Matriculating students support thread 2019

[M&L]

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I have no idea if this thread will be allowed to exist, but i thought that it may be a good idea. I feel lucky to be accepted after my third year of applying, and when i got that phone call i felt the rush of excitement. Yet, when it wore down, this big load of stress fell on me, - how to find apartment? How to do medical processing? how to get in touch with future classmates? how to network? what to wear? how to move? when to look for research? most importantly, - how to adjust to this big life changing thing? how do i fit in into the class, where majority of my classmates are in their 20s, and i am over 30? i felt like a million of questions started piling up, and no one could really understand how i felt, except people who were in my situation. So i thought that it might be a good idea to open up the thread where people who have some concerns about matriculation, and related issues can address them.
Lets see if it takes off 🙂)

 

[animalluver101]

I too have just been accepted to my state school and the one that I really wanted to go to. And I'm also a little nervous about the living situation. I'm lucky that I live close to my school because I can drive down there to look at apartments and stuff. My class also has a Facebook page and a spreadsheet for people looking for roommates. I'm probably going to go on there at some point and cold-call (actually email or text lol) people to see if they're looking for roommates. So it might be a good idea to go on your school's facebook page and post about looking for a place/roommates or even make a spreadsheet yourself and help out everyone else in your class in the process!

 

[M&L]

I too have just been accepted to my state school and the one that I really wanted to go to. And I'm also a little nervous about the living situation. I'm lucky that I live close to my school because I can drive down there to look at apartments and stuff. My class also has a Facebook page and a spreadsheet for people looking for roommates. I'm probably going to go on there at some point and cold-call (actually email or text lol) people to see if they're looking for roommates. So it might be a good idea to go on your school's facebook page and post about looking for a place/roommates or even make a spreadsheet yourself and help out everyone else in your class in the process!

do you mind sharing what school that is? yeah, the fact that you are close definitely helps. I am personally stressed, because they told me that there are no openings for august till june 1st (i want to live on my own), but i keep getting scared that somehow i wont be able to find apartment on time.

i think making a post on facebook is a great idea! also, you could try to make a post that you are looking for a room OR a roommate to get a 2 bedroom together, and meanwhile you can look for apartment complexes you like, so that when you do find a roommate you have some suggestions about apartment complexes. This is what i am doing now, - even though there are no apartments open yet, i am making a spreadsheet of apartment complexes, and call them to figure out details, so that i can decide where i want to live, and whom to call first once june 1st comes

 

[annieb_baxter]

I got into a great program in Chicago. It’s not my first choice but I’m still so happy to have a school to go too. Im nervous about the move because I moved cross country last year and to have to do it again is kind of frightening and stressful. Not to mention I’m married and living apart is not an option for us. So finding a job for him plus an affordable place to live is daunting. I’m still waiting to hear from the WL at my state schools but as of right now my plan is Chicago... I don’t know when to begin searching for apartments. My classes start August 12 so I was thinking some time in July but I’m not sure. June is shot because I’m having surgery and will be incapacitated for most of the month so that’s another stressor.

 

[M&L]

I got into a great program in Chicago. It’s not my first choice but I’m still so happy to have a school to go too. Im nervous about the move because I moved cross country last year and to have to do it again is kind of frightening and stressful. Not to mention I’m married and living apart is not an option for us. So finding a job for him plus an affordable place to live is daunting. I’m still waiting to hear from the WL at my state schools but as of right now my plan is Chicago... I don’t know when to begin searching for apartments. My classes start August 12 so I was thinking some time in July but I’m not sure. June is shot because I’m having surgery and will be incapacitated for most of the month so that’s another stressor.

I am so happy that your husband is supportive... My SO (living together) and i decided to break up.

You know what you can do, to put your mind at ease? make a list of apartment complexes where you think you want to live, call them, and prioritize them! i think once you have an idea which one is your top choice, you will feel much better! i did that, and actually put myself on the wait list for a cheap floorplan in one of the complexes, - you dont have to pay anything to be put on the waitlist, and it doesnt tie you legally. It just means that they would call you first.
I am sorry about your surgery. That does sound stressful. But i am sure once you have at least a brief idea where you want to live, you will feel better.

