It was among the most difficult decisions of my life, but what it really came down to was that I didn't see myself being happy living some of the last years of my youth in Long Island. Even though it's only 1-2 hours away from the city I don't think I'd have time to get out there more than once a month, and even then it's already lost much of its appeal to me because I've lived here for so long.
Initially Stony was my top choice of all the places I interviewed because it's a strong school and the cost was relatively low. But the whole time I was on the waitlist I found myself only half-hoping that I would get in (how do you weigh crushing debt against semi-crushing debt + probable misery?). I'd been looking forward to a fresh start at Tulane, where I planned to go if Stony didn't come through.
Then I got the call. I could barely believe it because I'd interviewed late in the season, and neither of my interviews were particularly great. Surprise quickly turned into surprisingly deep sadness about saying goodbye to Tulane.
My significant other suggested I try using my situation as leverage. With very low expectations, I called Tulane and told them what was up. Within 30 minutes they had a formal scholarship offer on the table (apparently it's that easy?). It's still the more expensive option but much less so.
Despite the obvious issues with Tulane I'm attracted by the opportunities it presents, the laid back attitude of students, and the excitement of being in a completely new environment. I figure that even if I end up hating it, that'd just be more reason for me to focus on my work. Maybe I'll be kicking myself in a few months, but I'd have more regret if I never took the chance.
I know the seat will go to some awesome person who will thrive at Stony Brook! Good luck guys.