http://bcomnm.org/admissions/prospective-students/tuition-fees/
If it is $44k, then BCOM needs to fix that on its website.
As for all your other points, it honestly depends on the individual and how he/she feels about the school. Some like the excitement of a new school, while others don't. Some will think $3000 deposit due in 30 days is fair, while others don't early in the application process. I can tell you that LECOM used to do this, until it got complaints from AACOM and stopped. CUSOM allows deposits to be due by Nov 15 (still is provisionally accredited,) which gives applicants plenty of time to see if they get other acceptances. To applicants who can have multiple acceptances for medical school, it would be a curse. I believe our opinions differ on the matter, but it is always nice to see different perspective.
I don't want to bring stats on here, but if you look at the underdog thread as well as BCOM's thread, you can get a sense of the applicant stats BCOM is looking for/willing to accept. Even if n=20, it is still about 12% of the class. Again, it is a new school, so traditionally, its average stats are lower than that of more established schools.
As for curriculum, although it matches RVU's, it still might not be exactly alike. No two schools have the same exact curriculum/grading scheme/professors/staff support, etc.
I prefer to take the more cautious route because medical education is not something I would want to take with some uncertainty involved.