 

[1nside]

I wish you a successful surgery annie and that is crazy about breaking up mmas 🙁 This part of the process is daunting for us all in different ways and for our loved ones as well. I think that is a good idea to lay the groundwork with possible options to put yourself in an easier position to relocate. I'm going to work on a spreadsheet tonight as well as re-writing my amcas content. I hope the housing and job stuff work out!

 

[M&L]

I wish you a successful surgery annie and that is crazy about breaking up mmas 🙁 This part of the process is daunting for us all in different ways and for our loved ones as well. I think that is a good idea to lay the groundwork with possible options to put yourself in an easier position to relocate. I'm going to work on a spreadsheet tonight as well as re-writing my amcas content. I hope the housing and job stuff work out!

thank you . i am not upset about breaking up though. the tough thing is to continue living together (for financial reasons) even though we already decided to break up. that's the tough part. But the way i look at it, life is a series of choices. My family is literally half a world away (i know it will sound weird, but sometimes i close my eyes and try to remember what my mom smells like), and i have been apart form them for 12 years. My brother committed suicide a 1.5 years ago, and i couldnt help him (i am a behavioral health technician certified in traumatic even management), my mentor died from cancer, my grandmother died from cancer, - all of these things are hard. Being in pathology department for an internship, and assisting in autopsies, and see that loss of life was tough. Applying to medical school for 3 years in a row was tough too. Breaking up with a guy that you've been dating for a little over a year is not tough. I know it might be harsh, but it is really a matter of perspective. He made his choice, i made mine. Thats it. For me pursuing a dream of being a doctor (that ive been working hard on for 6 years) is more important. I want to have a family, and kids one day (maybe adopted, considering that i am older). But i'd rather be single and childless for the rest of my life, but be a doctor who helps people. I do hope to meet someone that i have more in common with, but living in a relationship that is full of resentment and jealousy of success is not a healthy option (my favorite statement: "you got LUCKY and got into medical school". LUCKY?? ive been busting my a** for years!).

 

[1nside]

I understand. That is not a healthy relationship and this process brought that to light. You need someone to support you through ups and downs as a team instead of the division that resentment or insecurity or different life goals/needs brings. All that you have been through is excruciating to hear about and that is Your life. But here you are after all that hard work, through pain and sacrifice, where you are meant to be, and ready to become an amazing doctor that will be able to empathize and relate with patients and not take any of it for granted. Nothing can stop you and the community supports you!

 

[M&L]

I understand. That is not a healthy relationship and this process brought that to light. You need someone to support you through ups and downs as a team instead of the division that resentment or insecurity or different life goals/needs brings. All that you have been through is excruciating to hear about and that is Your life. But here you are after all that hard work, through pain and sacrifice, where you are meant to be, and ready to become an amazing doctor that will be able to empathize and relate with patients and not take any of it for granted. Nothing can stop you and the community supports you!

I think life is too short , you know ? And it is wonderful , and hard . And all you need to do is try your best , and work really hard , and help those who need help . The rest of the stuff sorts itself out .

 

[ricksimmonsrafowens]

any single ladies or dudes you will meet so many handsome, smart, dedicated, mature people in med school (classmates, nurses, residents, etc) that you will not have issues finding someone to love and share your life with and they will understand what you're going through

just make sure you start the relationship after you complete any professional obligation toward the person you'll be dating (ie you won't be evaluating them and they won't be evaluating you)

 

[M&L]

any single ladies or dudes you will meet so many handsome, smart, dedicated, mature people in med school (classmates, nurses, residents, etc) that you will not have issues finding someone to love and share your life with and they will understand what you're going through

just make sure you start the relationship after you complete any professional obligation toward the person you'll be dating (ie you won't be evaluating them and they won't be evaluating you)

So there is hope . Hahaha .

