declining advanced diagnostics.

If they complain about service/slowness/incompetence, I tell them “yeah... it is a teaching hospital so there is a bit of a hot mess element to the experience. You can usually be assured your pet will have everything sorted out in the end, but between students, interns, and more experienced to top of the field specialists, your pet does get managed by a number of people and that can get confusing. If that bothers you and you desire a more streamlined Hospital that is more accommodating to your personal needs as the pet’s owner, I can refer you to a private practice specialty clinic that is a little further away and a bit more expensive”

If someone is totally off the rockers, I just say “woah ok, sorry you had an awful experience. You don’t have to go back there ever.”

My motto is that in veterinary medicine a client can choose places that excel at most 2 of the following 3, but not all 3, and that determines where they should go for care: Quality, Efficiency, Price

Some places are mediocre or bad at all three. But you’re not going to find a super high quality place that performs high level of care and client service with lots of one on one doctor/client time, that is speedy with excellent support staff skills/people skills, that is cheap.

Unicorns don't exist?

 

[Squeaksmom]

Not the worst case scenario, but ****!

 

[deleted676737]

@Squeaksmom I saw your post in the c/o 2021 thread. So are you dropping down to that class and repeating the year? If so, at least it isn’t a full dismissal, but it is still an absolutely massive kick to the gut, I’d imagine. It effing sucks. Vet school effing sucks.

Either way, I’m so incredibly sorry. Look out for a PM in a bit. You’ve always got mounds of love and support from us, no matter what happens.

 

[Squeaksmom]

Yes, I'm a 2021 now. It could have been a dismissal, so I know I'm lucky, but it still doesn't feel good.

 

[Lupin21]

Yes, I'm a 2021 now. It could have been a dismissal, so I know I'm lucky, but it still doesn't feel good.

Ugh. The feels. But, glad you are getting a do over. We are always here to cheer you on and will do our best to keep your spirits up!

 

[Squeaksmom]

Thanks @Lupin21 ! I've sure come a long way from class of 2018... I think I'm the first student at my school to have been in 3 different classes. Always breaking new ground....

 

[Lupin21]

Thanks @Lupin21 ! I've sure come a long way from class of 2018... I think I'm the first student at my school to have been in 3 different classes. Always breaking new ground....

Haha! A lot of us have been in two at least for one reason or another, so you're in good company. Besides, odd years are the best years for graduation.

 

[Minnerbelle]

Unicorns don't exist?

Lol I actually try to make my clinic as close to it as possible. I put in the same amount of care that I did in my last ritzy practice to this one, just much cheaper. Buuuut it also means I took a 25% pay cut while working harder... and I’m realizing this is idiotic of me. So who knows.

 

[Squeaksmom]

Not the worst case scenario, but ****!

So the deal is that we have some courses where there's an exam that you have to pass to pass the course, regardless of the rest of your performance in that course, and regardless of the weighting of the exam. I failed one of those and was granted another try, which I also failed to end up in this situation. It was a practical exam, and there are certain safety-related things, called fatal flaws, that are an automatic fail. I fatal flawed... knew it as soon as I did it... but they never called it. The graders must have looked away for a sec and they missed it. But the exam was video taped. The point of the video is so they don't miss giving you any points you deserve, but I have no doubt that when they went back to the recording they saw the fatal flaw. I had a hunch the fail was coming, but didn't know how they would deal with it. They've actually waived a rule to let me drop down a year, and I'm pretty sure I know which faculty member I have to thank for that.

I'm an absolute idiot, but a very lucky one!!

 

[JaynaAli]

Making decisions about the future is hard. Ugh.

 

[Coopah]

Making decisions about the future is hard. Ugh.

You can do it!!!

 

[SkiOtter]

Making decisions about the future is hard. Ugh.

Flip a coin?
For real tho. You figure out which option you want while the coin is in the air and are either excited or disappointed about the outcome the coin chooses