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I'm almost embarrassed to post about this since it seems so immature and pathetic, but is it super silly to try and avoid going to a vet school where your most evil enemy ends up going?

Of course this is a very premature thought as I will go to ANY school that accepts me regardless of whether this character is there or not. However, if I do with a lot of luck gain 2 acceptances... would really despising a future classmate be a legitimate reason to not go to a CVM?

I totally understand that no matter where you go, there will be people you get along with and people you don't get along with. That's life, and you have to learn how to deal. However, there is one girl who seems to actually put effort into making my life miserable. I had one seminar with her, and she would put me down in front of the whole class (to the point that our peers would be like 😱). At one point, my professor even came up to me and was like "what is up with that girl???" She's one of those people who makes friends with the "mean girls" of social situations. I'm afraid that with someone like that who is out to get me, I'll be very uncomfortable just knowing that I could end up partnered up with her in lab or something...

Especially for people in vet school already, is it possible to pretend that someone in your class doesn't exist? I mean, especially for a school with a class of 90 or so... how bad could it get if there's someone out to get you?
 
I understand what you mean and if you have no preference between different schools then sure go to another school. Don't let someone like that win by making you give up going to a school that you'd rather go to. I think in vet school it really benefits you to make friends, and hopefully someone like that would either grow up and act mature or other people would see how mean spirited they were and she will segregate herself. She'll regret it!! Be the bigger person and don't let her destroy your dreams!
 
Minnerbelle said:
I'm almost embarrassed to post about this since it seems so immature and pathetic, but is it super silly to try and avoid going to a vet school where your most evil enemy ends up going?

Of course this is a very premature thought as I will go to ANY school that accepts me regardless of whether this character is there or not. However, if I do with a lot of luck gain 2 acceptances... would really despising a future classmate be a legitimate reason to not go to a CVM?

I totally understand that no matter where you go, there will be people you get along with and people you don't get along with. That's life, and you have to learn how to deal. However, there is one girl who seems to actually put effort into making my life miserable. I had one seminar with her, and she would put me down in front of the whole class (to the point that our peers would be like 😱). At one point, my professor even came up to me and was like "what is up with that girl???" She's one of those people who makes friends with the "mean girls" of social situations. I'm afraid that with someone like that who is out to get me, I'll be very uncomfortable just knowing that I could end up partnered up with her in lab or something...

Especially for people in vet school already, is it possible to pretend that someone in your class doesn't exist? I mean, especially for a school with a class of 90 or so... how bad could it get if there's someone out to get you?
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Well hopefully if she is really rude like this it will come through in her apps or interview and the adcoms will notice and you will not have to worry about it.

If you do end up having the choice I would pick what would make you most comfortable. If you feel like you can bite your tongue and deal with her for the next 4 years and that happens to be your #1 choice of school then I would go for it. If not and you do not have a preference for which school you attend then go to the one she is not going to. Ultimately, I would not let some loser dissuade you from going to the school of your choice.
 
I deleted my posts, I don't like talking about people..but just know that I share your sentiments.
 
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Lol well I wouldn't let your arch-nemesis ruin your dreams! That just means they won!
 
if you get into two schools and you HONESTLY have no preference towards a school, then i would stay clear from her. If you love the school that she happens to get into too, im sure others in ur class will be like WTF if she ever puts you down really bad in front of everyone (hopefully then, she will be exiled mwahhaha lol anyway...)

I know what you mean though. there was a girl like that in my hs, ARG its insane how immature people are as they age. sometimes i think it gets worse than when we were kids. creepy
 
HopefulAg said:
Lol well I wouldn't let your arch-nemesis ruin your dreams! That just means they won!
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Me either. although there are some people that I despise so much that the same thought would pop into my head 😀...and it would probably be the same thing for them. We HATE each other that much. But I would just brush it off and do better than them.
 
Minnerbelle, I'm sorry you've had to deal with that. It sounds like an awful situation.

Anyway. If you both happened to get into the same school (and you were aware of it) then I would say it's a valid concern, but not to let her presence dictate where you go. There is an excellent chance that her attitude toward you, should she express it in class, would not be tolerated by the rest of your peers or by the professor--in fact, it may even be considered harassment if the situation is as extreme as you alluded to.