 

[Pharaoh95]

Super stoked to be accepted to my top choice school off of the alternate list last month and just recently selected the commit to enroll option, so this all seems pretty real now. Thankfully I will be in a city I'm familiar with and with family nearby so there won't be much stress with regards to moving in and getting settled. But I am a bit concerned about being "rusty" and "out of it" when classes start. This is my second year out of school and I haven't done anything even remotely intellectually stimulating this entire time, so I don't know what the transition will be like. I also don't want to lose myself during med school. Back when I was studying for the MCAT, juggling a bunch of extracurriculars, taking full course loads of upper-level science courses, and preparing my med school apps, I started to isolate myself socially. I lost most of my friends and became a person I wasn't happy with. After that experience, I told myself that no matter how bad it gets, I will make time for hobbies, social life, and continue to prioritize mental health and well-being. I hope I will be able to abide by that in med school.

Other than that, I'm just taking it one step at a time. Things like making friends, finding research, and just generally adapting to this "big life changing thing" will all come with time, I believe. Just be present to the moment and don't stress yourself out over the small stuff. We're all in this together 🙂

 

[Peter Pan.]

thank you . i am not upset about breaking up though. the tough thing is to continue living together (for financial reasons) even though we already decided to break up. that's the tough part. But the way i look at it, life is a series of choices. My family is literally half a world away (i know it will sound weird, but sometimes i close my eyes and try to remember what my mom smells like), and i have been apart form them for 12 years. My brother committed suicide a 1.5 years ago, and i couldnt help him (i am a behavioral health technician certified in traumatic even management), my mentor died from cancer, my grandmother died from cancer, - all of these things are hard. Being in pathology department for an internship, and assisting in autopsies, and see that loss of life was tough. Applying to medical school for 3 years in a row was tough too. Breaking up with a guy that you've been dating for a little over a year is not tough. I know it might be harsh, but it is really a matter of perspective. He made his choice, i made mine. Thats it. For me pursuing a dream of being a doctor (that ive been working hard on for 6 years) is more important. I want to have a family, and kids one day (maybe adopted, considering that i am older). But i'd rather be single and childless for the rest of my life, but be a doctor who helps people. I do hope to meet someone that i have more in common with, but living in a relationship that is full of resentment and jealousy of success is not a healthy option (my favorite statement: "you got LUCKY and got into medical school". LUCKY?? ive been busting my a** for years!).

I think you need something more than a support thread on SDN. Hope you feel better.

 

[M&L]

I think you need something more than a support thread on SDN. Hope you feel better.

oh, you misunderstand me. I am fine. I am very happy and excited over the next chapter in my life. What i DO need is to find a cheap way to move all my stuff to Norfolk 🙂. I got a quote from movers and they said 1200. My stuff doesnt even cost that. hahaha. So i decided to just get rid of the big stuff, get a trailer in Uhaul, hook it to my friend's Bronco. we'll see how it works out....

 

[M&L]

Super stoked to be accepted to my top choice school off of the alternate list last month and just recently selected the commit to enroll option, so this all seems pretty real now. Thankfully I will be in a city I'm familiar with and with family nearby so there won't be much stress with regards to moving in and getting settled. But I am a bit concerned about being "rusty" and "out of it" when classes start. This is my second year out of school and I haven't done anything even remotely intellectually stimulating this entire time, so I don't know what the transition will be like. I also don't want to lose myself during med school. Back when I was studying for the MCAT, juggling a bunch of extracurriculars, taking full course loads of upper-level science courses, and preparing my med school apps, I started to isolate myself socially. I lost most of my friends and became a person I wasn't happy with. After that experience, I told myself that no matter how bad it gets, I will make time for hobbies, social life, and continue to prioritize mental health and well-being. I hope I will be able to abide by that in med school.

Other than that, I'm just taking it one step at a time. Things like making friends, finding research, and just generally adapting to this "big life changing thing" will all come with time, I believe. Just be present to the moment and don't stress yourself out over the small stuff. We're all in this together 🙂

I had a 3 year gap between finishing my masters and starting my second bachelors in chemistry and it WAS tough got about a month . Just to get in a habit of studying . Maybe you could “get a feel for it “ by starting to watch Video lectures a few weeks before ? Not really to LEARN anything , but to develop confidence that you can do it . A personally think that’s what I am gonna do once I am done with these finals . But I know that some people advise against it . The reason I think I will work for me is because I JUST finished advanced anatomy and physiology , and I can build on that .

As far as socializing in Med school - I am a little concerned about being able to find ppl I can relate to , since I am in my low 30s

 

[annieb_baxter]

I am so happy that your husband is supportive... My SO (living together) and i decided to break up.

You know what you can do, to put your mind at ease? make a list of apartment complexes where you think you want to live, call them, and prioritize them! i think once you have an idea which one is your top choice, you will feel much better! i did that, and actually put myself on the wait list for a cheap floorplan in one of the complexes, - you dont have to pay anything to be put on the waitlist, and it doesnt tie you legally. It just means that they would call you first.
I am sorry about your surgery. That does sound stressful. But i am sure once you have at least a brief idea where you want to live, you will feel better.

Thanks! I am blessed that he’s so supportive. He’s a lawyer so he understands the sacrifice and the demands of graduate education. I’m sorry about your breakup! That sucks a lot!

I’ll definitely start looking! Where we live is also dependent on where he gets a job. He’s applied a few different places so we’d have to find a suburb in between the two.. I have no interested in living in Chicago proper so we’ll have to scope our options out 🙂!

 

[scribbles&rambles]

So glad I stumbled upon this thread!

All my friends matriculating in the fall have been super excited, but I'm crazy nervous and dealing with a lot of imposter syndrome... so much so that I'm still worried my acceptance offer might be rescinded at any moment. It's also been two years since I've done school and the last time was very stressful and filled with many stumbles. I'm lucky enough to be attending my state medical school, so I won't need to worry about moving logistics and will have my family as an immediate support system--so part of me knows that I'm overthinking things and should just see where things take me. But I'm still so worried about what med school will be like, and my nerves seem to be getting worse with each day.

 

[M&L]

So glad I stumbled upon this thread!

All my friends matriculating in the fall have been super excited, but I'm crazy nervous and dealing with a lot of imposter syndrome... so much so that I'm still worried my acceptance offer might be rescinded at any moment. It's also been two years since I've done school and the last time was very stressful and filled with many stumbles. I'm lucky enough to be attending my state medical school, so I won't need to worry about moving logistics and will have my family as an immediate support system--so part of me knows that I'm overthinking things and should just see where things take me. But I'm still so worried about what med school will be like, and my nerves seem to be getting worse with each day.

oh, maaannnn... i felt like this for a while, but then it just went away. I still have a recurring fear that i will accidentally push "withdraw application" button on my school portal. This is RIDICULOUS, but i am so terrified of it. hahaha. so i get it. I also had this thought for a while that they all just made a mistake (like, it was administrative error) that i got accepted, and they will call me, and tell me that they decided to not matriculate me after all. What are your stats, if you dont mind me asking?

 

[Matthew9Thirtyfive]

oh, maaannnn... i felt like this for a while, but then it just went away. I still have a recurring fear that i will accidentally push "withdraw application" button on my school portal. This is RIDICULOUS, but i am so terrified of it. hahaha. so i get it. I also had this thought for a while that they all just made a mistake (like, it was administrative error) that i got accepted, and they will call me, and tell me that they decided to not matriculate me after all. What are your stats, if you dont mind me asking?

The imposter syndrome is double for me because not only am I about to start med school, I also commission soon. After being enlisted for 7 years, wearing an officer uniform seems super wrong lol.

 

[animalluver101]

After that experience, I told myself that no matter how bad it gets, I will make time for hobbies, social life, and continue to prioritize mental health and well-being.

Same, I was so focused on doing well in my classes during undergrad so that I could get into med school that I basically forgot to make friends haha. Now I’m two years out of school and almost all of the friends that I’ve made in the last 6 years have scattered all over the state/world. I keep telling myself that I have to get out of my comfort zone when I start med school and actually try new things/meet new people!

 

[M&L]

The imposter syndrome is double for me because not only am I about to start med school, I also commission soon. After being enlisted for 7 years, wearing an officer uniform seems super wrong lol.

oh yeah!!! you will definitely feel weird for a while. hahahhaa. i would do training for half an hour in the morning, - when you wear your uniform, stand in front of the mirror, and keep repeating to yourself: i am an officer, i am an officer... 🙂))

 

[Matthew9Thirtyfive]

oh yeah!!! you will definitely feel weird for a while. hahahhaa. i would do training for half an hour in the morning, - when you wear your uniform, stand in front of the mirror, and keep repeating to yourself: i am an officer, i am an officer... 🙂))

I just have to remember when someone salutes me that I have to salute back and that they aren’t saluting some officer behind me or something haha.