And to answer your question, it is possible (at least at ISU) to not have to deal with certain people in your class if you don't want to.

zeebra44 said:
Do you want to know what's super sad? I didn't apply to Iowa because a girl I really dislike was accepted there last year. I just can't stand her...she's really competitive and mean. I want to actually enjoy my environment in veterinary school, haha
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I'm sorry you felt as if you couldn't apply here because of her 🙁. Did she end up coming here? Now I'm curious if I know her.
 
If she makes it hard to focus, and it affected your grades, I would steer clear. Unless its your DREAM school. People like her aren't going to go away. At my job, there is this horrible couple that are always accusing me of lying and not delivering messages to by boss. They have yelled and hung up on me, and told my boss how I am a horrible little b!tch, All because they can't get in for a hair cut on the days they want. My boss knows they're @ss holes though. 😛 I always get upset when I have to deal with them, but, I have to do it! People can be absolutely evil! which is why I like vet med. You just have to deal with them.
 
Thanks everyone! I totally know that if I let her get between me and my dreams then I'm just letting her win... but at the same time I don't do anything to her... and I try not to piss her off as much as possible because it's more trouble than it's worth, but it's not fun when all I ever do is take it and just hope that it doesn't happen again.

She's one of those scary people who would totally get in a bar fight with someone who was talking to her SO. Sooo scary!

I have one dream school, but my chances are very slim there, and she has absolutely no chance there. She's not the greatest applicant so my worry is mostly whether she'll slip by and get into our IS.

I totally commiserate Zeebra! I almost cried the second I found out that this girl was going to be applying this cycle with me.
 
MaChien said:
If she makes it hard to focus, and it affected your grades,
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she made it hard to focus sometimes (and I almost got a heart attack every time we were randomly being assigned partners), but it didn't affect my performance. just very uncomfortable. she's just one of those intimidating characters who thrives off of scaring/bullying people.:scared:
 
Minnerbelle said:
she made it hard to focus sometimes (and I almost got a heart attack every time we were randomly being assigned partners), but it didn't affect my performance. just very uncomfortable. she's just one of those intimidating characters who thrives off of scaring/bullying people.:scared:
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I hate people like that. It's like they can't make friends like normal people, so they make enemies instead.
 
i don't think it's silly. i purposefully didn't apply to one school b/c someone i worked with who was wretched goes there. thankfully it's a school i have no interest in so it wasn't a huge loss. if it were one of the vet schools i really wanted to apply to, it would have been a really tough decision.
 
BlacKAT33 said:
guessing shes not on SDN? lol
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haha, i'm almost certain she's not. with her noxious personality, you would be able to spot her a mile away, especially on an internet forum. she gets super intense on the internet to the point it's kind of threatening. like, "what, you wanna take this outside!?" as though you would actually get together just to duke it out.
 
I understand your situation...there have been some bitnatches in my classes. If she really makes you uncomfortable and you have choice and you really don't care between two schools, go where you will feel comfortable. Just know that at ANY vet school, there will be horrible, competitive people. It is inevitable. However, if you really do like the school, don't let someone win. If you want to go there, ignore her, and RULE at the school. Good luck!
 
The larger issue that in the future this "mean girl" will be a collegue and since the world of vetmed is (relatively) small, you might have to encounter her or personalities similar in the future. I think you should pick the school best for you and if that happens to be the same school as your mortal enemy, consider speaking to her and explaining that this is a professional program and career and burning bridges is not recommended. You are deserving of attending the school and therefore on a level playing field. Also,if that fails remember that karma is a b*tch!!
 
nyanko said:
Is it UC Davis? I hope we both get in here!!
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hahaha, I would LOVE to go to UC Davis! but I pretend that I didn't even apply there since my chances are worse than abysmally slim 😛.

my reasons for choosing my dream school is based on a very personal matter, and not especially as much about the school itself. i have a cockatoo and and african grey who are in long term foster care at the best bird sanctuary, which is in aspen. they would be about a 2 hr car ride from fort collins, and therefore i'm dying to go to csu. no matter how unfeasible people tell me it is, i will drive out there every week to see them and volunteer there.

of course csu is such an awesome school in itself that i would be dying to go to regardless, but i wouldn't sell an arm + a limb (is that the phrase?) to get there if my birdies weren't there. i'm super tough when it comes to rejections and I never take it personally, and go "psssht, too bad they overlooked how awesome i am, they're totally gonna regret it," but a rejection from csu is going to hurt like a b*tch.