 

[M&L]

Same, I was so focused on doing well in my classes during undergrad so that I could get into med school that I basically forgot to make friends haha. Now I’m two years out of school and almost all of the friends that I’ve made in the last 6 years have scattered all over the state/world. I keep telling myself that I have to get out of my comfort zone when I start med school and actually try new things/meet new people!

oh my god... this is hilarious. This is exactly my life, actually. I have two friends, - one of them is my ex (a LONG time ago), and another is this girl that i was stationed with in the Army (those are the kind of bonds that are hard to break🙂). She is actually coming to my white coat ceremony 🙂

 

[M&L]

I just have to remember when someone salutes me that I have to salute back and that they aren’t saluting some officer behind me or something haha.

yeah, i can definitely see you messing it up a few times, just from habit!

 

[scribbles&rambles]

oh, maaannnn... i felt like this for a while, but then it just went away. I still have a recurring fear that i will accidentally push "withdraw application" button on my school portal. This is RIDICULOUS, but i am so terrified of it. hahaha. so i get it. I also had this thought for a while that they all just made a mistake (like, it was administrative error) that i got accepted, and they will call me, and tell me that they decided to not matriculate me after all. What are your stats, if you dont mind me asking?

Don't mind you asking at all! I think the breakdown was something like 515 MCAT, ~3.5 sGPA, and ~3.7 cumulative GPA?

It's nice to hear I'm not the only one who feels the imposter syndrome and fear that things somehow won't work out. Because among those I know, I've been feeling like I'm the only one with these worries. Rational me realizes how ridiculous I'm being, but I've always been one of those people who can't 100% wrap my mind around exciting things happening to me. I likely won't believe that I'm matriculating until I'm sitting at my white coat ceremony, haha.

 

[M&L]

Don't mind you asking at all! I think the breakdown was something like 515 MCAT, ~3.5 sGPA, and ~3.7 cumulative GPA?

It's nice to hear I'm not the only one who feels the imposter syndrome and fear that things somehow won't work out. Because among those I know, I've been feeling like I'm the only one with these worries. Rational me realizes how ridiculous I'm being, but I've always been one of those people who can't 100% wrap my mind around exciting things happening to me. I likely won't believe that I'm matriculating until I'm sitting at my white coat ceremony, haha.

look, you have VERY strong stats! you DEFINITELY are capable of handling medical school curriculum. Granted it will take you a few weeks to figure it out (as it will EVERYONE), but you will be fine!
and you are definitely not the only one 🙂 i will even dare to say that i think majority of people probably feel the same, they are just scared to admit it (to others and/or to themselves). I think once you move, go to orientation, put on that white coat, you will feel much better, and it will "become real". For now, just remember, - medical school admissions is a long, multi step process. And you got in! which means that THEY believed that you can do it. And those people have been doing this for a long time!

 

[scribbles&rambles]

look, you have VERY strong stats! you DEFINITELY are capable of handling medical school curriculum. Granted it will take you a few weeks to figure it out (as it will EVERYONE), but you will be fine!
and you are definitely not the only one 🙂 i will even dare to say that i think majority of people probably feel the same, they are just scared to admit it (to others and/or to themselves). I think once you move, go to orientation, put on that white coat, you will feel much better, and it will "become real". For now, just remember, - medical school admissions is a long, multi step process. And you got in! which means that THEY believed that you can do it. And those people have been doing this for a long time!

Thank you so much for the encouragement; it's helped me feel a bit better about everything. Your future classmates, patients, and colleagues are lucky to have you on their team!

 

[southpaw3]

I am so happy that your husband is supportive... My SO (living together) and i decided to break up.

You know what you can do, to put your mind at ease? make a list of apartment complexes where you think you want to live, call them, and prioritize them! i think once you have an idea which one is your top choice, you will feel much better! i did that, and actually put myself on the wait list for a cheap floorplan in one of the complexes, - you dont have to pay anything to be put on the waitlist, and it doesnt tie you legally. It just means that they would call you first.
I am sorry about your surgery. That does sound stressful. But i am sure once you have at least a brief idea where you want to live, you will feel better.

I'm so sorry to hear that you and your SO broke up :/ It's hard when careers and relationships don't align. Thankfully you'll be so busy with med school you won't have time to think about relationships, haha.

I'm torn because I'm super excited to be starting medical school, but I'm devastated that I'll be living ~1,000 miles away from my husband. Every time I tell people that I got accepted to my dream medical school, I have to follow it up with the bummer news about living apart from my husband. Thankfully it'll only be for a year, but it does put a major dampener on my first year of school.

 

[M&L]

I'm so sorry to hear that you and your SO broke up :/ It's hard when careers and relationships don't align. Thankfully you'll be so busy with med school you won't have time to think about relationships, haha.

I'm torn because I'm super excited to be starting medical school, but I'm devastated that I'll be living ~1,000 miles away from my husband. Every time I tell people that I got accepted to my dream medical school, I have to follow it up with the bummer news about living apart from my husband. Thankfully it'll only be for a year, but it does put a major dampener on my first year of school.

Yeah, this is so hard. But you know what? You are doing something not just for yourself, but for your whole family, you know? you are working on something that will greatly improve the life of your whole family. You are investing yourself for both of you! And there is thanksgiving, winter break, and then summer break. You can do this!

 

[teenyfish]

I'm so sorry to hear that you and your SO broke up :/ It's hard when careers and relationships don't align. Thankfully you'll be so busy with med school you won't have time to think about relationships, haha.

I'm torn because I'm super excited to be starting medical school, but I'm devastated that I'll be living ~1,000 miles away from my husband. Every time I tell people that I got accepted to my dream medical school, I have to follow it up with the bummer news about living apart from my husband. Thankfully it'll only be for a year, but it does put a major dampener on my first year of school.

Congrats on getting into your dream school! I'm so sorry about having to live apart from your husband 🙁 I am in the same spot, my SO and I will be living apart for the first year, which will be very difficult as we're going to be planning a wedding during that time. Thankfully we are only a short plane ride away, but it does put a cloud over my excitement for starting. I'll be getting my own apartment so I don't have to worry about bothering roommates when he stays for extended visits, but that also means I'll have to scrounge up some furniture and home supplies as well! We merged all of our stuff two years ago, and now we have to separate back out again!

 

[Matthew9Thirtyfive]

I'm so sorry to hear that you and your SO broke up :/ It's hard when careers and relationships don't align. Thankfully you'll be so busy with med school you won't have time to think about relationships, haha.

I'm torn because I'm super excited to be starting medical school, but I'm devastated that I'll be living ~1,000 miles away from my husband. Every time I tell people that I got accepted to my dream medical school, I have to follow it up with the bummer news about living apart from my husband. Thankfully it'll only be for a year, but it does put a major dampener on my first year of school.

Do you have kids?

 

[M&L]

For those who need to buy scrubs - apparently Walmart has nice selection of cheap ones . Someone also recommended me to get something dark , with a more synthetic fibers vs cotton (smell doesn’t linger as much )

 

[annieb_baxter]

For those who need to buy scrubs - apparently Walmart has nice selection of cheap ones . Someone also recommended me to get something dark , with a more synthetic fibers vs cotton (smell doesn’t linger as much )

I second this. All my friends said they burned their scrubs after anatomy lab. So buy cheap ones for that. Or if you have an old pair lying around from a previous job that isnt in great condition use those. Save the nice ones for other things!

 

[nrs2doc]

I'm so sorry to hear that you and your SO broke up :/ It's hard when careers and relationships don't align. Thankfully you'll be so busy with med school you won't have time to think about relationships, haha.

I'm torn because I'm super excited to be starting medical school, but I'm devastated that I'll be living ~1,000 miles away from my husband. Every time I tell people that I got accepted to my dream medical school, I have to follow it up with the bummer news about living apart from my husband. Thankfully it'll only be for a year, but it does put a major dampener on my first year of school.