if i don't get into csu, the next time i will see my babies is in 5 years and i miss them terribly. they're about 15 years old now, and i haven't seen them for 2 years since i brought them there. because it would be psychological torture for them for me to pop in, cry hysterically to have them in my arms during a vacation, and leave them again for another several months/years... i'm not allowed to visit them. sigh...

if anyone's ever had a cockatoo choose you as a lifelong mate, you'll know how agonizing it is for that poor bird (especially if you have to dump them somewhere, even if it's not forever)...
 
Is she already in school, or is she applying this year? If she's already there, I honestly wouldn't worry about it to much. You only have class with your year, so the chances of you having to interact w/ her in a classroom are slim-to-none. You still might see her socially, but it's much easier to avoid situations like that than to avoid forced group work, etc.
 
Do not let her change your mind about anything.

When I started my undergrad, I did not apply to a particular program (volunteer scholars) because I knew another girl was applying to it, and I didn't like her. It was petty, but I didn't want to live in close quarters with her, didn't want to see her everyday, and just thought it'd be better if I went the other way with my education. I'd been very much into community service throughout high school and it was a big decision not to apply.

Well the girl ended up not being in the program (whether she didn't apply or was rejected, I never found out). I was so pissed that I didn't apply just because of some other person and didn't go through the program because of someone else. I've been happy with my undergraduate education without the program, but I think I would have been even happier had I gone through with it.

You might see her in vet school, but if it becomes an issue, talk to your professors there. If you get accepted into two schools and there is absolutely nothing different from the two, then you could avoid her, but don't pass up a better education because of someone else.
 
I'm sorry you felt as if you couldn't apply here because of her 🙁. Did she end up coming here? Now I'm curious if I know her.
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Same.
 
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zeebra44 said:
Yeah, she did. PM me and I can see if you know her..you probably do (she's that obnoxious).
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Ok, NOW, we need to know if s/he knows her and what s/he thinks of her.

You MUST update us on this...... pretty please 😀
 
flyhi said:
Ok, NOW, we need to know if s/he knows her and what s/he thinks of her.

You MUST update us on this...... pretty please 😀
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I am a girl, fyi.

Anyway, all I'll say is that I was a little surprised. The person in question seems nice enough (I honestly don't talk with her that much) though I have gotten a competitive vibe from her.
 
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WHOAAAAA.....wasn't expecting THAT at all......

wowzers. Wanna fight? 😀 Seriously, i don't know what to say. This is slightly awkward. I think you both seem fine.

Edit: ok, whew....i read your post too quickly also and thought YOU were the girl. Ok, much better. Yeah, your name was too hard for me to remember while i was typing. and rileyroo and i posted at the same time, otherwise, i would have gotten it.
 
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Oh! No, I meant that I am a girl 'cause flyhi wrote s/he...

That's what happens when we're a week from finals.
 
Minnerbelle said:
I'm almost embarrassed to post about this since it seems so immature and pathetic, but is it super silly to try and avoid going to a vet school where your most evil enemy ends up going?

Of course this is a very premature thought as I will go to ANY school that accepts me regardless of whether this character is there or not. However, if I do with a lot of luck gain 2 acceptances... would really despising a future classmate be a legitimate reason to not go to a CVM?

I totally understand that no matter where you go, there will be people you get along with and people you don't get along with. That's life, and you have to learn how to deal. However, there is one girl who seems to actually put effort into making my life miserable. I had one seminar with her, and she would put me down in front of the whole class (to the point that our peers would be like 😱). At one point, my professor even came up to me and was like "what is up with that girl???" She's one of those people who makes friends with the "mean girls" of social situations. I'm afraid that with someone like that who is out to get me, I'll be very uncomfortable just knowing that I could end up partnered up with her in lab or something...