That must be very tough for you to live apart from your husband for that long. It really puts things in perspective for me because as a wife and mother, I am lucky to be admitted to my state school, but will have to drive for 1.5 hours to school and my school's curriculum requires us to be at school at least 3 days a week. I feel very blessed about this opportunity and can't complain.

 

[southpaw3]

Congrats on getting into your dream school! I'm so sorry about having to live apart from your husband 🙁 I am in the same spot, my SO and I will be living apart for the first year, which will be very difficult as we're going to be planning a wedding during that time. Thankfully we are only a short plane ride away, but it does put a cloud over my excitement for starting. I'll be getting my own apartment so I don't have to worry about bothering roommates when he stays for extended visits, but that also means I'll have to scrounge up some furniture and home supplies as well! We merged all of our stuff two years ago, and now we have to separate back out again!

I totally relate since my husband and I have been living together for 2 years as well. It's weird to set up an apartment for just one year apart. Perhaps you both could live very minimally and split things up as much as possible without buying much new stuff? It's such an awkward predicament. Oh man, and wedding planning during that time will be tough, but a good reason to make time for one another! We can do this 🙂

 

[southpaw3]

Yeah, this is so hard. But you know what? You are doing something not just for yourself, but for your whole family, you know? you are working on something that will greatly improve the life of your whole family. You are investing yourself for both of you! And there is thanksgiving, winter break, and then summer break. You can do this!

Thanks so much for your encouragement! You're so right. It's all about perspective!

 

[southpaw3]

That must be very tough for you to live apart from your husband for that long. It really puts things in perspective for me because as a wife and mother, I am lucky to be admitted to my state school, but will have to drive for 1.5 hours to school and my school's curriculum requires us to be at school at least 3 days a week. I feel very blessed about this opportunity and can't complain.

Everyone's situation is different, so don't feel bad about being upset about a 1.5-hour commute. That's tough and not super desirable, so I completely understand why you would be upset about that. It's nice that you will get to live with your family, but there's nothing wrong with being bummed about the commute. Will you be able to move closer to school at some point, or are you tied down to your current location?

 

[southpaw3]

For those who need to buy scrubs - apparently Walmart has nice selection of cheap ones . Someone also recommended me to get something dark , with a more synthetic fibers vs cotton (smell doesn’t linger as much )

Do you know if people wear their own scrubs for 3rd and 4th year, or do they usually use the hospital's scrubs?

 

[southpaw3]

Do you have kids?

Thankfully we don't have kids at this point, so it'll just be use doing long distance for the next year.

 

[M&L]

Do you know if people wear their own scrubs for 3rd and 4th year, or do they usually use the hospital's scrubs?

No idea ... I can’t even imagine thinking this far . Hahahahaha

 

[M&L]

ok guys, i couldnt sleep at all. Have been staring at the ceiling since 3 am, and finally decided to get up. 🙂 stress level is at all time highest. Today is my last exam (still have 2 project due over the next few days, but it is my last exam). It is advanced anatomy and physiology - digestive and reproductive. If i get an A for this exam, i will get an A in the class.... NO PRESSURE.... this professor is known to not cut any slack, - there is no curve, no nothing. you either do it, or you dont 🙂 hahaha. As stressful as it is though, I know medical school will be harder, so i am grateful that i had a chance to "ride with training wheels on" for a bit. hahaha

 

[Matthew9Thirtyfive]

ok guys, i couldnt sleep at all. Have been staring at the ceiling since 3 am, and finally decided to get up. 🙂 stress level is at all time highest. Today is my last exam (still have 2 project due over the next few days, but it is my last exam). It is advanced anatomy and physiology - digestive and reproductive. If i get an A for this exam, i will get an A in the class.... NO PRESSURE.... this professor is known to not cut any slack, - there is no curve, no nothing. you either do it, or you dont 🙂 hahaha. As stressful as it is though, I know medical school will be harder, so i am grateful that i had a chance to "ride with training wheels on" for a bit. hahaha

Weird. My last exam was yesterday. In graduate anatomy and physiology. On digestion and repro. Lol.

Good luck!

 

[scribbles&rambles]

ok guys, i couldnt sleep at all. Have been staring at the ceiling since 3 am, and finally decided to get up. 🙂 stress level is at all time highest. Today is my last exam (still have 2 project due over the next few days, but it is my last exam). It is advanced anatomy and physiology - digestive and reproductive. If i get an A for this exam, i will get an A in the class.... NO PRESSURE.... this professor is known to not cut any slack, - there is no curve, no nothing. you either do it, or you dont 🙂 hahaha. As stressful as it is though, I know medical school will be harder, so i am grateful that i had a chance to "ride with training wheels on" for a bit. hahaha

Good luck!!!

 

[nrs2doc]

Everyone's situation is different, so don't feel bad about being upset about a 1.5-hour commute. That's tough and not super desirable, so I completely understand why you would be upset about that. It's nice that you will get to live with your family, but there's nothing wrong with being bummed about the commute. Will you be able to move closer to school at some point, or are you tied down to your current location?

Our house is paid off, my kids have acclimated to my city (school, gymnastics, dance, karate etc) and i want to keep their lives as stable as possible. They support me and are very proud of me for doing this, but my oldest daughter has been praying that i don't move to a med school out of my state and I guess her prayers were answered. Occasionally, I might have to spend the night with friends i know in the area during exam periods, but to put things in perspective, my husband's commute to work in the last 10+ years has been about an hour (on a good day, one way) so .... I think i can do it. I have began familiarizing myself with my school's curriculum and getting organized with anki etc. and plan to listen to audio lectures during my long drive.

 

[M&L]

Weird. My last exam was yesterday. In graduate anatomy and physiology. On digestion and repro. Lol.

Good luck!

Spooky!!!🙂

 

[deleted967981]

Our house is paid off, my kids have acclimated to my city (school, gymnastics, dance, karate etc) and i want to keep their lives as stable as possible. They support me and are very proud of me for doing this, but my oldest daughter has been praying that i don't move to a med school out of my state and I guess her prayers were answered. Occasionally, I might have to spend the night with friends i know in the area during exam periods, but to put things in perspective, my husband's commute to work in the last 10+ years has been about an hour (on a good day, one way) so .... I think i can do it. I have began familiarizing myself with my school's curriculum and getting organized with anki etc. and plan to listen to audio lectures during my long drive.

I’m married with kids too, and my kids have been praying that I DO get into an OOS school. They are so excited to move. Even the fact that we’re selling our house and renting an apartment half the size isn’t phasing them much (in theory). I feel super blessed to have their support, with a little ‘mom guilt’ that I’m moving my family 1,000 miles for something that’s technically unnecessary.

 

[nrs2doc]

I’m married with kids too, and my kids have been praying that I DO get into an OOS school. They are so excited to move. Even the fact that we’re selling our house and renting an apartment half the size isn’t phasing them much (in theory). I feel super blessed to have their support, with a little ‘mom guilt’ that I’m moving my family 1,000 miles for something that’s technically unnecessary.

Hahaha different strokes for different folks. Kids adjust easily, so i'm sure they will be fine. Mom guilt never goes away no matter what, lol. We are doing this for us and our family and it will all work out at the end. More power to you.

 

[Matthew9Thirtyfive]

I’m married with kids too, and my kids have been praying that I DO get into an OOS school. They are so excited to move. Even the fact that we’re selling our house and renting an apartment half the size isn’t phasing them much (in theory). I feel super blessed to have their support, with a little ‘mom guilt’ that I’m moving my family 1,000 miles for something that’s technically unnecessary.

My kids have moved 7 times in 7 years and would like to spend more than 2 years in a place lol. They’re happy we’re only moving 30 mins away.

 

[ciestar]

Do you know if people wear their own scrubs for 3rd and 4th year, or do they usually use the hospital's scrubs?

They were provided for rotations that we needed them.

 

[M&L]

Weird. My last exam was yesterday. In graduate anatomy and physiology. On digestion and repro. Lol.

Good luck!

I did it!!! the final grades are in!! i got A- for the course!!!!!! (breath, breath)