Especially for people in vet school already, is it possible to pretend that someone in your class doesn't exist? I mean, especially for a school with a class of 90 or so... how bad could it get if there's someone out to get you?
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Honestly, vet school is pretty cliquey... i mean, yeah, there are 90 people in your class, but you spend 30+ hours a week in a classroom with them, + study time, plus you'll probably hang out with them in a social setting. I know everyone in my class is pretty close, everyone knows everyone elses business... and because the majority of you will become friends, she'll get shut down for being a b*tch pretty quickly. dw, theres likely to be someone nice who's just as headstrong as her in your class, who wont put up with her ****. Vet schools pretty good at weeding out the pathetic anyway... Honestly, I would try not to worry about it, and just go where you want. Because vet school is so team oriented, I would put my money on someone straightening her out pretty quickly.
 
cuitlamiztli said:
I am a girl, fyi.

Anyway, all I'll say is that I was a little surprised. The person in question seems nice enough (I honestly don't talk with her that much) though I have gotten a competitive vibe from her.
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Same.
 
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zeebra44 said:
She used to stress me out so bad ----> :scared: asking me about my test scores and plans for vet school. She'd stalk me about it..to the point where I'd avoid her at all costs..even if that meant walking a different way to class, or leaving my dorm 5 minutes later so she wouldn't follow me and pester me about how much I'd studied for upcoming exams. It's sad because she can be a decent person when she's not trying to outdo everyone around her. I understand that we have to be competitive (to a certain extent) to get where we're going in life, but there's a point where it can get unhealthy. I gave her plenty of chances, and tried to be friendly..so I did the best I could.
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Well that sounds like a wonderful situation 👎. I just never would have guessed her based off of our handful of interactions. Maybe she's better about the whole competition thing now that she's made it here or maybe I just haven't interacted with her enough to see it. Who knows?

In any case, like I said above, I'm sorry that the situation stopped you from applying here. I can totally see why it did.
 
I dunno, I don't really see anything that wrong with asking people about that stuff I guess. Maybe people think I'm annoying and super competitive too.. :idea:
 
Wow, that is a terrible situation. I have a similar arch-nemesis too, and I think I would definitely consider another school if she were in vet med. (Mercifully, she went to chiropractic school instead!) Minerbelle, I don't think you are silly at all - it is definitely a valid concern who you will be spending those 4 years with!

The vet I work for, and another vet who works with us were talking last week about how much veterinary school was reminiscent of high school. I hope to god this isn't true, because high school was a nightmare! :scared:

Can anyone weigh in on this?
 
causticus said:
Wow, that is a terrible situation. I have a similar arch-nemesis too, and I think I would definitely consider another school if she were in vet med. (Mercifully, she went to chiropractic school instead!) Minerbelle, I don't think you are silly at all - it is definitely a valid concern who you will be spending those 4 years with!

The vet I work for, and another vet who works with us were talking last week about how much veterinary school was reminiscent of high school. I hope to god this isn't true, because high school was a nightmare! :scared:

Can anyone weigh in on this?
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i hope not! i hated the hs drama and was glad to be out of it in college. i purposefully avoided sororities and other drama queens lol if this is true, i guess i'll be hanging out with the guys all the time
 
Vet school=very similar to high school. In a classroom all day everyday together, many girls, lots of drama.

Worse, since there's fewer guys in your class then what you went to high school with. Not saying that guys don't cause drama. But yeah, far more similar to high school than to undergrad. Theres been past discussions about this.
 
twelvetigers said:
More of a poopfling than a discussion, IIRC. I think I'll let that sleeping dog lie.
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How does one go about finding these threads? I have heard terrible things from one doc, but that is about it.
 
To answer the question . . . yes, this is super silly.

:3
 
twelvetigers said:
Oh my, I think this was it.

http://forums.studentdoctor.net/showthread.php?t=635104

Favorite quote of mine from that thread:

"Whatever nyan posts, she owns."

Some things never change. Anyway. I would explain how I found that, but it took me at least 15 minutes to dig it up. So, yeah.
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I skimmed through that thread and actually laughed out loud at one of my own quotes. Good to know that I still entertain myself so much over two years after the fact. :laugh:

"ffs, get over yourself. if your sphincter was any tighter it would suck in your entire lower half." indeed...
 
You're right - it was a poopfling. Reading that was exhausting (I lasted only one page). I need to grow thicker skin.
 
oh MY, that thread brought back some memories. Good thing adcoms didn't have a transcript of that in my file 😀 Nyan even called me a jackass :laugh: AND, it even led to Sumstorm agreeing with Nyan. 😱
 
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